I'm not sure why I'm writing this.
I wanted to bring good news to those out there like me. To those of you who are in pain because youre lonely. To those of you who know that God has a plan for you, yet are still unhappy being single. To those of you who are made to feel like your relationship with Christ is somehow damaged simply because youre lonely.
Theres nothing wrong with you.
And theres nothing wrong with how you feel.
Our relationship with God is most important, most of us know that. But having that relationship does NOT, contrary to popular belief around here, fill all voids. If the singular relationship between man and God was enough to sustain him, then God never wouldve created Eve. God never wouldve uttered the words, It is not good for man to be alone if we were meant to live out our lives as single men and women.
I mean, geez, if we were meant to remain single, then there would be no marriage. And since sex is, according to the Bible, restricted to the bonds of marriage, without marriage there would be no procreation.
In essence, if God meant for us to remain single, and we all followed such direction, the human race would cease to exist.
Yeah, I realize that Paul wrote about how it is good for people to remain single. Many people tend to take his words out of context and claim that it means no people should marry. I dont see how this logic ever gets into peoples minds, unless they think that procreation should be left to non-Christians.
Does that sound stupid to anyone else?
Pauls directions were to a certain group of people, and not intended toward Christianity in general. Therefore, using this argument to suggest that those reluctant singles out there should be happy to be single, is foolhardy.
If youre happy to be single, thats great. Im glad youve found peace with your position in the world.
But different strokes for different folks.
Last time I was here, I was made to feel like I had no relationship with Christ because I expressed my loneliness. I was told I had no faith. I was told I was not appreciative of what God had done for me by giving his Son to die on the cross. I was made to feel like I was some kind of selfish child simply because I wanted love.
But let me explain something. Im 25 years old, and Ive never done drugs - never even tried. Ive never had sex. Ive never smoked. I dont even drink. Ive never even been to a wild party, nor have I gone to a nightclub full of scantily-clad women. I have avoided many social situations where I knew there was a possibility of being tempted into these things, and I pushed away the only friend Ive ever had outside of the internet because he was into pornography and other unhealthy things that I wanted nothing to do with. Ive lived my life in this manner, despite the pain of isolation that this life has brought me, because I am more concerned with doing what is right for God. And I dont resent God for the pain this life has brought me, I resent the world.
If THIS is not what it means to be focused on God, then I dont know what is.
But people here dont see it that way. People here want to tell me that Im lost, and that Im just a selfish fool for wanting someone to fill that lonely hole inside me. Let Christ fill that hole they say.
Christ fills a spiritual hole. Christ fills the most important hole of all - he completes your soul.
But a companion in this world fills an emotional hole. That companionship, that partnership, that love, its necessary for us to be complete in this world. Gods work on the creation of the universe wasnt complete until Eve and Adam were united in the Garden of Eden. And that means that our earthly forms arent complete until were united with another in true love.
Last time I was here, I posted a long message in defense of people like me - those of us who ARE focused on God, and yet are unhappy being single. And before the post was deleted, I had a good number of people who responded with their support, agreeing with me and saying that they knew how I felt and that they were tired of being treated as though they had somehow fallen from God simply because they were lonely.
And I bring news for those who agree with me...
There is hope out there.
Two weeks ago, God blessed me with the most wonderful person Ive ever met in my life. Oddly enough, I met her here on the boards. Ive never met anyone I had so much in common with. Shes a wonderful Christian girl, and she is more than I couldve ever asked for. Theres no way in the world I could EVER repay God for bringing us together. Id always had this image in my mind of what the perfect girl would be like, but I always dismissed that image as impossible. I mean, who really ever finds the PERFECT companion?
Im really starting to think that God gave me that perfect companion. Shes everything Ive ever wanted, and everything I never had. If she and I dont end up together, I dont think Ill ever find anyone wholl compare to her.
And God blessed me with this gift despite my unhappiness with my place in this life.
And today, while I was talking to her, she said she was getting this weird feeling that there was something God wanted her to tell me. She said she didnt know what it meant, but maybe I would know.
I bless you not because youve rightly done, but because youve rightly asked.
Know what this says to me? It says that no amount of good deeds cause God to bless us. Only having our hearts in the right place will bring about his blessings. And since hes blessed me with this spectacular girl, I have to believe that my heart is in the right place.
So whats the point of this post?
To tell those of you out there who are unhappy being single: Dont give up. I know what its like. I know how lonely it can get. And theres nothing wrong with being lonely. Dont ever let anyone tell you differently. Its a normal emotion, and it doesnt mean that youve lost sight of God. As long as you know and believe that God has a plan and is working in your life, then you are on the right track. He will bless you as he has blessed me, I can promise you that.
I know its hard. Its a terrible feeling to be stuck in an isolated world of loneliness. But God is there - and hell bring you your companion in due time. There are always reasons for having to wait, and all we can do is cling to him as he brings you through the storm.
Because on the other side of that storm, there is a rainbow waiting.
Just as God promised.
Dont give up. Dont give in. Ive made it this far. So can you.
