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[RadioGuy80]

Alright, I'm gonna introduce myself. My name is Bobby, I'm 22 years old, and I live in a Seattle suburb.

My fiance and I have been together since April of '01, and are going to be married on Sept. 27th.

Well, lately we've been REALLY tempted to sin together, sexually, and it continues to grow and grow.

Tonight we fell.

This is FAR too close to the wedding, and I'm feeling absolutly broken about it. I know that the Lord will forgive us, and that he is a loving and trustworthy God, but I still feel totally rotten.

Anyway, tonight we both prayed together, and we apologized to eachother, but here I sit still feeling broken.

Now I wont ask WHY I feel like I do, that's obvious. I'm just wondering if any of the married folk out there have experienced this trial, and how did the Lord find you through it? What did you find worked best to restrain yourselves, and did you feel broken as I do?

 

[ps34_18]

I'm not married, and I've never been in the situation you're in, but I once heard from someone who was that before their wedding they had no choice but to not see each other at all because the temptation when they were together was simply too great...

 

[DaveKerwin]

You feel bad because you sinned. I think the problem is that your engagement was more than six months.

What you need to do now is really seek God. He is faithful to forgive, the moment you ask it. So be confident that he has forgiven you. In the mean time, do not repeat until you wedding night. I know part of you will feel bad still, that is normal, but DO NOT, and I repeat, DO NOT allow guilt to say in your heart. Satan will kill you.

I can tell by your attitude that you are truely sorry. I come across people on these forums that throw around their sexuality like it is some toy. It is obvious that you Love God, that you love your soon to be wife, and you want to honor and respect Jesus Christ. For that I applaud you. Do not think about what happened last night because God has already forgotton it. Go in peace and serve the Lord.

 

[psycmajor]

Wow, you guys waited a long time.

Might have to do with the rationalization, "Well, we ARE just about married..."

 

[Mr.Cheese]

That's annoying. I really did type something when I replied to this. But nothing showed up I guess.
I don't remember what I said.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I would take your lasting regret as a testimony to how serious you are about God. If you sinned, then said "what the hey, I messed up and it's over, no big deal..." That doesn't sound very convicted.

Back when I was with the ExGF, during a break, she kissed some dude. When she told me, I simply said "It's Okay, I don't care." While at the time I was trying to be understanding and forgiving, my statement led to the realization of what I said, I truly didn't care. If I cared, I would have been hurt.

My $0.02

 

[E-beth]

Sorry that it happened like that for you.... and once that door has been opened it is way hard to close it again.

I suggest lots of cold showers, group dates and elopment.

Just kidding...but you both have to make a committment to wait until your wedding night.

 

[desi]

Six days after our wedding our oldest daughter was born. We have been married for 9 years, the past 5 of them good. Don't sweat it. Just repent, and go about your business.

I was a chaplain's assistant in the Marines when I got to go to the chaplains meetings where a catholic priest, baptist minister, mormon elder, and two protestant pastors met each morning to discuss issues pertaining to the spiritual health of the base I was stationed at. The mormon elder once told me how some mormon Marines would feel horrible about sinning. When he asked them what was so bad, they said stuff like they tried beer or drank tea (caffeine). He made it sound like they worried excessively about minor things.

You two love each other and are marrying. Sexual immorality is bad but not that bad when its with your future wife whom you love and who loves you.

 

[DaveKerwin]

RadioGuy, how are you?

 

[SlowRoasted]

ugh sexual immorality is bad, how can you say its not so bad? Sin is bad in the eyes of God, so plagerizing or pirating software is just as bad as murder to or rape to God.

As for the sin at hand, yes its bad what you did, and you will pay the price, being that your wedding night wont be a great as it should have been if you had waited. I really think you need to keep in mind though that God forgives, and you definitely sound like your genuinely sorry for it. Also keep in mind that guilt and shame are tools of the devil. Guilt and shame are not from God. Repent and rejoice that God has forgiven you. Keep your head up and read your bible for strength.

 

[HeatherJay]

I agree with most people here, RadioGuy. It's too bad that you guys gave in to temptation...but who hasn't given in at some point (I mean other temptations also)??? You sound like you're truly sorry and if you've asked, God has forgiven you...AND forgotten it. I know (I KNOW) the guilt is hard to get rid of. Keep repeating this to yourself..."I am who God says I am." God says you're forgiven...believe that.

Love, Heather