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CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
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No, you are not. We all do that from time to time. It is a basic human response to adversity.
Thankfully, God is patient and lets us blow off steam when we need to. One of my friends has the saying, "It's OK to sit on your pity-pot from time to time. Just be sure to flush when you're done."
Of course, God would be most pleased if we praised Him in adversity, but I am very grateful to be covered by grace, with forgiveness readily available when I fail.
Thankfully, God is patient and lets us blow off steam when we need to. One of my friends has the saying, "It's OK to sit on your pity-pot from time to time. Just be sure to flush when you're done."
Of course, God would be most pleased if we praised Him in adversity, but I am very grateful to be covered by grace, with forgiveness readily available when I fail.
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You are certainly not the first one to feel like this, you are not the only one, and you won't be the last.
Anger is a common emotion experienced by people who have been abused. I am going through so much anger at the moment in my counseling with many thins...my parents...the church...my abuser...and definately God. How can someone so great allow someone to attack a child in such a violated way. I am angry towards God for letting this happen.
I can't provide any answers at the moment on this, as I am going through this difficult time myself. I have had a look around at websites though that could prove useful. Have a look at this one:
http://www.hopeforfamily.org/godandanger.html
For now, all I can do is pray that God will use your anger that you have in doing something positive. Take care and let us know how you get on.
Anger is a common emotion experienced by people who have been abused. I am going through so much anger at the moment in my counseling with many thins...my parents...the church...my abuser...and definately God. How can someone so great allow someone to attack a child in such a violated way. I am angry towards God for letting this happen.
I can't provide any answers at the moment on this, as I am going through this difficult time myself. I have had a look around at websites though that could prove useful. Have a look at this one:
http://www.hopeforfamily.org/godandanger.html
For now, all I can do is pray that God will use your anger that you have in doing something positive. Take care and let us know how you get on.
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Because he has the most power...and he sat back and watched while I went through hell...I just want to know why
Thanks for the site surviving!
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I agree with what Emberfae has said. I have often wondered that if God has so much power and He only wants good things to happen, then why did I get abused. I think that it is normal to blame God in a situation like this. Ok, so it might not be God's fault, but I feel that maybe we have to go through this process to get to the other side. Not sure, just my thoughts really.
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God does have the most power, but He did not just sit back while you were abused. He wept over your pain. Everything done to you has been recorded and must be accounted for by the perpetrator. Also, He intervened in ways that we cannot even imagine.
It may be impossible to see, but He very well may have restrained your abuser from doing even more horrible things to you. He might even have saved your life.
God gave mankind free will as a gift. It would violate His purpose to take away free will from anybody, even the most loathsome of men. We cannot understand His purpose right now. All we can understand is the love that He shows us right now.
Please know that He loves you and wants the best for you. When we get to heaven, all hurts will be healed and we will understand things much better than we do right now.
It may be impossible to see, but He very well may have restrained your abuser from doing even more horrible things to you. He might even have saved your life.
God gave mankind free will as a gift. It would violate His purpose to take away free will from anybody, even the most loathsome of men. We cannot understand His purpose right now. All we can understand is the love that He shows us right now.
Please know that He loves you and wants the best for you. When we get to heaven, all hurts will be healed and we will understand things much better than we do right now.
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That is such a great question!
I guess it's because we know God is all-powerful and Sovereign, so we figure He's in control. And it's true that He is, but He also has given mankind "free will". It wouldn't be free will if He went around preventing everything bad, so this is the way it is, and we wish it was different.
I know- you're question was rhetorical, but I couln't help myself.
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Yeah. I went through hell too. And I wanted to know why. I do echo what the other gal said... something to the effect of... it could have been worse.Because he has the most power...and he sat back and watched while I went through hell...I just want to know why
Thanks for the site surviving!
I was molested. I wasn't raped. So I guess I can be thankful for that, though I've read that the effect it has on the victim is the same with one or the other. I don't have to think, "Oh I was only molested." Hello! I was violated and victimized repeatedly over the entire span of my formative years.
But I have forgiven them. I have been set free from bitterness, resentment and anger, and I walk in the peace and joy that only the Lord Jesus Christ can give.
Every so often, I think of the victory that God has wrought in me, and I imagine it's like kicking the devil in the teeth, and I think, I like being a part of that.
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No... But there is no satisfactory answer to these questions.
We have to come to the conclusion that God is Good. And that He was grieved that it happened.
And then we take the brokenness, and we let God heal us. And when we are healed, we become helpers to other hurting people.
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I use to blame God, over and over.
And after I was saved...I still left some blame with God, but started learning better of that.
But then in '96 when I was kidnapped, beatedn, raped in every way, and left for dead...I blamed again...and fell away for a few years..
But when I returned I had a new found strength in God, and I realized that all the anger I held in and did not deal with towards my father...I was able to use to put the 2 scumbags behind bars who attacked me in '96..I knew that though I'd turned my back on Him...He was there for me to do that.
He also gave me the strength I needed after that to start talking about my past with my father, to other survivors...my abuse helped others as we learned we were not alone, as we learned together how to cope, as we researched books and sought out councelors...and in the end...to help me start a web site for others, and become a childrens advocate.
He WAS there..even when I turned my back on HIM...He never left me.
And after I was saved...I still left some blame with God, but started learning better of that.
But then in '96 when I was kidnapped, beatedn, raped in every way, and left for dead...I blamed again...and fell away for a few years..
But when I returned I had a new found strength in God, and I realized that all the anger I held in and did not deal with towards my father...I was able to use to put the 2 scumbags behind bars who attacked me in '96..I knew that though I'd turned my back on Him...He was there for me to do that.
He also gave me the strength I needed after that to start talking about my past with my father, to other survivors...my abuse helped others as we learned we were not alone, as we learned together how to cope, as we researched books and sought out councelors...and in the end...to help me start a web site for others, and become a childrens advocate.
He WAS there..even when I turned my back on HIM...He never left me.
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