Advise Please

[Sinless_angels]

Hi...

Man do I have a problum or what!!

Well where do I start this is all so messed up...

There are two guys I like..I'll tell you about one then the other

There's Matt he's going threw a real hard time at the moment, his little brother just dieded in a car accident about 7months ago, and then to toip things off he found out his dad was sleeping with his 17year deads sons gf. So I have been minstering to him and he came back to the lord last night. I do really like him but it is best thing at the moment just to be there as a friend.

Then theres my neighbour Lucas, well i'm sorta seeing him and he is not a christian. He was raied in a christian home and he has no problums with it and is very open mined. I actually called it off with him because I told him it wouldnt work because he wasnt a christian. And he said it would and it wouldnt create any problums. But hey sum how im still with him.

It's so now working I feel, Im sure gods creating these feelings. But he drinks and partys still and im not into that sence anymore nor do I ever want to be again. He comes over to my house late after beening drinking and he reaks I cant stand it. Im so confused. Dunno what to do or how to talk to him about this without hurting his feelings. He really likes me and im the first person he has ever really liked. ARGHHHH im so confused... He told our mate that he is getting frustrated that he cant sleep with me... and i told him that would happen and cause a problum. But silly him thought it wouldnt and it would be sweet...

I've been praying about this for awhile... I can actually feel im getting slowly pulled away from my faith by the devil and his works. I know what I have to do... I wanted to talk to him tonight but nope guess where he is, out drinking. He is such a nice caring person... He has good qualities but he missing the most important thing.

Any advice would be great I know what I have to do, but some encourgment would be good.

Thanks

 

[Kepa]

I wish to encourage you to do what you know you have to do (which I assume is breaking up with Lucas).

I'm sure you've seen/read this verse many a time, but I think it's worth mentioning again.

2Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

Phi 1:9 And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment;

Oh, I'd also suggest not getting in a relationship with the Matt guy, as he'd be terribly emotional, I'm sure.


Peace

 

[boilerblues]

you need to break off the relationship with your unbelieving friends, you said you feel it pulling you away from your faith.

Matt. 5:29 If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
Matt. 5:30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.

You are going to hurt his feelings and you yourself will be hurt, there's no way around it. But better for both of you to hurt than for your relationship with him to pull you away from Christ.

It would also be wise to avoid a relationship with your other friend for a while. He needs some time to heal before he gets emotionally involved with someone.

 

[Sinless_angels]

I know... But it's just so hard and I hate hurting people.. And its just got harder. Found out he loves me which is just great.. Just as i thought it couldnt get worse.

I tried talking to him tonight after he got home but I chickened out. He kept telling me how much he really liked me and how he had never felt this way before and how im such a good influence on him. He wants to stop partying and drinking now...

But I know what I have to do but I feel like such a *****..(oops can I say that)

Yeh i wasnt going to take it any further with matt, that the last thing he need. And me I think, I dont think im even ready for another relationship.

Not after my last one I was in. It left me pretty messed up ae.

I wish to encourage you to do what you know you have to do (which I assume is breaking up with Lucas).

I'm sure you've seen/read this verse many a time, but I think it's worth mentioning again.

2Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

Phi 1:9 And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment;

Oh, I'd also suggest not getting in a relationship with the Matt guy, as he'd be terribly emotional, I'm sure.


Peace

 

[JPPT1974]

I know... But it's just so hard and I hate hurting people.. And its just got harder. Found out he loves me which is just great.. Just as i thought it couldnt get worse.

I tried talking to him tonight after he got home but I chickened out. He kept telling me how much he really liked me and how he had never felt this way before and how im such a good influence on him. He wants to stop partying and drinking now...

But I know what I have to do but I feel like such a *****..(oops can I say that)

Yeh i wasnt going to take it any further with matt, that the last thing he need. And me I think, I dont think im even ready for another relationship.

Not after my last one I was in. It left me pretty messed up ae.

God will guide you to the right relationship as he has one planned for you that is if you submit whole-heartedly to him!