Age differences

[plum]

I also posted this in the Marriage forum to hear what they have to say too.

Are you younger or older than your mate? By how much?
Does it affect anything in your relationship?
Did it used to?
Do you ever think about it?
Do both of you "act your ages"?
Was age ever of any significance when you started your relationship?

 

[miss_klara]

I'm one month younger... tehehe!!
He was born the calendar year before me, in December, and my birthday's in January.

So we're both 20, and I gotta admit, when I first met him I thought he was a lot older. I think I'm quite a 'young' 20 year old in many ways, but in a lot of other ways I'm pretty mature and responsible. He's exactly the same. He's incredibly mature, but can turn around and be a total 'guy', messing around and doing silly stuff. Maybe we're like this cuz we're both youth leaders and need to keep in touch with our silly sides? Tehehe....!!

 

[Blank123]

i'm younger by about a year. so I voted I like choosing the 'other' option because I'm a trouble maker

It weird though because I've been convinced for a few years I would only ever date guys who are at least 3 or 4 years older than me because I usually connect best with them and then this guy comes along and I've never clicked as well with anyone as I do with him

 

[gsmart]

I only put older by > 3yrs because there was no three year option and technically speaking we are slightly less than three years.

I don't think the age difference ever really mattered for us. Nor do I think it matters in the grand scheme of things. You can have men and women who act older or younger than what they really are. I think what makes things click is if the maturity level is close. And other than the occasional ribbing I get for being "old" I've never found the age difference affecting my relationship with my SO.

 

[bumblebee62331]

Are you younger or older than your mate? By how much?
I'm older by 6 months.

Does it affect anything in your relationship?
No, not really but sometimes when I'm getting upset about something, he'll pull the "I'm younger than you and I'm more mature" card.

Did it used to?
N/A

Do you ever think about it?
No, not really. I mean, it doesn't make me wish I wasn't with him, or the other way around. It's not that bigger deal. We love each other, and breaking up over a 6 month age difference is hardly on the cards.

Do both of you "act your ages"?
Yes. But he thinks he's more mature than me because I am a chronic stresserer/worrier and he's more laid-back and relaxed. Hmm. He's Australian and I'm English. Does that say something about that? lol

Was age ever of any significance when you started your relationship?
Sort of. I was a little reluctant about dating him in the beginning because of the difference! But I quickly got over that, because I love him and I wanted to be with him. (aww)

 

[peanutbutter12]

Are you younger or older than your mate? By how much?
I'm older by 4 years and a bunch of months.

Does it affect anything in your relationship?
Err... no

Did it used to?
Nope

Do you ever think about it?
Nope

Do both of you "act your ages"?
Nope.
Actually, I do when it comes to serious matters like business. But the rest of the time, we just have fun.

Was age ever of any significance when you started your relationship?
I was a bit at odds with how her family would feel about it, but they didn't care. They were more interested in what kind of person I am.

CJ

 

[plum]

Guess I could answer my own question!
I'm younger by 3.5 years.
It only affects our relationship when we remember different things from our childhoods (he has abetter memory of his youth than I do anyway) or talk about schooling in some way or another.
I think about it when he mentions his age or a birthday comes around. I like to tease him for being old even though he isn't
I think I act older than my age and he acts younger than his. Not sure if we meet in the middle though.
It was of no significance when we started dating.

 

[HolyOne87]

Are you younger or older than your mate? By how much?
Im younger than my mate by 3 years(im 19 and he's 22)

Does it affect anything in your relationship?
It doesnt really affect anything right now.

Did it used to?
nope

Do you ever think about it?
at times, yes

Do both of you "act your ages"?
for the most part yes(i sometimes act more mature for my age, but thats how I am)..sometimes we can both act like children but its all in fun. lol

Was age ever of any significance when you started your relationship?
for me yes. I wanted someone older for maturity reasons. I went younger once and his maturity was very low compared to mine. Now with my new mate, him and I are almost equal.

 

[Rin4Christ]

I also posted this in the Marriage forum to hear what they have to say too.

Are you younger or older than your mate? By how much?
Does it affect anything in your relationship?
Did it used to?
Do you ever think about it?
Do both of you "act your ages"?
Was age ever of any significance when you started your relationship?

