Any Ideas?

[juzzi]

Hello Everyone

Well, I'll get straight to it...

Me and my BF Mark have been together for 4 months today It's going really well, and we both feel that this is definitely a marriage-headed relationship.

Thing is, although my BF was raised in a Christian household, he's not what you might call a "born-again" Christian. As in, his family would go to church, but their Christianity isn't a lifestyle, it's more something to do on a Sunday if/when they have the time for it (Don't get me wrong, his family are great, but they're just not walking as closely with God as they maybe could be).

So Mark's been coming to my church with me since we've been together, and he's come along such a lot, it's fantastic. But it's just that, although I know he's been confirmed, he hasn't made a proper full-on commitment to God (He said himself that when he was confirmed, he wasn't totally doing it because he wanted to, more because he felt he had to).

I also haven't spoken to him much about the Holy Spirit, and I'm a bit worried in case one Sunday, the Holy Spirit decides to come down and he gets freaked out cos he doesn't know what's going on. The church he was bought up in was Anglican, and my church is maybe what you might call a "Free Church" - if you had to categorise it, I suppose you'd call it Charismatic. (Just to be clear, it doesn't really have anything to do with denomination, but I'm aware that there are some slight differences between the two )

So has anyone got any advice on how I could approach these couple of issues, without making my BF feel condemned or a bad Christian?? I really want to say it in an understandable and loving way, so that he knows just how much God can be involved in our lives.

Anything anyone has to offer would be great, thank you

Thanks for taking the time to read this, I know it's a bit long!!!

xx

 

[-Kyriaki-]

try just discussing your faith with him, what you believe etc. start with general things, and then work into specifics as you feel it's right. if you keep it as a discussion about theology or doctrine (not an argument! unless it's really needed, ie blatant heresy) then it's not likely to be seen as you criticising him.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

Lol. I once took my bf to a Assembly of God church that believes firmly in speaking in tongues, etc. He grew up Catholic. Needless to say, he said that it was uncomfortable. I understand though. I feel a bit uncomfortable going to Catholic church because of their tradtions and things, etc.

You could just bring it up with him; talk about it and what he thinks.

 

[Inperfected]

Quite honestly, communication is what needs to happen. You need to explain what can happen at your church, and how you find that... Explain to him about the holy spirit and how whe moves at your church.
Remember God is the first and foremost in your life, remember that, and you will be able to speak about it more clearly.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

The main issue here is that your bf hasn't made a commitment to Christ. Just because he grew up in a Christian church it doesn't make him a Christian, nor does baptism or confirmation. Just like standing in a garage doesn't make someone a car. So it does concern me that you're going to a spirit-filled church, but you're talking about heading towards marriage with someone who is not saved.

I'm assuming that you like the rest of us who have ever ended up in this situation, are going to continue to date him. If so, do let him know about what he might see in your service and let it be a springboard to talking about what he is missing. Pray and ask your church to pray for his salvation. There is nothing more important. Get one of those spirit-filled people praying over him. I will pray now. Please do not be unequally yoked. He cannot take his place as spiritual leader in the family if he has nothing to lead with.