Afraid of commitment

[Heartofsilver]

Hello everyone,

My boyfriend and I were talking about our separate incomes and how we can put that together after I graduate in about a year and we get married. We then started talking about getting a place in a nearby city and he started looking up condos right then for some reason. While having dinner, he started crying and I held him. I know that he is a sensitive guy and he has mild aspergers which causes him anxiety. I also have disabilities. He later told me that talking about getting a place someday and looking those condos up was very overwhelming. I told him that I was flattered that he was looking up places and agreed that we don't have to look that up right now. He also didn't take his medication last night.

He has told me that he wants to get married and have children someday. He has also mentioned that after we have been together for over a year that he wants to propose which is coming up.

I do fear being dragged along instead of getting married and I'm afraid that he is afraid to get married to me. I also think us becoming independent adults scares the both of us lol.

 

[ChicanaRose]

Hello everyone,

My boyfriend and I were talking about our separate incomes and how we can put that together after I graduate in about a year and we get married.

You guys are still young. I suggest you go through pre-marital counseling and attend marriage preparation seminars that many churches offer.

 

[Tolworth John]

Hello everyone,

My boyfriend and I were talking about our separate incomes and how we can put that together after I graduate in about a year and we get married. We then started talking about getting a place in a nearby city and he started looking up condos right then for some reason. While having dinner, he started crying and I held him. I know that he is a sensitive guy and he has mild aspergers which causes him anxiety. I also have disabilities. He later told me that talking about getting a place someday and looking those condos up was very overwhelming. I told him that I was flattered that he was looking up places and
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agreed that we don't have to look that up right now. He also didn't take his medication last night.

He has told me that he wants to get married and have children someday. He has also mentioned that after we have been together for over a year that he wants to propose which is coming up.

I do fear being dragged along instead of getting married and I'm afraid that he is afraid to get married to me. I also think us becoming independent adults scares the both of us lol.

As ChicanRose says talk to your church minister about doing a marriage preparation course.

Also make it clear to your boyfriend that you will Not be living with him, that it is marriage or nothing.

You know him so don't be as blunt as that, but make it clear that marriage is the way forward.

Suggest taking it step by step, engagement, then setting a date, doing another marriage prep course, seeking somewhere to live, maybe new jobs etc, then marriage.