Annoying teasing

[swordsman]

I'm a single guy, and I get annoyed sometimes when people go: "ooooh, you have someone", or some other childish remark whenever there are talks of me with a girl. I'm no chick magnet, never was...I'm no expert in gals, and you wouldn't consider me to be the "sensitive new-age guy" type of person. I'm not really looking for any relationship. my question is this:
how do you stop this kind of behaviour? my 9 year old niece is doing it to me, my sisters do it, my parents even do it, my friends from church, work and school do it. everytime it happens to me, I put up a sensational front, but underneath, I just want to pound whatever twitches from that person. this behaviour doesn't happen to my friends (although they are more easy-going with females).

any suggestions?

 

[Out of the Flames]

Have you come straight out and said "It annoys the snot out of me when you do that! Knock it off or I'll pound you!"?

A more laid back, mature approach may work better, but I'm tired and cranky and mature is stretching my cranial ability right now.

Seriously though, tell them that it annoys you and that you'd appreciate it if they'd behave more like adults and respect your wishes and your privacy in regards to such matters.

And pound them if it keeps happening.

 

[Ginsu]

Pounding someone is not a good approach, not to mention it's immature and it won't accomplish anything. Winners don't fight.

I say break their necks and throw them into a dry well.

 

[tyberium]

Pounding someone is not a good approach, not to mention it's immature and it won't accomplish anything. Winners don't fight.

True, pounding also hurts your fists.

If it were me I would use a bat or a thick steel rod.

WARNING CLICHE WARNING

Honesty is the best policy.

 

[Bryan Lim]

mikkey,
what is a sensitive new age guy? I heard of that phrase before and i have been searching for its meaning for a few years!

 

[Xen_Antares]

Just be glad theyre not saying your gay, Ive run into this a few times. Well you have to be gay, you dont have a girlfriend, never been married, dont have kids and arent likely to in the near future, are you sure your straight, if not its ok, but I have to know.

Heck no Im not gay, I would actually like to have a girl in my life right now, but I cant go up to a girl Im attracted to and tell her we are now in a relationship wether she likes it or not. I dont understand their way of thinking.

 

[Injured Soldier]

Unfortunately, it's not going to change. When you find a gf and go out for awhile, people will ask when you are getting married. When you are married, they ask when you will be getting kids. When you have kids, they ask when you are buying a house. When you've bought a house, they ask when the kids are leaving home. A vicious cycle.

Xen, for thome reathon everyone thayth I'm gay too, thweetie! People actually saying you are gay is a society sickness, it's root idea implies that no sane, straight person can resist the unresistable tug of romantic love, and I think that is just sad.

People are always going to be busy bodies. It's usually those people unhappy with their own lives that feel the need to poke their noses into other people's private lives. How to stop that behaviour? Ignore it. Live your life for Jesus. Forget what people say. And if you can't, do you think there is a reason you get upset by what they say?

 

[swordsman]

Just be glad theyre not saying your gay, Ive run into this a few times. Well you have to be gay, you dont have a girlfriend, never been married, dont have kids and arent likely to in the near future, are you sure your straight, if not its ok, but I have to know.

Heck no Im not gay, I would actually like to have a girl in my life right now, but I cant go up to a girl Im attracted to and tell her we are now in a relationship wether she likes it or not. I dont understand their way of thinking.

I've been called gay too. read this: http://www.christianforums.com/showthread.php?p=8284381&postcount=22

thanks for the responses guys, been helpful. I understand thus far that I'm not really sociable with girls as much as guys. I get along well with the boys, but act like a buddhist monk when around females. I have had many bad experiences with ladies in the past and I've chosen to stay away from them. but having done that, I believe it has been some cause to me being teased the way I am at the moment.

There's a girl from europe coming down, and will be spending 3 months with us at church...there's a test to try to be social with ladies I suppose

thank once again guys for your responses, they've been taken aboard and are much appreciated!

(no 'oooooh' sounds now!!)

 

[klewlis]

I understand thus far that I'm not really sociable with girls as much as guys. I get along well with the boys, but act like a buddhist monk when around females. I have had many bad experiences with ladies in the past and I've chosen to stay away from them. but having done that, I believe it has been some cause to me being teased the way I am at the moment.

Really, it just takes time and exposure. Hang out with girls and you will become comfortable with girls and understand them better.

 

[jenptcfan]

Maybe if you can find a funny way to tease back at them, they might get the picture. Especially your 9 year old niece....you could spot a boy somewhere around her age (if you pick her up at school, go to the same church, or are just taking her to the mall like a good uncle)...say "Hey Sally...what do you think of that guy over there...don't you need a boyfriend? You want me to go over and talk to him for you??" Of course you won't go through with it, and she'll probably be mortified. You could tell her you'll stop messing with her about getting a boyfriend if she'll stop messing with you about getting a girlfriend.

Maybe it'll work, maybe not. Stuff like that works with my nieces and nephews.