Am I Wrong?

[aparker2005]

Hey everyone........as some of you know, we have had some issues with our worship band the past few weeks. Our band leader decided to take a small break from the band. Well, he called everyone and apologized for the situation. He wants to start over, new and fresh, and we have gotten call after call this week about places to play at. He has tried to contact our bass player, who was the main focul point of the problems. She will not answer his calls or accept his apology. I am in a tough situation, because I am her boyfriend. She told me today that if I played with him in a band again, that she and I would break up. I told her yes people make mistakes, but we have to be like Christ and forgive. She will not accept me playing with him and I'm pretty sure we are going to break up. I told her I wasn't choosing her or the band, but I felt it was my call to play in the band whether stuff was wrong or not. Our band leader has tried to make it right with our bass player and even said he was wrong for the direction he took in taking a break. So, am I wrong for wanting to play again and start over?

 

[BrBob]

She is giving you an unfair ultimatum.

Pray, do.

Bob
Spearfish, SD

 

[Mask]

She is being selfish and is refusing to act in a Christ like manner and forgive the leader. We need to forgive others so God can forgive us when we screw up and sin. I'm sorry that things have had to get to this point for you. I think you are making the right decision to go ahead and play, even if it means breaking up. She is trying to control you. Sorry this is a very hard thing for you. Sending you ! Hoping she will have a change of heart and give you her blessing to play!

 

[aparker2005]

Well, we ended up breaking up, and I am SO glad. She emailed me yesterday morning saying she didn't know how I could be her boyfriend and not stand by her side. I told her I just thought we should end this relationship because we weren't growing and it was bringing us both down. She sent me a ton of more emails saying she would act different and forget the whole band thing. I continued to say no. She then said she hated me and never wanted to talk to me again. After her school was out, she called me crying saying I was a liar and she hated me. AFter that, her MOM calls me and told me I was a very low person for breaking up with her right before graduation and prom and told me she would appreciate it if I never talked to her again. After that, I was setting my drums back up at the church with my band leader, and she kept circling the church, stopping and honking her horn, then screeching her tires. I then received text messages from her friend saying I had better never think of her again or I would be jumped. My best guy friend called me a few minutes later saying she was wanting to come over to his house by herself. After this situation, I can honestly say our band leader was right in kind of making her be out of the band. I was her boyfriend and didn't really see how she really acted, and now I do. I prayed about it the previous night, and I think I did what God wanted me to do. Thanks guys!

 

[Mask]

Glad to hear that the truth finally came out and she showed her true colors. You made the right decision. She still could use your prayers though! Blessings!

 

[Alejandro]

Well, we ended up breaking up, and I am SO glad. She emailed me yesterday morning saying she didn't know how I could be her boyfriend and not stand by her side. I told her I just thought we should end this relationship because we weren't growing and it was bringing us both down. She sent me a ton of more emails saying she would act different and forget the whole band thing. I continued to say no. She then said she hated me and never wanted to talk to me again. After her school was out, she called me crying saying I was a liar and she hated me. AFter that, her MOM calls me and told me I was a very low person for breaking up with her right before graduation and prom and told me she would appreciate it if I never talked to her again. After that, I was setting my drums back up at the church with my band leader, and she kept circling the church, stopping and honking her horn, then screeching her tires. I then received text messages from her friend saying I had better never think of her again or I would be jumped. My best guy friend called me a few minutes later saying she was wanting to come over to his house by herself. After this situation, I can honestly say our band leader was right in kind of making her be out of the band. I was her boyfriend and didn't really see how she really acted, and now I do. I prayed about it the previous night, and I think I did what God wanted me to do. Thanks guys!

wow this shows a great amount of maturity.

I'm glad for you my friend. Making the right decisions are not always obvious.

God bless you man.