Am I being overly sensitive?

[sparkydave]

I volunteer at a community theater. One that's hard to find other volunteers to help with. I was on the board of trustees, but was getting burned out wearing too many hats. That and our president is difficult to work with.

Our president had sent a flurry of e-mails, most which I replied to. One was about some equipment another theater was selling, and she had copied a couple other tech guys. I had glanced at it, but nothing stuck out.

Today she copied me on a reply thanking the other tech guy, who had actually gone to look at it and concurred there was nothing we could use. I saw the string of e-mails between them, which she had not bothered to edit out, and in that saw one of her responses to him saying "Of course I haven't heard back from youknowwhowhocan'tmakeeyecontactorgivearesponse, even though he replied to my other e-mails".


I don't know whether she intended me to see that, but I replied back just saying that I didn't see anything in the list that looked like something we could use. I included her response to the other guy so she knows I saw it.

Feeling annoyed.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Well, now you know how she really feels about you. I would be annoyed too, especially if you are doing so much for the theatre as it is. Maybe it's time to have a one on one with her?

But I would say pray for her cuz she needs it.

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

I volunteer at a community theater. One that's hard to find other volunteers to help with. I was on the board of trustees, but was getting burned out wearing too many hats. That and our president is difficult to work with.

Our president had sent a flurry of e-mails, most which I replied to. One was about some equipment another theater was selling, and she had copied a couple other tech guys. I had glanced at it, but nothing stuck out.

Today she copied me on a reply thanking the other tech guy, who had actually gone to look at it and concurred there was nothing we could use. I saw the string of e-mails between them, which she had not bothered to edit out, and in that saw one of her responses to him saying "Of course I haven't heard back from youknowwhowhocan'tmakeeyecontactorgivearesponse, even though he replied to my other e-mails".


I don't know whether she intended me to see that, but I replied back just saying that I didn't see anything in the list that looked like something we could use. I included her response to the other guy so she knows I saw it.

Feeling annoyed.

It was uncalled for what she said about you. That was gossip and unprofessional. If you didnt see anything of benefit for your Theatre to use, then that was your educated opinion ; if you put half a dozen people together to look over a list....some might be partial to something on the list and some might not be. So, you didnt really do anything abnormal or wrong.

Something ive learned about such negative comments , is that people oftentimes have alot on their plate whether it be stress in a marriage, money problems, health issues, or whatever...and it sometimes comes out in negativity toward others. Sometimes its intended, and sometimes it isnt.

So, i think at this point, you should maybe have a short chat with her in an effort for reconciliation by explaining your position in a nice way . Other than that, it needs to be dropped so it doesnt fester and so resentment doesnt build up on your behalf. That said...if this kind of thing becomes a habit with this woman...where she is putting you down to your peers...then i would call her on that behavior and possibly consider finding another place to volunteer at.

 

[blackribbon]

You have the right to be annoyed. Now decide what you want to do with it. Any direct confrontation probably wouldn't serve any purpose but making you feel better and continuing the uncomfortable relationship.

Me, I can be a pain in the butt and might either sign my next email or two with that "title" or make a nametag and wear it to the next group meeting. Smile about it...say nothing...and then it will either become a joke that you are a part of OR she will "get" the inappropriateness of this comment.