Advice please

[godsgurl25]

Hello,
I am new here and wanted to post a new thread but don't know where to post it. It's about relationships. I recently got out of a serious 5 year-long relationship about 7 months ago and am very lonely. I know that God is with me and Jesus said He will never leave me or forsake me but I find myself so desperately seeking approval and attention from men. It's gotten to the point where I'm focused so much on my appearance that it's almost become an idol. I try to eat healthy and exercise and look nice but I'm afraid it might be becoming an idol for me. I have no idea what it feels like to feel safe and comfortable with a man anymore because of how much I've been hurt. I feel like every man will just disappoint me. How can I get over this intense desire to be with someone while I'm so scared of it at the same time?

 

[faroukfarouk]

Hi; good to see you; God bless His Word to you. Prayer and the Scriptures are both a comfort to the lonely and a solid basis for a Christian relationship. John 14.1 thru 27 is a great passage; as is Psalm 46.

 

[huk945]

Just a suggestion. Instead of spending time trying to find the right person, spend the time trying to learn how to BE the right person and let God take care of the finding part.

 

[godsgurl25]

Great advice, thank you

 

[Victor E.]

Hello,
I am new here and wanted to post a new thread but don't know where to post it. It's about relationships. I recently got out of a serious 5 year-long relationship about 7 months ago and am very lonely. I know that God is with me and Jesus said He will never leave me or forsake me but I find myself so desperately seeking approval and attention from men. It's gotten to the point where I'm focused so much on my appearance that it's almost become an idol. I try to eat healthy and exercise and look nice but I'm afraid it might be becoming an idol for me. I have no idea what it feels like to feel safe and comfortable with a man anymore because of how much I've been hurt. I feel like every man will just disappoint me. How can I get over this intense desire to be with someone while I'm so scared of it at the same time?

I think it's ok to find yourself. It's ok to seek what makes you happy. It is pleasing to God when we are happy and unburdened by the world.

Matthew 11:30 Galatians 5:1 John 15:15

I think there's no such thing as "taking out of context"! It is so much simpler than the world makes it! Take what is encouraging to you! However, EVERYTHING in GODS WORD is encouraging in complete FAITH. That is what I know to be true. I know because HE spoke it. It's God-Breathed and HE loves US! He loves us more than we know..

 

[drjean]

True words above. It isn't a good thing to look for someone to complete you...be who God wants you to be and then look for the person who compliments who you are, and vice versa!

 

[bookofjade]

Hello,
I am new here and wanted to post a new thread but don't know where to post it. It's about relationships. I recently got out of a serious 5 year-long relationship about 7 months ago and am very lonely. I know that God is with me and Jesus said He will never leave me or forsake me but I find myself so desperately seeking approval and attention from men. It's gotten to the point where I'm focused so much on my appearance that it's almost become an idol. I try to eat healthy and exercise and look nice but I'm afraid it might be becoming an idol for me. I have no idea what it feels like to feel safe and comfortable with a man anymore because of how much I've been hurt. I feel like every man will just disappoint me. How can I get over this intense desire to be with someone while I'm so scared of it at the same time?

Stop looking and someone will come your way.

 

[Cute Tink]

Welcome to CF. My name is Kristen. If you need help with something, let me know.

You should focus on being the person that you feel is right and less on being the person you think someone else wants you to be.

I hope you enjoy your time and find what you are looking for here.