Advice for a single woman

[Srla]

Hello!
I need advice... Sorry this is so long! So just a little background about me:
- im 28 years old
-i was engaged in 2018
-in 2019 God exposed that he was cheating on me (this one is a powerful testimony and all glory to God!)
-i decided to stay single and focus on God and myself, my life has been so much better since! I love being on my own but I do desire a family one day
-i am scared of dating and I really don't want to waste my time with a man who is not my husband
Okay so here's the part I need advice on, it might sound silly lol but sometimes I struggle with doubt I don't even know why, God is so clear with me but I still doubt sigh...

Okay so let me explain the 1st dream I had:
- I bumped into my ex and we caught up a bit and by the end of the conversation I felt relief that I didn't marry him because he didn't change at all, he still didn't have a relationship with God and he was still seeing other women
- after the conversation with my ex I go and sit with another man (I didn't recognize his face) but I did say his name (I don't wanna say the name here lol)
- also, he appeared a bit younger than me lol
So this dream left an impression on me. Dreams normally don't, but this one I remembered every part of it.

The second dream was pretty simple, it was just me coming early to church because my husband was part of the worship team and he needed to practice (super random lol)

So I had these dreams about a year ago, and because I've been so focused on my healing I didn't really dwell on these dreams, just gave it to God and moved on. So, sometime last year (after the dreams) I met a guy with the same name as the guy in the dream, but because I wasnt interested in dating lol I didn't even put the 2 together. After, he started coming to some of my church's events but I don't have any conversations with him I just know he is part of the worship team at his church, and he's younger than me.. lol but anyways, I refuse to pursue a man and I also don't know much about him, but he would always pop up on my suggestions on instagram, like alllll the time. We don't even have that many mutual friends. But I'm like God I am not adding him lol I barely know him! So a couple weeks ago I started thinking of him more and I was like okay fine God I'll add him if I see him on my suggestions again, and after I prayed that he never popped up again LOL I was like okay cool! And then, I also met his sister when I met him and I have her on instagram and she does facials, so I booked her to do a facial on Saturday, and we had great conversation and she was telling me about her brother lol (I didnt ask) but he does seem interesting and does seem to love God. And after weeks of not seeing him on my suggestions, the same day I met with his sister, he popped up again... Looool I found it so weird.... Cus why is he popping up again? God does talk to me in funny ways like this. But am I just being silly??? Lol I refused to act unless God tells me to. And even if I follow him on instagram I refuse to do anything else LOL maybe God wants me to just add him and He'll do the rest??? It's weird because I don't know him, it's not like I'm like crushing on him . But do you guys think it's a bad idea to follow him? We have met but don't really know each other. Am I over thinking?

 

[Sketcher]

Funny story. There was a gal at my church who may or may not have been interested in me at some point (hard to tell with her because of her personality). I didn't bite because I thought her sister was more attractive. Anyway, she ended up marrying someone else with the same name as me. I don't know if she had one of those dreams or not. Just something to think about as you process this.

I don't put a whole lot of stock in stuff like this, been there, done that, and got burned by my own hopes and expectations.

I'd say, date him normally. If it works out, it works out. If it doesn't, it doesn't.

 

[Maria Billingsley]

Hello!
I need advice... Sorry this is so long! So just a little background about me:
- im 28 years old
-i was engaged in 2018
-in 2019 God exposed that he was cheating on me (this one is a powerful testimony and all glory to God!)
-i decided to stay single and focus on God and myself, my life has been so much better since! I love being on my own but I do desire a family one day
-i am scared of dating and I really don't want to waste my time with a man who is not my husband
Okay so here's the part I need advice on, it might sound silly lol but sometimes I struggle with doubt I don't even know why, God is so clear with me but I still doubt sigh...

Okay so let me explain the 1st dream I had:
- I bumped into my ex and we caught up a bit and by the end of the conversation I felt relief that I didn't marry him because he didn't change at all, he still didn't have a relationship with God and he was still seeing other women
- after the conversation with my ex I go and sit with another man (I didn't recognize his face) but I did say his name (I don't wanna say the name here lol)
- also, he appeared a bit younger than me lol
So this dream left an impression on me. Dreams normally don't, but this one I remembered every part of it.

The second dream was pretty simple, it was just me coming early to church because my husband was part of the worship team and he needed to practice (super random lol)

So I had these dreams about a year ago, and because I've been so focused on my healing I didn't really dwell on these dreams, just gave it to God and moved on. So, sometime last year (after the dreams) I met a guy with the same name as the guy in the dream, but because I wasnt interested in dating lol I didn't even put the 2 together. After, he started coming to some of my church's events but I don't have any conversations with him I just know he is part of the worship team at his church, and he's younger than me.. lol but anyways, I refuse to pursue a man and I also don't know much about him, but he would always pop up on my suggestions on instagram, like alllll the time. We don't even have that many mutual friends. But I'm like God I am not adding him lol I barely know him! So a couple weeks ago I started thinking of him more and I was like okay fine God I'll add him if I see him on my suggestions again, and after I prayed that he never popped up again LOL I was like okay cool! And then, I also met his sister when I met him and I have her on instagram and she does facials, so I booked her to do a facial on Saturday, and we had great conversation and she was telling me about her brother lol (I didnt ask) but he does seem interesting and does seem to love God. And after weeks of not seeing him on my suggestions, the same day I met with his sister, he popped up again... Looool I found it so weird.... Cus why is he popping up again? God does talk to me in funny ways like this. But am I just being silly??? Lol I refused to act unless God tells me to. And even if I follow him on instagram I refuse to do anything else LOL maybe God wants me to just add him and He'll do the rest??? It's weird because I don't know him, it's not like I'm like crushing on him . But do you guys think it's a bad idea to follow him? We have met but don't really know each other. Am I over thinking?

Welcome to CF. In today's world following someone on social media is just fine however I question your motive in pursuing his sister in order to gain access. Sounds disingenuous.
Sorry, my thoughts.
Blessings.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I didn't bite because I thought her sister was more attractive.

I don't understand, how is this a reason not to shoot your shot?

 

[Sketcher]

I don't understand, how is this a reason not to shoot your shot?

If I know I'm going to be looking at her sister and wishing I was with her, the sister is the one I should be dating. Unfortunately, I didn't get the shot with her that I'd been wanting.

 

[ReesePiece23]

From my experience, God rarely works like this - I mean, he does, but it's almost always delivered in a clear and succinct fashion. He wouldn't leave you splitting open every atom of the situation and overthinking each and every proton to exhaustion, because, there'd be no doubt. You'd know categorically WHAT He's telling you. You wouldn't need to ask.

I don't know you, but to me, it sounds like you're the sort of person who takes *way* too much to heart, lives and works full time in their own head, and steaks far more emotional currency than what is affordable, on odds that are not really within touching distance.

See how it plays out, but I'd be a bit suspicious that your time and energy is being misdirected by spirits that don't have your best interests. This situation is CLASSIC, and quintessential to the dark side.

There's things that you want to do with your life - epic things, that you can only do when you're single. So, now that you ARE single, there's nothing to distract you. Enjoy it while it lasts, don't fall into traps like these and squander the time you have. Boyfriends will come and go, but time will ONLY go.