anniversary

[joosiej]

Yesterday was the second anniversary of my twin brother's death and I am having trouble coping. It was the first thing I thought about when I woke up and that morning was really hard, but for some reason I thought I was doing okay. But then after lunch I stood barefoot on a small piece of broken glass in the kitchen, and feeling the pain just tipped me right over the edge, and I ended up collapsed on the floor in floods of tears. The rest of the day was really hard, I didn't want to talk to anyone or do anything, and I was feeling awful. I went to church in the evening to have a chat and pray with our priest, which provided temporary relief, but as soon as I left for home the pain came flooding back. I lay awake all night crying and thinking of my brother and today I just feel so empty and sad and lonely.

There are obviously many other people using this forum who know exactly how hard it can be when an anniversary of a loved one's death comes along, and it would mean so much to me if you could all pray for me and my brother.

 

[Cordelia]

for you and your brother! I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how it all comes back on the anniversary.

Cordie

 

[Lioness816]

I am praying for you and your brother too. ~ God Bless ~

 

[Buttermilk]

I am just after reading your thread http://www.christianforums.com/showthread.php?p=1733629#post1733629.

I don't know what to say. I hope that with time your pain will ease a little

 

[SavedChild]

My prayers go out to you.

 

[SteadyRock]

Trust God for His comfort.

 

[darketernal]

Would your twin brother love to see his sister in agony and pain over his death? Of course he wouldn't , he wants you to move on with your life, and thinks you deserve the best there is. Think if it was other way around, wouldn't you be sad to see your family not being able to move on with their lives because of the grief they had over you? For the sake of your brother be alive and continue with your life. Find people to share and relate too, and talk talk talk to get this off your chest and let it rest in the conclusion that he is in a better place now.

 

[lovemysoldier]

My heart goes out to you along with my tears. I want to share one of my favorite sermons with you. It helped me understand the debth of God's love for us.


"The shortest verse in the entire Bible consists of only two words, but those two words have something incredible to say to us.

We read in the Gospel of John the simple words, “Jesus wept.” Now think about this with me for a moment. Here we see Jesus, the Son of God, crying at the burial site of his deceased friend Lazarus. But as the story goes, He was about to bring Lazarus back to life. So why, then, is Jesus crying?

The answer has much to teach us. Many people think of God as far-removed from human cares and concerns. They see Him as “the man upstairs” or as an uninvolved deity, distant and removed, or somehow restrained. The popular song “From A Distance” captured this view well in the 90’s, stating, “God is watching us from a distance.” And yet we long for God to swoop in and ease our pain, and when He doesn’t we doubt Him. Some people refuse to believe in God at all because of the evil and pain in the world. “It just doesn’t make sense,” they think.

Consider this, though: If what we see in Jesus is the very representation of God, then we must concede that God does care and that He does sympathize with us. As I said before, Jesus knew that in a moment, Lazarus would be alive and well. So why does He cry? Is this a mere cosmetic display of affection; manufactured emotion? No. What we see in this episode is the very God who made the universe, who created humanity out of love, grieving over what evil and pain has done to the creatures He loves. He knew even better than the mourners what a distortion this sorrow was, and He hurt with them.

Listen to the comments of Merrill Tenney. He says:

He might have been unconcerned with grief, since He knew well that it would be succeeded quickly by joy; yet He sorrowed with them…As He looked upon the cemetery at Bethany, a silent memorial to the devastation that death had wrought on the human race, He was angered against man’s great enemy. Death to Him was not an impassible barrier, but a call to battle.

And battle He did! For in the suffering of Jesus on the cross, God faced ultimate sorrow head on; and in the resurrection, he defeated death that so painfully stalks us.

No, God is not a distant deity. The Bible tells us that “God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself.” And let us also realize that the One who stood at Lazarus’ tomb and wept is the same today. He still grieves over our pain. Instead of accusing God or assuming He doesn’t care, let us turn and look into His tear-stained eyes."
-2004 Ravi Zacharias International Ministries

I hope this helped.