Am I doing the right thing?

[horuhe00]

Ok, a friend of our family's has been staying here all summer long and she's leaving in less than 2 weeks.

The thing is that she and I have been spending a whole lot of time together, since I'm the only one she knows here. Well, things have grown and she's got a crush on me and I'm atracted to her. Here's the thing... she's tried to kiss me but ive told her no. Why? Well, because she's leaving in a couple of days and we won't see each other in at least a year, if not longer, and it would only make her leaving more painful.

Well, tonight, she tried to kiss me again and i told her no again. She told me I was making a mistake. Well, am I?

BTW, she's 17 and I'm 22.

 

[Living4Him03]

Wait a year and see what happens. If she really likes you she will wait until the time is right to kiss you.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

I think you did the right thing. With LDR's you want to make sure the feelings are still there when she goes away, not just cos she was gorgeous and right there. You need to discover, in an LDR, more about who she is by letter and by phone.

Kissing would have made it all the more harder.

Sasch

 

[horuhe00]

Thanks. I needed to hear that. So I'm not stupid after all

 

[desi]

Ok, a friend of our family's has been staying here all summer long and she's leaving in less than 2 weeks.

The thing is that she and I have been spending a whole lot of time together, since I'm the only one she knows here. Well, things have grown and she's got a crush on me and I'm atracted to her. Here's the thing... she's tried to kiss me but ive told her no. Why? Well, because she's leaving in a couple of days and we won't see each other in at least a year, if not longer, and it would only make her leaving more painful.

Well, tonight, she tried to kiss me again and i told her no again. She told me I was making a mistake. Well, am I?

BTW, she's 17 and I'm 22.

For easy fun you are making a big mistake, for doing the right thing you're probably not making a mistake.

 

[Breetai]

Thanks. I needed to hear that. So I'm not stupid after all

No, you're doing the right thing.

BTW, how far apart do you guys live?

 

[Iggster]

God knows your heart. Good for you for standing your ground.

 

[horuhe00]

No, you're doing the right thing.

BTW, how far apart do you guys live?

Oh, I'd say about 3000 miles give or take... and the Atlantic Ocean is in the way too...

 

[Breetai]

Ya, that's a little bit far. I'm sure that there's plently of senoritas bonitas where you live to pick from.

That was a real good move on your part to resist the girl. Usually girls that age aren't really ready for a strong relationship yet. She probably would've ended up drifting away within a couple months, especially if she's heading off to university soon!

 

[DaveKerwin]

Way to be bro, proud of you and your decision!!

You did the right thing 100% God love you!

 

[horuhe00]

Ok, update...

She left on a plane yesterday and I wrote her a note telling her to open it AFTER the plane took off. Here's the note...



*insert her name*



I asked you to open this letter after the plane took off because I want to tell you things that I wasn’t sure I could say properly if we were face to face.


It’s unfair for us to stop our lives for someone 3000 miles away. Like I said once, if we had been a couple for a few years and then you’d leave for California, it would be different. But we have only known each other for 5 weeks. There are still a lot of things that we don’t know about each other. And you still have a few major decisions to make in your life and I don’t want to interfere with them. I’m not telling you to forget me. I’m not saying that at all. What I am trying to tell you is to remember that this summer is in your past, your present is different, and your future is unknown. So cherish the memories, but continue your life. Don’t think of me as heartless, but I am firm in this belief. I’m sorry that it’s not what you want to hear…



On Wednesday, when I was in church singing, this song came up, and for some reason, I thought of you and I immediately got a pen and paper to write it down. I translated it so it might not be perfect, but I did my best. Anyway, these are the lyrics…

When you feel that life runs away from you
When you feel that your strength starts to fail
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When you feel that your heart is aching all over
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And your spirit, the enemy tries to take away from you
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When you feel that a door closes before you
When you see everyone around you leave you
It’s the moment to turn to the Throne of the Grace
Lift your hands up high, the Lord will hold you up
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Lift your hands up high, remove the stone that’s in the way
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The presence of the Lord will be your shelter and your strength
Lift your hands up high, remove the stone that’s in the way
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And in the name of the Son, you’ll see your chains break away!
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Remember this summer. Remember your decisions. Remember I will always be there for you if you need me. And as you read this, in the plane, physically removed from Puerto Rico, remember that there are people in this little island that accept you and love you exactly how you are. I’ll keep the hammock warm for you…

*insert my name*
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P.S. Never forget that you are a beautiful person.