I need some advice on a sticky situation. My best friend has recently become very close to my pastors wife and has come under their 'authority'. As a result she is now called on at all hours for any and every situation, for counselling, to run the youth group, to attend different conferences and much other church stuff. Well this is not bad in itself she is now so busy I hardly ever see her at all and I fear she is becoming worn out, she also works a normal job as well. My fear is that most of the other people who have done this authority training have had physical breakdowns from the fast pace. Should I say something directly to her? I have already told her to look after her self but she doesn't seem to take much notice. We have just left this church (for totally different reasons) so I don't want to seem like having sour grapes.
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Hi Kiwi,
Maybe you could talk to her and let her know that you're concerned and even tell her that you miss spending time with her. But you may find out that she is having the time of her life and loves being so involved. Most people won't do such things if they don't like it. I think it's important for you to tell her how you feel for the sake of your friendship and for yourself. Once you talk you may both feel better.
Jenn
Maybe you could talk to her and let her know that you're concerned and even tell her that you miss spending time with her. But you may find out that she is having the time of her life and loves being so involved. Most people won't do such things if they don't like it. I think it's important for you to tell her how you feel for the sake of your friendship and for yourself. Once you talk you may both feel better.
Jenn
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I agree w/ Jenn, try letting her know how you feel. It may be possible that she feels pressured into doing so much. If you are able try talking to the pastor and/ or his wife they may be able to help out in getting her to slow down a bit.
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Jocelyn
I agree w/ Jenn, try letting her know how you feel. It may be possible that she feels pressured into doing so much. If you are able try talking to the pastor and/ or his wife they may be able to help out in getting her to slow down a bit.
In Christ,
Jocelyn
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thankyou all, I asked her tonight how she was doing with her heavy workload and she said she had dropped some counciling obligations and is not so busy now so that is good!
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Good advice, but does she have time for her prayer time, time in the word, her family and a little time with her friends? If not, this is not a good situation. Perhaps you can pray about it and then God will tell you what to say.
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