Advice on age gap in a relationship

[MTG9416]

Hi, everyone.

I am 30 years old and am dating a 20-year-old girl. I haven't dated many girls in my life, but all who I have dated were around my age, excpect for this one I am with right now. I really like her and our relationship has been very respectful. Our families approve of us dating. However, since the very beginning, this large age gap has been weighing on my mind and causing me a lot of worry. Sometimes I feel like I am creep for dating someone so much younger. What should I do? Should I end things now, even if that hurts me and her? I want and I need to make the right decision.

Thank you

 

[John G.]

Relax! The problem is only in your head.
Not too long ago, most couples had a similar age difference.
A man would work, build up his fortune and then look for a wife.
My uncle was 37 when he married a 20-year old bride. As for my parents... don't even ask!

 

[com7fy8]

First of all, welcome to Christian Forums.

Age alone does not tell anything. As you get to know more people, you might discover that you are liking a number of people a lot. So, you need to be able to make sure with God. And mature so you are able to tell what is good to do with each person you know > with Jesus you will know more and more children of God who you will greatly appreciate; and so you will need to know how to pray and be guided by God in how to share with each dearly loved person you get to know in Jesus.

I think a good rule can be to pray together until you are in agreement with God about what to do. And if you are not sure, go easy. And there is no reason to get hurt if you are obeying God, and are sharing in His love. Because God's love will give us strength and wisdom for how to deal with realities in our relationships.

 

[AlexB23]

Hi, everyone.

I am 30 years old and am dating a 20-year-old girl. I haven't dated many girls in my life, but all who I have dated were around my age, excpect for this one I am with right now. I really like her and our relationship has been very respectful. Our families approve of us dating. However, since the very beginning, this large age gap has been weighing on my mind and causing me a lot of worry. Sometimes I feel like I am creep for dating someone so much younger. What should I do? Should I end things now, even if that hurts me and her? I want and I need to make the right decision.

Thank you

Nothing wrong with that. I would be more nervous if you were 40 going for 20, but 30 and 20 is okay.

For myself, if I ever dated at age 30, the youngest woman I'd go for is 22, while the oldest would be in their mid-40s.

 

[Diamond72]

I am 30 years old and am dating a 20-year-old girl.

Women prefer older men because they are more responsible then the men their age. I do not see 10 or 20 years as being an issue. Some women are looking for more of a daddy than a boyfriend. People do have problems with older women and younger men.

 

[Richard T]

As you get older the age gap will not be so noticeable. If it ain't broke don't fix it should apply. Yes, at the end of life it is more likely you will die before her, but the way things are going the rapture is likely, plus things are so messed up now that the stability would probably be a good enhancement. Just don't play with her heart and hopefully she won't play with yours.

 

[SabbathBlessings]

Hi, everyone.

I am 30 years old and am dating a 20-year-old girl. I haven't dated many girls in my life, but all who I have dated were around my age, excpect for this one I am with right now. I really like her and our relationship has been very respectful. Our families approve of us dating. However, since the very beginning, this large age gap has been weighing on my mind and causing me a lot of worry. Sometimes I feel like I am creep for dating someone so much younger. What should I do? Should I end things now, even if that hurts me and her? I want and I need to make the right decision.

Thank you

10 years is not a big deal once someone is fully an adult. At 20, this is really a child, still not fully developed into an adult. I personally do not feel like its fair to the 20-year-old. who is just beginning her adulthood. Speaking from experience on this exact situation at 20. If its weighing on your mind there is a reason for that, I appreciate you trying to be respectful.

 

[eleos1954]

Hi, everyone.

I am 30 years old and am dating a 20-year-old girl. I haven't dated many girls in my life, but all who I have dated were around my age, excpect for this one I am with right now. I really like her and our relationship has been very respectful. Our families approve of us dating. However, since the very beginning, this large age gap has been weighing on my mind and causing me a lot of worry. Sometimes I feel like I am creep for dating someone so much younger. What should I do? Should I end things now, even if that hurts me and her? I want and I need to make the right decision.

Thank you

If you get along I wouldn't be concerned about it ... the important thing is that the both of you are in Christ.

 

[Darktriad]

So long as you don't become your woman's pet and she is of age all gaps are permitted.