Am I respecting God's will? Need your advice!

[annie.jesusfreak]

Hi, I'm Annie and I'm 23. I've been married for almost 2 years and we have a 9 month-old baby.
My husband and I have a real desire to live in God's will and leave Him plan our family, but right now I'm struggling with a question and I hope you can help. I've been feeling quite tired these last months as our son is not sleeping much and I've a hard time feeling any kind of sexual desire. I recovered well from giving birth but still, we aren't nearly as sexually active as in the beggining of our marriage.
I was wondering if spacing out sexual encounters or abstaining from sex was preventing God's will to bless us with another child. I would love to hear how you deal with post-pregnancies as I feel it's such a difficult time.
Thank you so much for your advice.

 

[Merrik]

One thing I have learned about God's will is that, if it is His will, Then it will happen whether we want it to or not. The most important thing to understanding what His plan is, is to pray pray pray. If there is one thing that God is really good at it is changing a persons heart for the better. If it is in God's plan for you to have more kids then, if you are truely in prayer and have a desire to follow the will of God, He will let you know. Hope that helps

 

[jgonz]

Your baby is only 9 months old~ of Course you're tired! lol That just comes with the territory!

Merrik is correct~ even if you only are awake enough for sex one time in an entire month, if God wants you to get pregnant, you'll get pregnant. If He doesn't, then you won't. Accepting the fact that it's in His hands... THAT's trusting God and respecting His will and plan for your family.

Are you breastfeeding? If you are exclusively breastfeeding, you may not ovulate for awhile anyway. It also depends on the night nursing~ if you co-sleep and night nurse, then your cycle will usually stay suppressed for a long time. This is God's plan, although sometimes He allows a woman to get pregnant in spite of constant breastfeeding~ only He knows what's best.

For me, post-partum is very difficult. I have always had one level or another of PPD, so I have to be super careful to take care of myself, which includes a decent amount of sleep. DH understood that, so he helped a lot. Co-sleeping was a life-saver for me~ really more of a survival technique than anything else. lol But God did that spacing for me too... Between #6 & #7 there is nearly 4 years and He had me use that time to get myself healthy and learn about natural methods (vs pharmaceutical meds). By the time I got pregnant with #7, I was ready, healthy, and had actually prayed for another baby. Then He gave me #8, & #9 pretty close together... Then #10 was 6 yrs later (when I was 48 ). It's all in God's timing~ and remember~ He has a sense of humor. LOL

HTH~

 

[Sabertooth]

Sex is for more than just getting pregnant. Let your sex life just happen as it will. As long as you don't strive to contracept and you still have a heart toward your husband, God will use your sex life (such as it is) to bring about all His purposes in it, including further conceptions.

When DW had her "tired" times, there were times that she took an extra interest in my [company], in spite of being tired. We both [rightly] figured that God was prompting us to conceive at those times.