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A Question of Morality?

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Imagine you are placed in a room with your friends and coworkers who are of the same gender as you are. Now let's say an un-born child is looking into this room and is trying to choose its father/mother. In your own opinion, do you think this un-born child will pick you as its first or second choice among your friends and coworkers?

Here's the question for this thread: is it moral for you to have children, if your answer to the above question is no?


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Imagine you are placed in a room with your friends and coworkers who are of the same gender as you are. Now let's say an un-born child is looking into this room and is trying to choose its father/mother. In your own opinion, do you think this un-born child will pick you as its first or second choice among your friends and coworkers?




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Great question.

I think the baby would score me highly in almost all areas such as love, kindness, security etc Where i'd fall down though is when the baby see's that i'm single with a string of broken relationships behind me... i think that would cost me big, so i'd regrettably say no.

Here's the question for this thread: is it moral for you to have children, if your answer to the above question is no?

It would probably be wrong of me to bring kids into this world at this very moment, for the above reasons.
 
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Imagine you are placed in a room with your friends and coworkers who are of the same gender as you are. Now let's say an un-born child is looking into this room and is trying to choose its father/mother. In your own opinion, do you think this un-born child will pick you as its first or second choice among your friends and coworkers?

Here's the question for this thread: is it moral for you to have children, if your answer to the above question is no?


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It would probably choose me and I can't imagine why it would be immoral to have kids right now, but I won't because I'm not ready financially.
 
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Imagine you are placed in a room with your friends and coworkers who are of the same gender as you are. Now let's say an un-born child is looking into this room and is trying to choose its father/mother. In your own opinion, do you think this un-born child will pick you as its first or second choice among your friends and coworkers?

Here's the question for this thread: is it moral for you to have children, if your answer to the above question is no?


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It depends on how you mean to ask the question. If you mean to ask it this way: Is it moral for you considering who you are as a person to have a child? Then in some cases the answer could certainly be no.

If you mean to ask it in this way: Is it moral for humans to reproduce? Then the question is silly.
 
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Imagine you are placed in a room with your friends and coworkers who are of the same gender as you are. Now let's say an un-born child is looking into this room and is trying to choose its father/mother. In your own opinion, do you think this un-born child will pick you as its first or second choice among your friends and coworkers?

Here's the question for this thread: is it moral for you to have children, if your answer to the above question is no?


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Interesting but not particularly good question -- and I can't fathom what an unborn child would choose.. I'd say an older functional child probably would not choose me unless they had some time to know me, I click with kids fantastically but only after they've been around me for a bit. Any one able to assess my situation would probably choose someone else before me if looking for financial, emotional, physical security and well being.

Of course it's moral, children aren't particularly good judges of what's good for them. Is it moral for people to have children when they are not able to provide for them? Probably not, but I can't say that a child unborn, newborn, are older would be the appropiate gauge for the appropriateness of having them.
 
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Imagine you are placed in a room with your friends and coworkers who are of the same gender as you are. Now let's say an un-born child is looking into this room and is trying to choose its father/mother. In your own opinion, do you think this un-born child will pick you as its first or second choice among your friends and coworkers?

Here's the question for this thread: is it moral for you to have children, if your answer to the above question is no?


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As with picking one individual over another for whatever purpose, it depends on one's needs. Just because I don't appeal to fetus X doesn't mean I won't appeal to fetus Y, or wouldn't be a good parent to either. So morality doesn't enter into it. And it would hardly matter what I might think its choice may be. There are many children whose needs are better served by parents other than me, and there are many children whose needs I feel I could better meet than their parents.

I have to agree with wanderingone: not particularly good question.
 
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Imagine you are placed in a room with your friends and coworkers who are of the same gender as you are. Now let's say an un-born child is looking into this room and is trying to choose its father/mother. In your own opinion, do you think this un-born child will pick you as its first or second choice among your friends and coworkers?

No, I'm not ready with regards to finances, maturity, or time.

Here's the question for this thread: is it moral for you to have children, if your answer to the above question is no?

No.
 
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What it boils down to for me: am I a good parent (to any child), and if not.. is it moral for me to have a child...

I think my child would've picked me anyway, because I love my children unconditionally. But I fail miserably at so many things in my life. I screw up, so technically I shouldn't have had any kids until I learned to get it right, which means none of us should have kids. To me, having a child is God's way of saying the world must go on. Everything for a purpose...

I do get what you are saying though, there are many people that I "think" should not have kids. That's why I'm not the one making the decisions.... What the heck do I know?
 
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I pick my friends because they're as great as I am, so I couldn't be sure which one of us it might pick. I'd guess I'd have a 50/50 chance of being picked.

As for would it be moral - I don't think one has to be a #1 choice grade "A" parent - just a good parent. As long as the kid wouldn't go "Gesh - I don't want HER as a Mommy" it'd be okay.
 
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