An 'I Love You' experience

[Spinnaker]

Hey everyone, I have a brief question for you. A quick back story: I met my girlfriend in November, and fell for her pretty quickly. I'm not ashamed of that, we have great communication and have literally left no stone unturned with regard to our pasts, who we are, who we want to be, etc etc. We have more in common than all of the five girls I've been with previously combined, we enjoy each others company no matter what we're doing, we make each other laugh, we're driven by the same factors and qualities in life, so on and so forth.

About a month or so ago, I told her I loved her. I told her it was okay if she wasn't ready to say it back and that I wasn't saying it to coax a response out of her but I just had to tell her that I did. I don't regret it at all. She accepted it, and after a while she told me she was okay with me saying it. The thing of it is, I know she cares just as much for me as I do for her, so that's not a worry. She's literally the most emotionally healthy human being I know, and when she works through something she really does work through it. She said it wouldn't take her long to get to a place where she can say it back and I'm totally okay with that.

My question is: has anybody else been in a relationship where one of you was compelled to confess your love sooner than the other? If so, how did it play out?

I'm not asking because I fear for this relationship, that's not the case at all. In fact, I've never felt so secure. I'm more just asking out of pure curiosity.

 

[dayhiker]

I believe women have been more comfortable saying they love me before I am comfortable saying it to them.

 

[pinkelephant44]

You started dating in November and said "I love you" in December? Way too soon for those words. No offense to you or how you feel but those words get thrown around too freely in the dating realm and are destructive. She is wise enough to realize that. There is absolutely nothing worse than hearing those words and then having them taken away or have them not be true. Slow your roll, back off a bit and let things progress more organically. Get past some of the initial infatuation stage stuff into more everyday real life scenarios and see if the feelings are the same.

 

[iambren]

You sure sound like you're trying to convince yourself. She's pacing herself which is wise.

 

[Spinnaker]

Meh think of it what you want, when I told her I love her in relation to when we started dating wasn't what I wanted analyzed. I still feel the same way, if not more so.

 

[iambren]

WELL,feeling "it" and saying it are two different things. It appears that your lady friend wants to develop a foundation before making premature protestations. In this case she is to be commended. A lot of people feel a lot of things and infatuation is real. It takes time to come up with a solid "I love you" that really means something. Talk is cheap.