Like I don't have enough on my plate right now! My husband is asking me for alimony. For those who have been through the divorce process this must be a bluff right! He claims that when we moved I had a job that I took which gave me a 25% increase in pay, and that he quit his job and has been unable to find a similiar position in the area which we moved to and that entitles him to alimony because of his lost wages due to me advancing my career. My attorney tells me he might be allowed this. There's no way I want to do this because I was planning on leaving my estate to one of my brothers and this would put a big dent in this plan. I know someone will have a strategy out there to advice me on how they combated this unfair and opportunistic scheme my husband and his attorney has come up with.
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So... he sacrificed his career for yours, you divorce him and want to give everything to your brother.... And once again, your husband is the one at fault, eh? The more you talk about him, the more he sounds like he gave up everything for your marriage... and now that this is not enough, you want him to give up even more??? Yup - he's unfair and opportunistic....
This coming from a person who wants to commit her Mother for her and her fathers convenience????
Personally, I think he deserves alimony.
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IHMFIL said:
I believe in your "which way to go" thread (post #52 to be exact) you stated that you have lawyers in your [sarcasm on] ever so loving [sarcasm off] family, since the lot of enjoyed scheming against your mother why aren't you going to them for your strategy requests?
Personally, I agree with bkg and jenptcfan after reading all of your threads...
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LadyDJ I know you mean well but in the Christian faith the one who is wronged must forgive and forget. I confessed my sins to the world on this website, I have asked my husband to forgive me for my part in the demise of our marriage. He is neither willing to forgive me or my family. But the issue I want advice on this thread is: does anyone have experience with a spouse asking for alimony in a similiar situation!LadyDJ said:
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I'm reminded of a story a friend once told me.
After spreading rumors a man realized that what he did was wrong. He asked the subject of the rumors to forgive him and the man did, but he added that there was more to do. He had the man who spread the rumors follow him up a high hill on a windy day. He opened a feather piilow and shook out the contents. He said that the feathers represented the other people involved in this incidence, and to completely clean up this situation, it would be like collecting each and every one of those feathers. Not only did he need to amend things with the subject of the rumors, but he needed to correct what others now thought of the subject of the rumors because their view of the man had changed for the worse.
Just because you admit the wrong you've done doesn't mean that you have asked or worked for forgiveness. And your actions after asking for forgiveness seem to show that you really aren't repentant. You continue to work for self centered goals. You are not honoring your father AND mother. To honor someone is to speak well of them and treat them well. It does not mean to follow their orders like a puppy. I hope your husband gets the alimony not because of what I think of your behavior, but because he deserves it based on his leaving a job to follow you in your job and his inability to find new work in the new surroundings.
After spreading rumors a man realized that what he did was wrong. He asked the subject of the rumors to forgive him and the man did, but he added that there was more to do. He had the man who spread the rumors follow him up a high hill on a windy day. He opened a feather piilow and shook out the contents. He said that the feathers represented the other people involved in this incidence, and to completely clean up this situation, it would be like collecting each and every one of those feathers. Not only did he need to amend things with the subject of the rumors, but he needed to correct what others now thought of the subject of the rumors because their view of the man had changed for the worse.
Just because you admit the wrong you've done doesn't mean that you have asked or worked for forgiveness. And your actions after asking for forgiveness seem to show that you really aren't repentant. You continue to work for self centered goals. You are not honoring your father AND mother. To honor someone is to speak well of them and treat them well. It does not mean to follow their orders like a puppy. I hope your husband gets the alimony not because of what I think of your behavior, but because he deserves it based on his leaving a job to follow you in your job and his inability to find new work in the new surroundings.
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E-beth
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In areas of the legality of divorce, lawyers know what they are talking about.
Maybe if you had a good reason for wanting to withhold any support, I would find more positive feedback for you. But to leave a disabled man without support because you are worried about your brother's inheritance is just not so much loving nor forgiving.
Maybe if you had a good reason for wanting to withhold any support, I would find more positive feedback for you. But to leave a disabled man without support because you are worried about your brother's inheritance is just not so much loving nor forgiving.
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Do the right thing and dont make this messy.... FOR ONCE BE THE BIGGER PERSON.... God isnt going to smile on this divorce from either side.... but let this so called "spite" manifest in him and him alone.... I dare you.. no better yet God challenges you to sacrifice something..... try the material garbage first. Cause everyone here knows you wont give up anything else.
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mina
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what is your career anyway? toublemaking?
I think he should get it, because he married you thinking you loved him when really you just wanted to use him to win favor with your family by putting him down. And it became unbearable for both of you, but it sounds like you intended to hurt him.
I think he should get it, because he married you thinking you loved him when really you just wanted to use him to win favor with your family by putting him down. And it became unbearable for both of you, but it sounds like you intended to hurt him.
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IslandBreeze
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I have a confession: these threads have been my sole source of entertainment for the past few days. Am I pathetic or what? 
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Mina,Mina,Mina,mina said:
I know I don't communicate very well. It probably came across that way, but see my Father is a football coach and we just wanted to toughen up my husband. We didn't want him to lay around all day feeling sorry for himself. We didn't want to enable him not to give it 110% everyday.
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Cough it up honey ... you owe him. YOU made him move away and lose his career out of selfish reasons only to dump him ... PAY UP! You know IHMFIL ... you are going to reap what you sew. Not everything is about YOU YOU YOU YOU. You seem very self centered. You've wasted your tears on me. I'll pray that the Holy Spirit enlightens you to have a less hardened heart. 
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Okay Mina, I have a propisition to make with you! Why don't you write what you think I need to say to my husband and if agreeable I will send it on to him with my name on it and I promise I will give you word for word his response to it!mina said:
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