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Accusations That My Thoughts are for "Attention"

Solace Girl

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A few members of my family seem to think I can control how I think/feel. Obviously, if I could control all my emotions I would not have any problems. But unfortunately, right now I cannot control my emotions and it is causing me to make small errors, and then I worry about those errors until I feel safe. It is a vicious cycle, and I know that since I cannot control my feelings (and to an extent my current actions) that I need professional help. But my family tells me it is a waste of money and that a counselor wouldn't talk to me for long anyways. I do not want to do anything foolish that could risk my career/dreams/freedom; but I also have trouble believing that my family does not believe I am serious.

What I once valued I now perceive as vanity, and I now can't believe how much physical appearance matters to my family. I know they love me, but I think they fail to see that, for example, if I leave the room, I'm trying to spare them seeing me looking depressed.
 

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People often do not understand things that they have never gone through. I use to judge people who lived with depression, but now i live this way too and now i understand that we should not judge each other as much, but instead should be sympathetic and tender hearted towards each other.
 
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I don't believe that we need to open up about every detail in our lives to our family. If you have shared with them that counseling is what you feel that you need, I would just go start seeing a counselor (assuming you are over 18 yo and an adult). We do not need to share all in our lives.

Try it out for 4 weeks and see how you feel after that. Reevaluate.
 
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faroukfarouk

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Self-consciousness and youth often go together; but if we are dedicated to Bible reading and prayer and have regular, profitable activities in which to engage, then feelings of self-consciousness - which may decrease with the years anyway - need not be overwhelming.
 
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