Am I doing the right thing?

[lostnalone1]

Me and my husband have been arguing for quite a while, and about 6 weeks ago I had had enough and I snapped at him, he then tried to strangle me he actually attacked me. I recently found out I am pregnant too. I still love this man and he is trying to get help but am I doing the right thing by staying away even though I still love him and want him back?

 

[Johnnz]

Seems you both could do with some support and wise counsel. Do you have anyone there for you?

John
NZ

 

[goldenviolet]

bless your heart hun. marriage is a serious commitment. so is having babies, and allowing violence in your home.
it a matter of putting everything in balance. prioritize what you need while you keep yourself and baby safe. i agree with johnnz; you are in need of counsel. anyone in your situation would need counsel. no need to be shy. plenty of families need resources and support to build upon their marriage. this is real commitment; not just forgiving eachother and making up: but confessing and working through life's trials. accountability is always part of commitment. and holding eachother accountable and working through things with eyes wide open, sure is the best way to stay healthy together. have you consulted your church leadership? and have you located domestic support agentcies in your area? shelters aren't just to stay in. they provide you with education about dealling with domestic issues. and anytime we violate eachother with words or actions is domestic issues. be encouraged. the Lord will help you get through deciding what's best. and getting counsel will help you understand what convicts you into deciding. xo dee

 

[Criada]

The most important thing is keeping yourself and your baby safe, sweetie.
I don't know what support you have, but if you need help in finding advice and help, please PM me - I am in England too, and can help you to find the right support.

Praying for you, sister - God can get you through this.

 

[AxionEsti]

Prayers for you.

 

[Surviving]

Just to let you know that I am thinking of you. I agree with Goldenviolet in that Marriage is not to be taken lightly, and the same with having babies. (Congratualtions by the way!)

Marriage is not easy and there is always going to be rocky patches that the couple will go through. Not one relationship is perfect. However, when a rocky patch occurs, it doesn't mean to say that violence can be used. Having rocky patches is all about working through these situations so that you grow closer together.

Have you seeked any professional advice at all? What your husband did was not right and I would be worried that this could happen again. I'm not saying that it would though.

Please take care of yourself and your little one. You are both so precious. I am also in England, so if you want to PM you can do. I have not been through what you have experienced here, but it is always good to talk.

 

[sunstruckdream]

Me and my husband have been arguing for quite a while, and about 6 weeks ago I had had enough and I snapped at him, he then tried to strangle me he actually attacked me. I recently found out I am pregnant too. I still love this man and he is trying to get help but am I doing the right thing by staying away even though I still love him and want him back?

I think that staying away until counseling is had and the problem is dealt with is the right thing to do. If he attempted to strangle you, you shouldn't be near him, especially if you're pregnant. That's two lives on the line! I hope he's getting help...