advice needed in Unequal yoke

[shaaz_99]

hi there all....
first of all love y'all in Jesus.

Can i get some advice?.My hubby and i are quite a wierd combination, we started out as a couple who did'nt really share a lot of common interests etc, and we were both quite independent in our outtlook to the realationship.We do love each other deeply and our realationship surprised even us i think in how it has so far worked.

i have been a Christian for 3 years now and recently i have found myself wanting us to spend even a little time together as a couple.We did used to do this, but my hubby points out that we now have 4 wee ones also, so getting time is tough....(Tough but possible!).he does'nt seem interested tho, he will go out to the pub with mates from work , or for coffee with friends but with me???.I don't want to sound ungrateful, he treats me really well he's just not the same.

I am in prayer about this also, it's an ongoing thing.I was just wondering ....any ideas?

 

[pamper_lamb]

Is hubby facing some problem or stress that he would feel better to talk with other ppl than you? Btw is he a believer or non-believer?

 

[shaaz_99]

no he's not a Christian......not yet anyway........

 

[shaaz_99]

no troubles or stresses that i know of....he just seems different recently.eg : intimacy (Husband and wife stuff) is'nt really that important to him (he says he's too busy...but he's not too busy to go out with friends ...).i really don't understand it.

 

[KleinerApfel]

I would think that 4 very small children, lovely though they are, would be enough to add stress to any marriage. Not that it can't be coped with, but even so, it's still a stress factor. Life is not easy; it's tiring, expensive, and curbs a lot of pre-children activities for parents. It's a big adjustment for you both.
I wish I could suggest something to help.

Have you posted this elsewhere? This is probably very little, if at all, connected to being unequally yoked.
Posting on Christian advice, or the general "Marriage" area might get you a lot more readers, and hopefully someone else who has got through a similar situation might give more encouraging replies than I, as a mother of just one precious daughter, can offer.

I do think you need to tackle it soon, rather than letting him get into a long-term habit of this though.

God bless, Susana

 

[shaaz_99]

thanks susanna, i may look into changing it over...tho i am not sure how you do that!!! lol
I am v new!!!