After 2 Years

[Living4Him03]

About two years ago when I was still living in the dorms I dated this one guy for awhile. Well, there were a few weeks that went by when we decided to not date. Then, he called me and told me he wanted to date me again. I was so glad and excited. But, he never called me back after that, at least not until several months later. When he called several months later he said the reason he hadn't called was because his fiance's Mom passed away and he wanted to be there for her. Of course, I was extremely CONFUSED ...I mean, I didn't hear from him for several months then he was engaged all of a sudden. I got no explanations and he was very unwilling to discuss it. After finding out he was engaged, I decided to just stop talking to him...I didn't need that kind of drama in my life that's for sure. Today I checked my email in my old address and there was an email from him. He just said he was looking for someone with my name and to please email him back.

What should I think of this? I emailed him back and told him that I do remember him and hope he is doing well, that's all. Why would someone who is married (I assume) contact an old girlfriend? I can't think of a reason he would need to/wish to contact me. Has anyone had a similar experience? I'm not sure how to react.

 

[growingupinhim]

the guy seems to be unstable..probaly didnt get married or worse..the marrige didnt work out..why open a can of worms.

 

[Raanan]

I wouldn't base your reaction on any assumptions. As my high school english teacher used to say, "assumptions just make you an ass." Find out what his intentions are. If he's still unstable as growingupinhim put it, stay away. Otherwise, be the light of Jesus in his life. Cheers

 

[Protein]

I've had a similar thing happen with me recently. This Girl contacted me a few weeks ago. We were an item about a year ago, but then she chose this other guy over me (Well it was a little more than that, but this will suffice for now). When she called me up a couple weeks ago she was coming back to me saying that she wanted me in her life again. At first I was like.. "umm no", but then after talking with her for about a week, I was lured in. I knew I was making a mistake, but feelings can make people do crazy things.

To make a long story short, I was burned majorly this week. My advice to you, I would be very careful with this situation of yours. From what you wrote, red flags were popping up for me. You already know that this guy has caused you trouble (IE: un-needed stress and drama), so why introduce this into your life again? It sounds like you've already moved on, so why bring this stuff back up? Curiosity can hurt sometimes... and boy does it. So I would stop with the communication with this guy altogether.