Hello everyone!
I needed advice from my fellow Christian brothers and sisters. Im trying to do right in the way of God.
So, basically, Im beyond angry with my mom. I guess you could say its pent up resentment, anger, frustrations and its come to this breaking point. I need advice on what you think I should do, and how I should go about my life.
Im 21 years old and my mom has depended on me all her life. See, she cant speak English and has never had the time to learn. So I translate EVERYTHING for her, regardless of whether or not I have other obligations, I always put her needs first. Ive never been angry with the fact I had to translate, but it was always how she handled it. She thinks that I should HAVE to translate, like its a right, like its a must. When Im uncomfortable translating certain things to certain people, I refuse and so weve had very extreme arguments/fights about it. Shes called me useless, worthless, and even say whats the point of having you, if you cant do something so simple?
She hasnt worked in over a year and is currently staying at a Shelter. Ive never asked my mom for ANYTHING, but when I had one request, it was for her to take care of herself financially, until I graduate. While I was doing an Internship, I earned some money and ended up giving more than $6000 to her. I could have done so much with that money, paid back some of my loans, gotten the car that I need. But once I learned that she wasnt working, and wasnt even looking for a job, it literally made me explode. However, she turned it around on me, saying, I regret I even accepted your help, if I knew you were going to be so judgmental and money hungry, I wouldve never received it. Money hungry? Ive worked since I was 16 and provided for 3 people when I was the youngest out of the three, and I never thought twice about it. But IM MONEY HUNGRY? The only reason I got upset was because she confessed to not having looked for a job during the 6 months while I was doing an internship, barely buying food, clothes, and necessities, in order to save up money for a car/school supplies/clothes and much more for when I returned to school.
So now she is at a shelter, and the shelter case workers, told her that they try to find the ladies a permanent home. Its not guaranteed, but her hopes are extremely high, even though I know things wont work out the way she wants. I dont have a place to go to for Thanksgiving/Christmas because she isnt looking for a job and they arent providing her with housing.
So yes, out of all those years of (feeling like Im) giving and working with her Im angry, I feel like she doesnt care one bit about my opinions, requests and hopes.
Ive always tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, but its hard to when she doesnt even try to live and depends on me so much. I think the only reason why Im still sticking it out with her and not cutting ties is because I know that my mom loves me to death. She really does and I could feel it. She just doesnt live her life right, and I dont know what else to do.
I know this is super long, but I hope you guys can give me advice. Ive prayed and prayed for an answer and message, but I feel as though I havent received one.
Please help.
Hannah
I needed advice from my fellow Christian brothers and sisters. Im trying to do right in the way of God.
So, basically, Im beyond angry with my mom. I guess you could say its pent up resentment, anger, frustrations and its come to this breaking point. I need advice on what you think I should do, and how I should go about my life.
Im 21 years old and my mom has depended on me all her life. See, she cant speak English and has never had the time to learn. So I translate EVERYTHING for her, regardless of whether or not I have other obligations, I always put her needs first. Ive never been angry with the fact I had to translate, but it was always how she handled it. She thinks that I should HAVE to translate, like its a right, like its a must. When Im uncomfortable translating certain things to certain people, I refuse and so weve had very extreme arguments/fights about it. Shes called me useless, worthless, and even say whats the point of having you, if you cant do something so simple?
She hasnt worked in over a year and is currently staying at a Shelter. Ive never asked my mom for ANYTHING, but when I had one request, it was for her to take care of herself financially, until I graduate. While I was doing an Internship, I earned some money and ended up giving more than $6000 to her. I could have done so much with that money, paid back some of my loans, gotten the car that I need. But once I learned that she wasnt working, and wasnt even looking for a job, it literally made me explode. However, she turned it around on me, saying, I regret I even accepted your help, if I knew you were going to be so judgmental and money hungry, I wouldve never received it. Money hungry? Ive worked since I was 16 and provided for 3 people when I was the youngest out of the three, and I never thought twice about it. But IM MONEY HUNGRY? The only reason I got upset was because she confessed to not having looked for a job during the 6 months while I was doing an internship, barely buying food, clothes, and necessities, in order to save up money for a car/school supplies/clothes and much more for when I returned to school.
So now she is at a shelter, and the shelter case workers, told her that they try to find the ladies a permanent home. Its not guaranteed, but her hopes are extremely high, even though I know things wont work out the way she wants. I dont have a place to go to for Thanksgiving/Christmas because she isnt looking for a job and they arent providing her with housing.
So yes, out of all those years of (feeling like Im) giving and working with her Im angry, I feel like she doesnt care one bit about my opinions, requests and hopes.
Ive always tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, but its hard to when she doesnt even try to live and depends on me so much. I think the only reason why Im still sticking it out with her and not cutting ties is because I know that my mom loves me to death. She really does and I could feel it. She just doesnt live her life right, and I dont know what else to do.
I know this is super long, but I hope you guys can give me advice. Ive prayed and prayed for an answer and message, but I feel as though I havent received one.
Please help.
Hannah
