Any Ex-Homosexuals Here?

ArtisticAthlete · Jan 6, 2009

Hola!

So, just like my thread title says...any ex-homosexuals here? I'm sure there are...chime in on this thread, por favor!

Basically, I'm struggling w/ the issue of "Is homosexuality wrong?". Currently, I don't have a gf (I've only had one and that was a couple of years ago) but I feel like I'm at a crossroads. Will I con't down the homosexual rd or the so-called "straight" road. I've never considered myself straight b/c I can't see myself in a relationship w/ a guy. So, this is why I made this thread...did you guys feel the same way but w/ much prayer you can do things you never thought you could do?

I would love to get married and have children (if I was 'that' girl) but I don't see myself meeting a guy and it developing into anything more than friendship sooo...

All responses welcome. Thanks!

Criada · Jan 6, 2009

Not an ex-homosexual.. but one who is married to a man and has been for 17 years... with 4 children.
I think that the Bible is fairly clear that homosexual activity is a sin.
But... having been convinced that marriage was a good idea, and that God would change me if I was obedient in that, I can tell you that 18 years later, He hasn't yet.

There are blessings.. I wouldn't be without my children, and my husband is a very wonderful man, but I would be lying if I said it was easy.
I can 'do things'... but... in many ways it doesn't feel right.

I would advise you to keep praying and waiting.. i believe that God *can* change people.. but, don't do anything until He has done so!

I am praying for you, sweetie, and if you want to talk, please PM me.

Bellicus · Jan 6, 2009

I've talked to a guy on the forum that feel he is really a new creature in Christ, and that believed that it is his sinful nature and not sexual orientation that is the problem, and by that it is possible to break the bonds to his sinful nature because of what Jesus did on the cross. Of course the sinful nature will always be there as long as we live, but as Christians it is possible to live free from chains. I can't really say if marriage with the opposite sex would be a success or not, I guess this is something people will have to judge for themselves individually. But I am sure of that nothing is impossible for God.

Loving monster · Jan 6, 2009

ArtisticAthlete said:
Hola!

So, just like my thread title says...any ex-homosexuals here? I'm sure there are...chime in on this thread, por favor!

Basically, I'm struggling w/ the issue of "Is homosexuality wrong?". Currently, I don't have a gf (I've only had one and that was a couple of years ago) but I feel like I'm at a crossroads. Will I con't down the homosexual rd or the so-called "straight" road. I've never considered myself straight b/c I can't see myself in a relationship w/ a guy. So, this is why I made this thread...did you guys feel the same way but w/ much prayer you can do things you never thought you could do?

I would love to get married and have children (if I was 'that' girl) but I don't see myself meeting a guy and it developing into anything more than friendship sooo...

All responses welcome. Thanks!

Since I was told not to support anything like that on the forums I will say this. Neither road made me happy. I am a struggling Bi-sexual, I don't know how it is for you because I was weak and wanted acceptance at any cost. Short story Shorter, I am still alone and still unloved. Prayer didn't help me, I stilll have the urges I just have the overwhelming lonliness to keep me from acting on it.

ArtisticAthlete · Jan 6, 2009

Criada said:
Not an ex-homosexual.. but one who is married to a man and has been for 17 years... with 4 children.
I think that the Bible is fairly clear that homosexual activity is a sin.
But... having been convinced that marriage was a good idea, and that God would change me if I was obedient in that, I can tell you that 18 years later, He hasn't yet.

There are blessings.. I wouldn't be without my children, and my husband is a very wonderful man, but I would be lying if I said it was easy.
I can 'do things'... but... in many ways it doesn't feel right.

I would advise you to keep praying and waiting.. i believe that God *can* change people.. but, don't do anything until He has done so!

I am praying for you, sweetie, and if you want to talk, please PM me.

Hi.

I was going to PM you but I guess I need at least 15 posts...I only have 4. Darn.

Anyway, I'm a tad confused by your post. Are you saying you've had homosexual desires but you got married anyway, and they haven't gone away? By "one"...do you mean you currently consider yourself a homosexual but you're married? The latter may not be true b/c after that, you said the Bible states it's a sin. So yeah...I'm confused Lol.

Criada · Jan 6, 2009

ArtisticAthlete said:
Hi.

I was going to PM you but I guess I need at least 15 posts...I only have 4. Darn.

Anyway, I'm a tad confused by your post. Are you saying you've had homosexual desires but you got married anyway, and they haven't gone away? By "one"...do you mean you currently consider yourself a homosexual but you're married? The latter may not be true b/c after that, you said the Bible states it's a sin. So yeah...I'm confused Lol.

You should be able to PM staff..
I'll PM you and see if you can reply

aezliabeth · Jan 6, 2009

I at one time had same sex attractions. I never went after people of the same sex or dated them but I did have crushes and became attracted to them. I knew deep down it was wrong. After awhile all I did was pray and pray and eventually I found I no longer had same sex attractions anymore.

ArtisticAthlete · Jan 6, 2009

Criada said:
You should be able to PM staff..
I'll PM you and see if you can reply

Hey! I can get incoming messages but it still won't let me respond. It said I can only msg the mod's. Booo!