I get to be the first extreme poster on this thread. lol

I am younger than my fiance- by 13 years. (gasp if you want)

It does affect our relationship somewhat. He has already overcome some things that I am still dealing with. We have different memories of childhood. But it doesn't affect the fact that we have alot in common, are very compatible with each other, and both love the Lord.

the age difference is less important the longer we know each other. I think about it from time to time, but it doesn't really bother me anymore. We talk about it sometimes- how it affects our different outlooks in life.

I don't know if we "act out ages." Most people who know me first assume he is 3 or 4 years older than me, and see his behavior accordingly. He is very light hearted and tries not to take life to seriously. Also he is is a graduate student, so many people might guess his age as younger because of that. If people know him first they tend to assume I am closer to his age. At a family gathering some distant relative invited us to an "80s night" at a local club they were going to. "it will be the music we all love and grew up with" (I don't like 80s music)

Age was a bigger deal before we started dating. in fact- I had a big crush on him when I thought he was ~26 and then when I learned his age I listed him in the "friends but not datable" category. As we grew closer as friends the age difference became less important and after some encouragement from my friends (and parents... and pastor.... and just about everyone who knew us) I came to realise that the age difference wasn't really that big of a deal.

 

[intricatic]

Well, right now, she's a year younger than me, but it hasn't even been a factor, and I'm doubtful it will be. She's simply wonderful, and that year doesn't make any difference one way or the other.

 

[ItalianAngel]

I also posted this in the Marriage forum to hear what they have to say too.

Are you younger or older than your mate? By how much? I'm quite a bit younger than my So, actually. I'm 33 and he's 57.
Does it affect anything in your relationship? Other than the fact that he's had more life expirence than I have, not at all.
Did it used to? Yes it did. He wasn't comfortable with the age gap at first. It took awhile to realize how the age difference didn't matter to me.
Do you ever think about it? I do at times
Do both of you "act your ages"? No. I think I act like a sixteen-year-old at times and Bob acts as if he's in his twenties.
Was age ever of any significance when you started your relationship? not at all

blessings,
~Michele

 

[Rin4Christ]

Glad to know there really are others with a big age gap. how old were you when the relationship first started?

 

[ItalianAngel]

Glad to know there really are others with a big age gap. how old were you when the relationship first started?

I was 28 and he was 52, Rin4Christ.

...I'd also like to point out that my maternal great grandparents had were 16 years apart.

blessings,
~Michele

 

[TravellingGrace]

I also posted this in the Marriage forum to hear what they have to say too.

Are you younger or older than your mate? By how much?
Does it affect anything in your relationship?
Did it used to?
Do you ever think about it?
Do both of you "act your ages"?
Was age ever of any significance when you started your relationship?

4 years and 9 months younger than him (approximately).
Um, I'm sure it probably will affect some things in our relationship.
Every once in a while... it's still sort of weird, but whatever, lol!
I don't think either of us acts our age unless we have to.
I think I cared more about it before, and to be honest, before I met him I wouldn't have dated somebody that much older than me, but things change!

 

[MsH2006]

Are you younger or older than your mate? Older

By how much? 4 1/2 years

Does it affect anything in your relationship? No

Did it used to? No

Do you ever think about it? No

Do both of you "act your ages"? Yes

Was age ever of any significance when you started your relationship?No
.

 

[Rin4Christ]

before I met him I wouldn't have dated somebody that much older than me, but things change!

Me too. I even consitered him "undatable" for awhile because of age, but as you say "things change"

 

[KellyLeigh]

my fiance is 3 years older than me. The age difference isn't a problem. It's no so drastic that we are on completely different paths right now.

 

[AnaSnow]

I am 1 year younger. I was really happy to find someone close to my age. I have always been most compatible with someone older. I have dated someone much older and another a year younger. Neither relationship worked. Among several other things, I believe age did play a role.

We are similar in that we are both pretty mature, but remain in touch with our inner child. We act our age when necessary.

We never really talk about the year age difference and I honestly never really think about it.

 

[allthatisgone]

Guys mature emotionally less fast than girls, and a lot of guys are immature on top of that. But then a lotta girls are too. I myself came to the point of considering myself above age differences, but Ive had to go back to what I used to believe: its usually better when guys are older or near your age. Ive found most guys I talked to, my age and older to be...well less mature than what I'd have liked and could relate to. Though Ive also heard that girls need to bring guys along.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

*Are you younger or older than your mate? By how much?

My fiance is 12 years my senior.

*Does it affect anything in your relationship?

No, and it never has.

*Do you ever think about it?

Sometimes.

*Was age ever of any significance when you started your relationship?

No.

DIANE