Advice About Dating

[454Chevy]

Hello,

I just started college this Fall at a Christian college and I have never dated or been in a relationship with a girl before. I made the decision before I started college not to date until at least my sophomore year so I could focus on classes and grow some personally/spiritually. I have become aware of a young lady that I find attractive and who I believe likes me (based on body language and her staring at me often), but we have never actually talked.


Here are my questions:

1) Should I approach her at all?
2) If yes to question 1, how should I proceed? Informer her of my decision not to date at the moment (if she does like me), but make my interest known to keep that door open?
3) If no, should I try to move on and forget about it?

Comments, advice, or personal experiences are greatly appreciated. I don't want to lead a girl on if I am not going to date, but I also feel like I should let her know that I am interested, I'm just not ready for a serious relationship.

Thanks

 

[bhayes]

1) Yes
2) Why would you inform her of your decision not to date her if you approached her in the first place? Approach when you are ready to date.
3) If she doesn't want to, then yes.

 

[RobertMerton]

Hello,

I just started college this Fall at a Christian college and I have never dated or been in a relationship with a girl before. I made the decision before I started college not to date until at least my sophomore year so I could focus on classes and grow some personally/spiritually. I have become aware of a young lady that I find attractive and who I believe likes me (based on body language and her staring at me often), but we have never actually talked.


Here are my questions:

1) Should I approach her at all?
2) If yes to question 1, how should I proceed? Informer her of my decision not to date at the moment (if she does like me), but make my interest known to keep that door open?
3) If no, should I try to move on and forget about it?

Comments, advice, or personal experiences are greatly appreciated. I don't want to lead a girl on if I am not going to date, but I also feel like I should let her know that I am interested, I'm just not ready for a serious relationship.

Thanks

1) sure
2) just be like 'hey im (insert name). what's yours? how are you finding your first year.. blah blah what other subjects/units are you doing? blah blah.

just try be friends with her, but if you really like her dont get into the friend-zone.

 

[Sketcher]

This depends on how firmly you want or need to hold to this decision. Decisions that you have made to yourself can be changed by yourself, legitimately.

 

[Paradoxum]

If your not ready to date now, why do you think you'll be much different in a years time?

I don't know how it is there, but in the UK our first year doesn't count towards our final degree. If there's a time to mess about, it's first year. Also, classes don't take up that much time anyway.

 

[Mankin]

Just let it happen organically. Approach, talk, invite out to something casual, etc.

@Paradoxum, here everything counts towards your final degree, unless you change majors, in which case certain classes may only count as electives. Also US students have less time to muck about due to the fact that college is so expensive and most of it is paid through student loans and grants/scholarships if you are lucky.

 

[DreadWarrior]

As Matt Chandler is famous for saying, a future version of you is always going to be disappointing to you. I understand wanting to hold off on dating, but sometimes God may have other plans. I'm not saying this is the case, but I would casually approach her in a friendly manner and just start by getting to know each other better. For all you know she may have an incredibly annoying habit and you're stressing for nothing

 

[LekryceMack]

Hello,

I just started college this Fall at a Christian college and I have never dated or been in a relationship with a girl before. I made the decision before I started college not to date until at least my sophomore year so I could focus on classes and grow some personally/spiritually. I have become aware of a young lady that I find attractive and who I believe likes me (based on body language and her staring at me often), but we have never actually talked.


Here are my questions:

1) Should I approach her at all?
2) If yes to question 1, how should I proceed? Informer her of my decision not to date at the moment (if she does like me), but make my interest known to keep that door open?
3) If no, should I try to move on and forget about it?

Comments, advice, or personal experiences are greatly appreciated. I don't want to lead a girl on if I am not going to date, but I also feel like I should let her know that I am interested, I'm just not ready for a serious relationship.

Thanks

Theres really no right or wrong decision or answer. The way to give you an answer all depends if you have any feelings towards the girl. Nothing serious or anything but if you have any positive thoughts towards her as a person that you would like to befriend or maybe even date in the future, than I believe it doesnt hurt to approach her. After all, from experience, the best relationships are the ones that happen naturally in their own God-given season; When you least expect it.
Two, If you are interested even a little bit, just take a leap of faith and be yourself while getting to know her and also stay observant. A girl may like you but if, as a christian,she doesnt fit your ideal girlfriend or soulmate than drop her on the friend zone lol.