I am new to these forums. My husband and I have a very dear friend and roommate who is an alcoholic. Am I in the correct forum, or is there a specific place for "loved ones of alcoholics"? I'm glad I stumbled across this website.. I have been looking for some sort of online support. I think our friend has been broken to the point where he now realizes that he needs to be free of this addiction. We are on day three. He is not saved and is passionately against Christianity and the idea of God. I'd like to ask for your prayers, please. And I'll appreciate all your support as we struggle through this!
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I would like to encourage you and your husband to attend Alanon meetings, which is a 12 step support program for family and friends of alcoholics. You could also encourage your roommate to go to AA, which will not force God on anyone, as it is a personal choice how an individual in AA defines Higher Power, and AA's only requirement for membership is the desire to stop drinking.
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So... it's been a couple weeks now. And as far as I know he has shown absolutely NO sign of drinking! He has also not really shown much sign of having withdrawls either, though. This could mean a few things... 1. God is working a miracle, 2. He's still secretly drinking, 3. He's extremely strong willed, 4. And/or he's secretly suffering and dealing with it in his own hidden way.
I'm a little scared because I obviously can't trust him completely yet.. so I'm not really sure what to think, and I can't let my guard down. But when thing are 'appearing' to be good, I forget to pray as much. Which is very dangerous because I feel like that is what God is calling me to do.. like that is MY specific role in all of this.
So... I will try to pray tonight!
I'm a little scared because I obviously can't trust him completely yet.. so I'm not really sure what to think, and I can't let my guard down. But when thing are 'appearing' to be good, I forget to pray as much. Which is very dangerous because I feel like that is what God is calling me to do.. like that is MY specific role in all of this.
So... I will try to pray tonight!
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I'll be praying for you as well.
Trish makes good sense too. You may want to seek out a local ALANON Group to help you and your husband better understand how an alcoholic can likely behave and help you to understand what to avoid (enabling).
AA has certainly helped me with my sobriety issues. Christians who are saved and love the lord can be drunks as well. It really put a cramp in my witness so I'm very grateful that I'm sober today; but it can and does happen.
I love the story of King David because it shows me that the Lord can love us through most things. David was a major screw up in a lot of areas of his personal life, but God loved him just the same and used him mightily.
God Bless you and I'll be praying for your situation.
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Trish makes good sense too. You may want to seek out a local ALANON Group to help you and your husband better understand how an alcoholic can likely behave and help you to understand what to avoid (enabling).
AA has certainly helped me with my sobriety issues. Christians who are saved and love the lord can be drunks as well. It really put a cramp in my witness so I'm very grateful that I'm sober today; but it can and does happen.
I love the story of King David because it shows me that the Lord can love us through most things. David was a major screw up in a lot of areas of his personal life, but God loved him just the same and used him mightily.
God Bless you and I'll be praying for your situation.
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CKanupp said:
Well, physiological addiction to alcohol is very serious, withdrawal can even kill. He may require inpatient treatment.
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This will continue to happen until he gets some sort of help. Just stopping drinking is not enough. He needs some sort of treatment or AA, or both. Why are you roommates with him? Can you kick him out? That would be best for you and your husband.
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He went to an AA meeting and found a sponsor. The other night was the first time he got drunk since May 19th. He is sincerely trying to quit.
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No. My husband and my roommate are both not very impressed with the Alanon groups in our area. But, I am not completely opposed to it.. We'll see.
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You seem to want straight talk so I will do that. First, why not give Al Anon a chance. Go to a meeting. Give it some time. If you don't like that one try another. If we eat at a restaurant and don't like the meal we don't quit eating out. You have to take care of you. I know that because I'm also a member of Al Anon.
I'm not sure what you mean by your husband not being impressed with the Al Anon groups in your area. Has he gone?
Isn't what the roomate thinks about Al Anon kind of not applicable? He's the alcoholic right?
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I was thinking the exact same thing about this subject. If your husband has tried every meeting in your area, multiple times for each, he has not given Alanon a fair shot. As for the roommate, if he is the alcoholic, his opinions should be limited to AA, not Alanon.
Hope that makes sense.
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