ArtisticAthlete · Jan 14, 2009

Soo...what's up w/ the lack of responses? All of these views and all of these people so-called struggling w/ homosexuality in the world (so we hear)...where's your 2cents? Dude, make a different screen name and post on this thread...it's all good w/ me...I just want to hear from some people. I know there are homosexuals on this thread that are married...to the opposite sex. Speak up!

graceabounding · Jan 14, 2009

I'm not married, perhaps in time. I have come so far since I joined christian forums a few years ago. I do still struggle from time to time, but my life is not consumed any more by my attractions. I have met someone that I love very much. God's blessed me so much by having her in my life. I wanted to post to offer someone hope. God is good.

minisam · Feb 1, 2009

God will be there for you, just keep praying and God will answer. He always does.

God Bless!

JoeNah · Feb 5, 2009

Verse 11: "And such were some of you; But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God."

SECOND CORINTHIANS 5:17
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, s/he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

I am challenged with sexual attraction to men. I've done things of which I am now very ashamed. But God has done a marvelous work of mercy, grace, forgiveness and love, and I am a man of God. I am walking in faith and in victory over homosexuality and depression, because of what God has done in and through me, and because of the Blood of the Lamb, the Lord Jesus Christ! I refuse to accept any label of any type that would define me according to my former lifestyle.

It is not a sin to be tempted (Hebrews 4:15).

ArtisticAthlete · Feb 28, 2009

JoeNah said:
Verse 11: "And such were some of you; But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God."

SECOND CORINTHIANS 5:17
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, s/he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

I am challenged with sexual attraction to men. I've done things of which I am now very ashamed. But God has done a marvelous work of mercy, grace, forgiveness and love, and I am a man of God. I am walking in faith and in victory over homosexuality and depression, because of what God has done in and through me, and because of the Blood of the Lamb, the Lord Jesus Christ! I refuse to accept any label of any type that would define me according to my former lifestyle.

It is not a sin to be tempted (Hebrews 4:15).

Hey! Out of curiosity, I have a couple of questions:

1. How long have you been married and how long did it take you to start dating women?

2. How do you differ from others (most people) who continue to say they're praying but still struggle w/ homosexual desires? Are you saying they're completely gone? If so, how long did it take for that to happen?

Just curious...

Child-of-Zion · Mar 9, 2009

Hola!

So, just like my thread title says...any ex-homosexuals here? I'm sure there are...chime in on this thread, por favor!

Basically, I'm struggling w/ the issue of "Is homosexuality wrong?". Currently, I don't have a gf (I've only had one and that was a couple of years ago) but I feel like I'm at a crossroads. Will I con't down the homosexual rd or the so-called "straight" road. I've never considered myself straight b/c I can't see myself in a relationship w/ a guy. So, this is why I made this thread...did you guys feel the same way but w/ much prayer you can do things you never thought you could do?

I would love to get married and have children (if I was 'that' girl) but I don't see myself meeting a guy and it developing into anything more than friendship sooo...

All responses welcome. Thanks!

For a period of about 9 years I struggled mightily with homosexual desires. I struggled with gay porn and was at the point where straight porn didn't even do anything for me anymore. The more I fed it the worse it grew. Thankfully I never acted out. During that time I never had a girlfriend (still don't, but that's because He's promised me a wife I have yet to meet or communicate with who is living in another country...).

I don't know that every person can be considered 100% straight or 100% gay. We're all fallen individuals who have differing struggles. Mine lasted 9 long years. I prayed for Him to take these desires away time and time again. He didn't, at least not in my timing. The victory began one morning after another fall to temptation when I was weeping before the Lord in repentance. He spoke to my heart something very profound that I will never forget.

"You thought I love you less when you struggle with this. Had I answered your prayer and taken these desires away it would have crippled you for the rest of your life, because it would of taught that My love for you is CONDITIONAL. IT DOESN'T DEPEND ON YOU!! I STILL LOVE YOU!!"

So... I wept again. Only now they were tears of a different kind.

Within less than a year I was freed completely and haven't gone back since. My natural desires have been restored completely. For me it was a heart issue that needed to be dealt with at the core before my prayers were answered.
And to answer your question about homosexuality being wrong, I would recommend reading the following:
--Romans 1
--1 Corinthians 6:9
--Leviticus 18:22
--Deuteronomy 23:17, 1 Kings 14:24, 15:22, 22:46, and 2 Kings 23:7 all refer to temple prostitutes in which homosexual behavior was practiced
There are more verses as well. God condemns homosexual behavior in both the Old and New Testaments.

So that's my story. God bless you.

aj777 · Mar 17, 2009

Honestly I used to think about it a lot. Then I began to relate people like that to boy george because he was the only one like that that I knew of as a child. I thought they all were like him. Then I grew up and met some in person and they're not all the same. They each are different and special in their own way, just like straight people are.
My prayers are with everyone! God bless you all!!

cassie121 · Mar 17, 2009

I struggle with this and have for a long time.

Warren Clark · Mar 21, 2009

Listening to people talk about this brings back memories.
When I was a Christian I struggled so hard over "the gay issue".
It hurt so much I thought suicide was an option.
Luckly I didnt take that option.

Don't hurt yourself trying to figure it out.

I can't give much advice, because I don't want to be responsible for anything.

Having struggled for 6 years I finally couldn't take it.
After learning more about it, I finally accepted who I was.
The choice was, whether to accept it or be unhappy.

I was told it was my flesh's desire.
However, I prayed for 6 years and no change came.

If you go to my myspace blog you can find a letter to my mother.
She didnt respond well. But I expected it.

Today I am happy as can be.
I am on my way to college to be a director.

I know I will not be accepted by many Christians, but I have learned that I am not here to impress Christians but God.

But not everyone see it that way, and I respect their views.

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