Advice?

[Hambonewc]

Hello all. I'm new here and signed up for some advice on an issue I'm struggling with.

I went on a date with a woman who I am very interested in, and the date went fantastic. For the first time in a long time I'm excited about the possibilities. I've struggled for 3 years with the fact that my wife left me another man. So I'm feeling really good right now. However there's one issue that came up and I am really struggling with it. She is pro-choice on the issue of abortion. That's the political issue I'm most passionate about and I'm 100% against abortion. She's never had an abortion and doesn't believe in it for herself but she doesn't believe it should be a choice. My question is, is it possible for a relationship to work with opposing views on this particular subject. And also, is it morally wrong to enter into a relationship with someone who is pro-choice?

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

biblical divorce law regarding your last marriage aside, you would have to discern whether or not being with this woman is going to cause you to violate your conscience and compromise your stance on the issue of 'abortion'.

my advise would be that this is something you will need to discuss with her.

 

[bhsmte]

Hello all. I'm new here and signed up for some advice on an issue I'm struggling with.

I went on a date with a woman who I am very interested in, and the date went fantastic. For the first time in a long time I'm excited about the possibilities. I've struggled for 3 years with the fact that my wife left me another man. So I'm feeling really good right now. However there's one issue that came up and I am really struggling with it. She is pro-choice on the issue of abortion. That's the political issue I'm most passionate about and I'm 100% against abortion. She's never had an abortion and doesn't believe in it for herself but she doesn't believe it should be a choice. My question is, is it possible for a relationship to work with opposing views on this particular subject. And also, is it morally wrong to enter into a relationship with someone who is pro-choice?

It all comes down to each persons appetite to respect another persons view point and understand people have their own reasons to hold them. If this exists, the relationship could work.

 

[Albion]

It is entirely possible to have a meaningful and fulfilling relationship while there are some ethical disagreements. To be sure, it matters what those disagreements happen to be and whether or not the two individuals can "live and let live" as far as knowing that the other party holds an opposing view. But no, there is no inherent reason why this that you've described to us should keep you apart.

That said, some people just cannot function that way, so find out if you two are of their type...or not.

 

[Matthew B]

Hello all. I'm new here and signed up for some advice on an issue I'm struggling with.

I went on a date with a woman who I am very interested in, and the date went fantastic. For the first time in a long time I'm excited about the possibilities. I've struggled for 3 years with the fact that my wife left me another man. So I'm feeling really good right now. However there's one issue that came up and I am really struggling with it. She is pro-choice on the issue of abortion. That's the political issue I'm most passionate about and I'm 100% against abortion. She's never had an abortion and doesn't believe in it for herself but she doesn't believe it should be a choice. My question is, is it possible for a relationship to work with opposing views on this particular subject. And also, is it morally wrong to enter into a relationship with someone who is pro-choice?

Your relationship would work you'd just have to not talk about that subject or risk having a debate/argument. I believe it would be morally wrong to marry someone who is willing to tell someone it is okay to have an abortion. That is like telling someone it is okay to murder someone. Of course you could be able to change her to become pro-life. But I'd do it before marriage!

 

[PsychoSarah]

Hello all. I'm new here and signed up for some advice on an issue I'm struggling with.

I went on a date with a woman who I am very interested in, and the date went fantastic. For the first time in a long time I'm excited about the possibilities. I've struggled for 3 years with the fact that my wife left me another man. So I'm feeling really good right now. However there's one issue that came up and I am really struggling with it. She is pro-choice on the issue of abortion. That's the political issue I'm most passionate about and I'm 100% against abortion. She's never had an abortion and doesn't believe in it for herself but she doesn't believe it should be a choice. My question is, is it possible for a relationship to work with opposing views on this particular subject. And also, is it morally wrong to enter into a relationship with someone who is pro-choice?

Everyone has differences of opinions, and my relationship has worked despite having a similar difference in view as this.

I am strongly in favor of the death penalty, whereas my fiance is strongly opposed to it. We've even debated with each other about it a couple of times, and we've been able to keep those debates friendly even though neither of us changed our mind. As long as neither of you feel the need to constantly bring it up, I see no reason why your relationship can't work.

As for the morality side of it, two different people are bound to have some differences in their moral perspective. I don't think you should feel as if dating this person is immoral just because they think differently than you do, otherwise, you'll be alone forever.

 

[durangodawood]

I think that if the two of you have values that match up well in every other important way, then you might want to take some time to examine why this one value stands out. Maybe one of you isnt thinking about it properly?

 

[Hambonewc]

Thank you everyone for your advice! It's giving me clarity.

 

[Daniel Marsh]

Mary her, as a couple get involved in a children's ministry. Allow God's influence in that context to change her thinking.

 

[Ana the Ist]

Hello all. I'm new here and signed up for some advice on an issue I'm struggling with.

I went on a date with a woman who I am very interested in, and the date went fantastic. For the first time in a long time I'm excited about the possibilities. I've struggled for 3 years with the fact that my wife left me another man. So I'm feeling really good right now. However there's one issue that came up and I am really struggling with it. She is pro-choice on the issue of abortion. That's the political issue I'm most passionate about and I'm 100% against abortion. She's never had an abortion and doesn't believe in it for herself but she doesn't believe it should be a choice. My question is, is it possible for a relationship to work with opposing views on this particular subject. And also, is it morally wrong to enter into a relationship with someone who is pro-choice?

I know this may not directly answer your question...but it is advice...

If the top priority in a relationship between you and a woman is her political views...chances are you aren't ready for a relationship. You should be focused on what makes you happy and what long term/short term goals you have for this relationship. You want to be able to get to know someone and appreciate them for who they are...then figure out if who they are is someone you want to spend your life with.

The fact that you're even asking these questions makes me think you've got some rather high expectations and you're entering into this relationship for all the wrong reasons. Self validation shouldn't come from some woman who you want to replace your wife.

Best of luck.