Advice Please

[Saint Jared Bell]

Hi my mother brings up my past alot in my weak moments how can I handle this when she accuses me and throws my past in my face?

 

[returntosender]

You have to be respectful but you could do it back at her and then ask her how she likes it. It always used to upset my daughter when I brought up her past errors but if she continues to do the same thing how can you not,? Have you told her it hurts you? Remind her of forgiveness? Don't keep doing the same thing?

 

[Minister Monardo]

Hi my mother brings up my past alot in my weak moments how can I handle this when she accuses me and throws my past in my face?

Say "yes mam" and let the moment pass. By your
own admission, this regularly happens at "weaker
moments", therefore you have to receive criticism
as from the Lord. If and when her treatment of you opposes God's Will as you understand it, then you
must really press in by prayers and thanksgiving,
because you may have reached a limit that the
Lord has set: "He that loves mother or father
more than Me is not worthy of Me" Matthew 10:37

 

[timf]

The subject sounds like how to set boundaries.

You might ask her, "How does recrimination help either you or me?".

Sometimes people say hurtful things to manipulate or simply to vent emotional frustration on others. They may be forced to reduce this if asked to explain their actions.

 

[Maria Billingsley]

Hi my mother brings up my past alot in my weak moments how can I handle this when she accuses me and throws my past in my face?

Welcome to CF. We are to forgive one another. Ask her if she has forgiven you.
Blessings.

 

[Tolworth John]

Hi my mother brings up my past alot in my weak moments how can I handle this when she accuses me and throws my past in my face?

As has already been said, you are going to have to talk to her about this.
Ask her why does she do this?
If your past hurt her, ask if she has forgiven you for that past hurt and point out that forgiveness also means forgetting.

If this is all part of an argument, learn from it that when arguing bring up the past does not help, it is distructive, to argue in a constructive way one has to say how the others words, deeds etc effect oneself.


If your mother is set in her ways, unable to change you will have to develop thick skin and just say yes and pay no attention to those comments.
If possible walk away.

 

[Blade]

Hi my mother brings up my past alot in my weak moments how can I handle this when she accuses me and throws my past in my face?

We return love mercy grace.. sometimes righteous anger. Yet with the lord He does not remember our past as its written "but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus"

Now your mom is not the enemy but the enemy will use people we love to hit us so to speak. Me and my wife blood of Jesus did it for years "what about you" and then dive in to the past and attack. But then you learn.. not to return evil for evil.

There are times we just say.. yes your right.. that was bad.. going to better YOUR FATHER does not remember..