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Well i have known this girl for about 4 months i have gone on a 3 day youth converence trip and a 10 day camp trip with her and i go to youth every friday and see her there, she is shy and i am abit shy we both dont talk too much i try to talk allot but i just run out of things to say to people.

Well on the 10 day trip i just got back from camp with her and the youth i got to know her abit more i would sit with her allot , i found out she gets stressed abit like me and is similar to me by being shy and other stuff ect, i was walking around camp and she was siting on a bench with her friend i asked if there was room for one more and i sat down next to her and talked abit and broke the ice she smiled at me when i sat down she did not move away we talked abit then there was other times where she came and talked to me, we went on a boat with 2 other people around the lake i noticed some times she would just go and sit alone for abit like i do from everyone some times.

We where playing a game where all the leaders at the camp 10 of us would go up to each other and say *darling darling if you love me would you plz plz smile* i started walking up to her and just started saying it and she smiled big and looked abit embarrassed and turned around for a min after that the game went on but i could not get anyone els to smile lol.

The last night before we went home from camp we where playing a game Truth or dare where people would have to anwser questions from each other ,we started asking each other who we liked and why we liked them , at first i did not want to answer when he asked me who i liked because she was there and looked abit nervous but i finaly said i have to admit i like {Her Name} then they asked me what i liked about her and i said some stuff she seemed to take it ok. She said to them not to be mean and make me anwser them questions. The next morning she did not act any different around me so i guess she was not mad or anything that i liked her. I asked her if she was going to the other camping trip for the youth next week and she kinda laphed and smiled and said yes to me so this week i am going and seeing if i can get to know her better but there one problem her brother is very protective of her and tells her not to wear short cloths or whatever he makes it like you have to go through him to get to her hes coming to the next camp trip with her and it could be harder for me to get to know her more but i will try.

Does it sound like she likes me ?
 

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Oh man. How many posts have you made like this? What's the advice I've given before? Be a man and ask her. If you don't care about her enough to overcome your own timidity, then you don't care about her enough. Either care and pursue her, or stop being concerned with her. Just do it, it's easier than it sounds.
 
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JeremiahJ said:
Oh man. How many posts have you made like this? What's the advice I've given before? Be a man and ask her. If you don't care about her enough to overcome your own timidity, then you don't care about her enough. Either care and pursue her, or stop being concerned with her. Just do it, it's easier than it sounds.

Yeah, this is about the third time. None of our responses are going to change your sistuation.
 
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Hmmmm... are you sure? So, you mean to say that your last four topics on here asking what you should do about a certain girl or if she likes you are about a different girl? If that's the case, then this situation is a little sketchy, but regardless, my advice about how to find out whether this girl likes you or not is the same as my advice for how to find out if another girl likes you. Ask her flat out.

In the future, if you want to know if a girl likes you and you'd like to pursue her, any girl at all, my advice is to "cowboy up" and ask.
 
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Croc said:
ask her to do something with you like go for a walk. then grab her hand to hold it and walk with her holding her hand. If she lets you do that then she likes you that way. If she doesn't then she doesn't.

Bad idea. Really bad idea. I know many, many girls who have had the same type of thing happen to them, and they keep holding the guy's hand because they don't know what to do. That's taking advantage of them. They don't want to be mean so they keep holding your hand, staying in your arms, or even, in some cases, kissing you. It unfairly pressures them into a situation they don't deserve to be pressured into. There's no respect in grabbing a woman, even if it's just her hand, without first asking. Use gentle, honest, transparent words and ask her. Don't touch her unless she initiates or you ask first.
 
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Croc said:
Oh yeh good point. I didnt mean grab her hand I meant to give her an invitation to hold your hand LOL
You put out your hand and see if she takes it.

BTW, I know that you didn't mean to grab her hand hard. Just to hold her hand gently.
 
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