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You are a girl, I am a guy, so don't listen to anything I say. It could do more harm than good.
In any case don't be afraid. Oh man, I LOVEEEE saying to people "Don't be this" or "Don't be that", because chances are they can't turn on a dime and change.
But its natural to be nervous.
As for advice, open yourself up. It may hurt, but don't isolate yourself. Don't feel bad if you eat take out 7 days a week
Get involved. Don't just go to class then go home, repeat etc.
Heh. I didn't adjust very well emotionally, but I just kept on thinking that this isn't so bad. New environment, new people, new way of life.
No matter how different it is, remember that you are simply moving from one place to another, in this physical plane of existance. In other words, you are still you, and God still rules. In other words... its just like life at home, except the physical looks of things and perhaps the local culture is different.
In other words, its not like you are going to Baghdad for the first time with an M16 and an ammo box. You aren't going to some crazy place where the laws of physics break down.
You might even be disappointed that the surroundings and your experiences are nothing earth shakingly different. You aren't moving to Mars after all.
Anything in this physical plane usually disappoints me. Not so much the people, but the hyped up new levels of life.
Junior high to high school, the teachers said it was gonna be heck.
Unfortunately, as I walked in, all 5 of my known senses functioned normally and there was nothing quite hellish about the place. Except it was located in a different place in this physical plane.
In short, since your 5 senses will be feeding you information just like they usually do, the transition can be very ordinary and boring. If only the transition was like a roller coaster. Then it would live up to the hype.
But I suppose you make up your own experiences, so maybe its my fault it was a dull year.
Just try to have fun, and talk ta people. I got depressed, but that was my lot.
Trust in God.
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Billy Batson
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avoid cheap beer. really. so many of us are lured by cheap beer before we realize that there are much better beers than the ones advertised on the tele.
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I went to university away from home last year and had a hard time because I got involved with the wrong people. But you will be fine!!!
I am staying home this year and going to community college. I am nervous too, but it will be fine. It's something new and you don't know what to expect... I also have to take Math and Accounting, gross.
I am staying home this year and going to community college. I am nervous too, but it will be fine. It's something new and you don't know what to expect... I also have to take Math and Accounting, gross.
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Oh, I remember that anxious/fearfull feeling! Try not to think about it too much and enjoy the rest of your summer.
College certainly is different. The people, the classes, everything! Nights can be long at times, specially if you don't know anyone there. But the thing that always helped me was realizing that I was NOT alone, but I had the creator of the entire Universe right behind me the entire time! With Him, you're unstoppable and never ever alone.
Also, don't be afraid to replace a few no's with an occasional yes. (Not like drugs or sex or anything like that of course) I'm normally a very shy person and always would say no to people asking to take me places and go out. Well, thanks to saying "yes" once (and the first time too!) it allowed me to meet my AMAZING girlfriend of 2 and a half years! So, don't be afraid to take some chances. It's college! That's what you're there for! 90% of what you learn in college will be outside of school.
Also, don't become a bookworm and throw everyone else aside for homework. Life is more than stupid grades. Everyone has (or had, as in my case) "those friends" who never do anything fun with you except study.
College certainly is different. The people, the classes, everything! Nights can be long at times, specially if you don't know anyone there. But the thing that always helped me was realizing that I was NOT alone, but I had the creator of the entire Universe right behind me the entire time! With Him, you're unstoppable and never ever alone.
Also, don't be afraid to replace a few no's with an occasional yes. (Not like drugs or sex or anything like that of course) I'm normally a very shy person and always would say no to people asking to take me places and go out. Well, thanks to saying "yes" once (and the first time too!) it allowed me to meet my AMAZING girlfriend of 2 and a half years! So, don't be afraid to take some chances. It's college! That's what you're there for! 90% of what you learn in college will be outside of school.
Also, don't become a bookworm and throw everyone else aside for homework. Life is more than stupid grades. Everyone has (or had, as in my case) "those friends" who never do anything fun with you except study.
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Kristin364
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Don't be afraid to get out and get involved! I have a tough time doing that and it makes it hard to break away from schoolwork and make friends.
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meet lots of people. remember that everyone's in the same boat at the beginning. most don't know anyone or only a few. they're looking for friends. it's easier to make friends right off than a year or so down the road.
oh yeah, keep up with your work. playing catch-up's no fun. trust me on that. no one's going to force you to sit down and do homework that will never be looked at while in class. read what the prof assigns no matter how boring it is. some of them like testing over material they didn't cover in class. also, make sure you're aware of the format of each profs tests. don't go in expecting a multiple guess and wind up with a short answer/essay. that's one very easy way to fail. don't be shy about going to your profs office during hours. make friends with the prof if they're not really busy. it's harder to fail a person when you know how hard they're working. ask questions and participate in class.
and that's about all the advice i can give.
oh yeah, sleep. sleep is important. and aside from everything i've said about classes, have fun. breaks are important and help keep you sane.
oh yeah, keep up with your work. playing catch-up's no fun. trust me on that. no one's going to force you to sit down and do homework that will never be looked at while in class. read what the prof assigns no matter how boring it is. some of them like testing over material they didn't cover in class. also, make sure you're aware of the format of each profs tests. don't go in expecting a multiple guess and wind up with a short answer/essay. that's one very easy way to fail. don't be shy about going to your profs office during hours. make friends with the prof if they're not really busy. it's harder to fail a person when you know how hard they're working. ask questions and participate in class.
and that's about all the advice i can give.
oh yeah, sleep. sleep is important. and aside from everything i've said about classes, have fun. breaks are important and help keep you sane.
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Yeah, I start university this year too (did 2 yrs. at Comm. Coll.) With two years of college under my belt: get involved in extracurriculars, that's that fastest way to meet ppl and make friends. If you have any talent (athletically, artistically, whatever) get on a team or in a club, you'll have more friends than you'll be able to hang out with!!! Do your home work, even if its not required. I learned that by getting a C in Calculus. Don't procrastinate. It is really not fun to do a project/paper/notebook/whatever the night before its due (on top of it not being wise).
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