A new way to look at day count.

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Here's a new idea for day count.

We seem to be looking at this as if we're climbing a mountain... everyday we go without cutting, is one step up the mountain... but when we slip and fall... we fall all the way back down the mountain (meaning day 0). So, why don't we look at it as more of a staircase rather than a mountain... if you mess up... instead of going all the way back down... just step back. So instead of being at lets say... day 5... you'll be at day 4 instead.

I thought this was a really good idea. Because how many of us feel like failures after going X amount of days and then messing up? Alot of us do. Everyday we go without cutting is an accomplishment. So instead of looking at it as a failure when we mess up and falling all the way back down the mountain so-to-speak... why dont we look at the progress we've made and just take a small step back. Just an idea. Love you all. Stay Strong.

You're loved.

-Jo.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Anyone???

 

[els_bells]

It sounds a good way to look at things to me. Unfortunately i'm not getting past day 1 much really but I'm trying.
When you cut after a long period of not doing so it is so easy to feel as if you are back at square one and get really down on yourself. I like the idea of just stepping down a stair and carrying on from there, I'll try and remember that in future.
xx

 

[beetlequeendiva]

Ooh that's a good idea!!! Like els_bells says after doing it after a long time it's really hard to feel that way but I'm gonna try too.

Thanks for that, love you too xx

 

[katiegirl]

That is the way to look at things. It's a really good idea to focus on the positive things that you have done rather than the cuts themselves. I just want to let everyone know that it does work and that you can beat it. I have not cut for 2.5 months. I still struggle with wanting to, but I know that God feels whatever pain I do and he can quell it without me having to cut myself.

 

[Hidden face_Hurting heart]

That is an awesome idea Jo! I found a song that really talks about that- check it out! It's called "Get Up" by Superchic[k]. (They have a TON of awesome songs if you have depression or SI)

i'm not afraid to fall
it means i climbed up high
to fall is not to fail
you fail when you don't try
i'm not afraid to fall
i might just learn to fly
and i will spread these wings of mine

if i get up i might fall back down again
so lets get up c'mon
if i get up i might fall back down again
we get up anyway
if i get up i might fall back down again
so lets get up c'mon
if i get up i might fall back down again
and i might fall back down again
and we'll just jump and see
even if its the 20th time
we'll just jump and see if we can fly

i'm not afraid to fall
and here i told you so
don't want to rock the boat
but i just had to know
just a greener side
or can i touch the sky
but either way i will try

if i get up i might fall back down again
so lets get up c'mon
if i get up i might fall back down again
we get up anyway
if i get up i might fall back down again
so lets get up c'mon
if i get up i might fall back down again
and i might fall back down again
and we'll just jump and see
even if its the 30th time
we'll just jump and see if we can fly

i'm not afraid to fall
i've fallen many times
they laughed when i fell down
but i have dared to climb
i'm not afraid to fall
i know i'll fall again
but i can win this in the end

if i get up i might fall back down again
so lets get up c'mon
if i get up i might fall back down again
we get up anyway
if i get up i might fall back down again
so lets get up c'mon
if i get up i might fall back down again
and i might fall back down again
and we'll just jump and see
even if its the 40th time
we'll just jump and see if we can fly

if i get up i might fall back down again
so lets get up c'mon
if i get up i might fall back down again
we get up anyway
if i get up i might fall back down again
so lets get up c'mon
if i get up i might fall back down again
and i might fall back down again

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Glad y'all like the idea. Keep up the great work, girls. I love you all.

-Jo.

 

[soonto_be]

it's hard to get past day one...but if someone CAN get for several days then it's a great idea...