God bless.
I wanted to bring good news to those out there like me. To those of you who are in pain because youre lonely. To those of you who know that God has a plan for you, yet are still unhappy being single. To those of you who are made to feel like your relationship with Christ is somehow damaged simply because youre lonely.
Theres nothing wrong with you.
And theres nothing wrong with how you feel.
Our relationship with God is most important, most of us know that. But having that relationship does NOT, contrary to popular belief around here, fill all voids. If the singular relationship between man and God was enough to sustain him, then God never wouldve created Eve. God never wouldve uttered the words, It is not good for man to be alone if we were meant to live out our lives as single men and women.
I mean, geez, if we were meant to remain single, then there would be no marriage. And since sex is, according to the Bible, restricted to the bonds of marriage, without marriage there would be no procreation.
In essence, if God meant for us to remain single, and we all followed such direction, the human race would cease to exist.
Yeah, I realize that Paul wrote about how it is good for people to remain single. Many people tend to take his words out of context and claim that it means no people should marry. I dont see how this logic ever gets into peoples minds, unless they think that procreation should be left to non-Christians.
Does that sound stupid to anyone else?
Pauls directions were to a certain group of people, and not intended toward Christianity in general. Therefore, using this argument to suggest that those reluctant singles out there should be happy to be single, is foolhardy.
If youre happy to be single, thats great. Im glad youve found peace with your position in the world.
But different strokes for different folks.
Last time I was here, I was made to feel like I had no relationship with Christ because I expressed my loneliness. I was told I had no faith. I was told I was not appreciative of what God had done for me by giving his Son to die on the cross. I was made to feel like I was some kind of selfish child simply because I wanted love.
But let me explain something. Im 25 years old, and Ive never done drugs - never even tried. Ive never had sex. Ive never smoked. I dont even drink. Ive never even been to a wild party, nor have I gone to a nightclub full of scantily-clad women. I have avoided many social situations where I knew there was a possibility of being tempted into these things, and I pushed away the only friend Ive ever had outside of the internet because he was into pornography and other unhealthy things that I wanted nothing to do with. Ive lived my life in this manner, despite the pain of isolation that this life has brought me, because I am more concerned with doing what is right for God. And I dont resent God for the pain this life has brought me, I resent the world.
If THIS is not what it means to be focused on God, then I dont know what is.
But people here dont see it that way. People here want to tell me that Im lost, and that Im just a selfish fool for wanting someone to fill that lonely hole inside me. Let Christ fill that hole they say.
Christ fills a spiritual hole. Christ fills the most important hole of all - he completes your soul.
But a companion in this world fills an emotional hole. That companionship, that partnership, that love, its necessary for us to be complete in this world. Gods work on the creation of the universe wasnt complete until Eve and Adam were united in the Garden of Eden. And that means that our earthly forms arent complete until were united with another in true love.
Last time I was here, I posted a long message in defense of people like me - those of us who ARE focused on God, and yet are unhappy being single. And before the post was deleted, I had a good number of people who responded with their support, agreeing with me and saying that they knew how I felt and that they were tired of being treated as though they had somehow fallen from God simply because they were lonely.
And I bring news for those who agree with me...
There is hope out there.
Two weeks ago, God blessed me with the most wonderful person Ive ever met in my life. Oddly enough, I met her here on the boards. Ive never met anyone I had so much in common with. Shes a wonderful Christian girl, and she is more than I couldve ever asked for. Theres no way in the world I could EVER repay God for bringing us together. Id always had this image in my mind of what the perfect girl would be like, but I always dismissed that image as impossible. I mean, who really ever finds the PERFECT companion?
Im really starting to think that God gave me that perfect companion. Shes everything Ive ever wanted, and everything I never had. If she and I dont end up together, I dont think Ill ever find anyone wholl compare to her.
And God blessed me with this gift despite my unhappiness with my place in this life.
And today, while I was talking to her, she said she was getting this weird feeling that there was something God wanted her to tell me. She said she didnt know what it meant, but maybe I would know.
I bless you not because youve rightly done, but because youve rightly asked.
Know what this says to me? It says that no amount of good deeds cause God to bless us. Only having our hearts in the right place will bring about his blessings. And since hes blessed me with this spectacular girl, I have to believe that my heart is in the right place.
So whats the point of this post?
To tell those of you out there who are unhappy being single: Dont give up. I know what its like. I know how lonely it can get. And theres nothing wrong with being lonely. Dont ever let anyone tell you differently. Its a normal emotion, and it doesnt mean that youve lost sight of God. As long as you know and believe that God has a plan and is working in your life, then you are on the right track. He will bless you as he has blessed me, I can promise you that.
I know its hard. Its a terrible feeling to be stuck in an isolated world of loneliness. But God is there - and hell bring you your companion in due time. There are always reasons for having to wait, and all we can do is cling to him as he brings you through the storm.
Because on the other side of that storm, there is a rainbow waiting.
Just as God promised.
Dont give up. Dont give in. Ive made it this far. So can you.
God bless.
