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any advice? :)

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KingsDancer1394

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Hi there!
i just have a concern and its regarding marriage.
This is my case

My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year now. He is 24(turning 25 in January) and I am 18. My parents,hi parents and our pastors (we go to the same church sin 2006) have approved our relationship. I am on my first Year of college and he already graduated college (BA DEGREE) and he is like two or less months away on opening a business. Our plans were to wait until I graduate from college (BA degree) and have a stable job and for him to have a successful business career in his business.
well, our parents actually like the Idea, but we don't really want to wait for 4-5 years from now..
What do you think? :)
How long should we wait?

God bless!
 

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Opening up a business is one thing, making it a success takes a lot of time and hard work, not to say a big drain on finance at first. I hope you have the required finance in place etc. Being two students, I can't imagine you both having a lot of money, in fact I would guess you probably have university debts to pay off? I don't know your circumstances nor what business this is but those are my fears.

Also, as you know, just because you graduate, doesn't mean your guarantee a job at the end.

I would suggest waiting until you can support yourselves financially.

If you want to get married sooner, why don't you both aim to get jobs and once you are financially stable and are able to live on your own, then get married, then if your making enough money to support the two of you, he can look into opening up the business then?

Whatever happens, I think the bottom line is that you guys should be able to support one another financially.
 
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