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A marriage ending???
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E-beth
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Chris--
I have heard that there are three major life changes that can adversely affect a marriage: Birth, death, and moving. I have been through all three in the less than two years of my marriage, and these things can definitely take their toll.
God can heal your wife and your marriage. She is grieving so deeply that she probably feels like she will never be happy again. All you can do for now is to support her on her terms. Be there when she needs to talk. Pray for her. Pray for her. Pray For her.
You might suggest talking together with a pastor or Christian counselor. She sounds like she needs some grief counselling.
God bless you for finding God through it all. He is awesome, isn't He? He will give you rest, just continue letting Him work with your wife.
I have heard that there are three major life changes that can adversely affect a marriage: Birth, death, and moving. I have been through all three in the less than two years of my marriage, and these things can definitely take their toll.
God can heal your wife and your marriage. She is grieving so deeply that she probably feels like she will never be happy again. All you can do for now is to support her on her terms. Be there when she needs to talk. Pray for her. Pray for her. Pray For her.
You might suggest talking together with a pastor or Christian counselor. She sounds like she needs some grief counselling.
God bless you for finding God through it all. He is awesome, isn't He? He will give you rest, just continue letting Him work with your wife.
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E-Beth it is more serious then that she is no longer staying with me at our home. She cant not speak to me without hurt and anger. I have suggested counseling for us and she has refused I also offered for her to go alone, I would help her find the right place and pay for it if that was an issue, and she said she would do it alone. I can only imagine what is in her heart and on her mind. I have to come clean and admitt that I was not the ideal husband in any form, and i attribute that to my non-existant walk with Christ. I have done nothing but pray for the past week about everything mainly her and her walk with God but as well as my own strength. I have been told she needs time I struggle with that too. I feel that I will never get her back if she slips so far away. And only God, not me, can keep her with him I know this yet my emotions overwhelm me.
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Pray4Isrel i thank you for your words of encouragement. He is great and he is the great restorer. He restored my faith and I know he can restore my marriage. I have been told to give it time and pray, so that is what I am going to do. I am meeting with a Pastor today at 3:30 for counseling in my own walk with God and to pray with me about my wife and her walk. I know that is all I can do but it is not the only thing God can do....he can touch her life and help her folllow his path, those are my prayers. I feel Gods presence with me today and yesterday I struggled so much yet he came to me with great peace. God Bless you for your support, this forum, and those who have responded have touched my heart.
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karla
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You and your wife are in my prayers. I want to share a song with you that I always find great comfort in. May you and your wife find God's peace and healing touch.
I Surrender All by Martin Doman
You know what I'm feelin'
You know that I'm wek
You know that I'm weary
How I need Your peace
So rain down Your love on me
Wash me and let me float away
Cause these wounds are too much for me
I surrender all,
Lay my burdens down at Your feet
I surrender all,
I'm letting go, letting go
You know what I'm feelin'
You know why I weep
And I'm sure this love is forever
But how I need Your peace
So come down and fill my heart
Take me in Your arms
Cause this world is too much for me
I Surrender All by Martin Doman
You know what I'm feelin'
You know that I'm wek
You know that I'm weary
How I need Your peace
So rain down Your love on me
Wash me and let me float away
Cause these wounds are too much for me
I surrender all,
Lay my burdens down at Your feet
I surrender all,
I'm letting go, letting go
You know what I'm feelin'
You know why I weep
And I'm sure this love is forever
But how I need Your peace
So come down and fill my heart
Take me in Your arms
Cause this world is too much for me
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Update:
Last night we met, which was near the hardest thing I have done, i stayed as humble as possible the entire time. We talked as friends with no resentment we met for our taxes, but could not find the place, so we talked instead, it was great just regular conversation. She came here to pick up a few things and that was hard I helped where I could and listened as I felt compelled to do. I spoke only when the words I felt were right. I left her an open invitation to attend church with me and to be part of my life if and when she is ready, not one word of divorce. Unfortunitly we talked about seperate bank accounts and splitting bills that we shared, that was tough. Because she never gave me any reason for the quick decision to call it quits I told her I would be here when she ready to talk and I wasn't going anywhere I would be there for her when she needed it. I asked about church and reading the Bible and a book i gave her on marriage she said she had yet to read either but would. Her brother called while she was here and whatever he said brought tears to her eyes but she fought them. Then she admitted to me that she hadnt talked to him for that reason, she didnt want a serious conversation, he just found out what was going on, she had not told him. That was a blow to my heart and uplifting to my spirit because God told me she is still hiding, which means my prayers will become more, she can not hide from God and someone is going to tell her that, and God will take her heart, the hard part is when. This has drained me emotionally i cried on my knees to God for forgiveness but he told me to stop and stand up and pray for her not me. It was unreal. now here I am writing this not feeling alone one bit and the whole time she was here I never felt alone I felt God and He is great. Thank you for the prayers, I see them working in my life more everyday may God bless all of you in His own way, and may someday I repay you, you have my prayers I thank God for such wonderful people.
Karla the words of that song are so true i printed them out and pinned them to my wall i have read them over many times sense then. Thank you.
Last night we met, which was near the hardest thing I have done, i stayed as humble as possible the entire time. We talked as friends with no resentment we met for our taxes, but could not find the place, so we talked instead, it was great just regular conversation. She came here to pick up a few things and that was hard I helped where I could and listened as I felt compelled to do. I spoke only when the words I felt were right. I left her an open invitation to attend church with me and to be part of my life if and when she is ready, not one word of divorce. Unfortunitly we talked about seperate bank accounts and splitting bills that we shared, that was tough. Because she never gave me any reason for the quick decision to call it quits I told her I would be here when she ready to talk and I wasn't going anywhere I would be there for her when she needed it. I asked about church and reading the Bible and a book i gave her on marriage she said she had yet to read either but would. Her brother called while she was here and whatever he said brought tears to her eyes but she fought them. Then she admitted to me that she hadnt talked to him for that reason, she didnt want a serious conversation, he just found out what was going on, she had not told him. That was a blow to my heart and uplifting to my spirit because God told me she is still hiding, which means my prayers will become more, she can not hide from God and someone is going to tell her that, and God will take her heart, the hard part is when. This has drained me emotionally i cried on my knees to God for forgiveness but he told me to stop and stand up and pray for her not me. It was unreal. now here I am writing this not feeling alone one bit and the whole time she was here I never felt alone I felt God and He is great. Thank you for the prayers, I see them working in my life more everyday may God bless all of you in His own way, and may someday I repay you, you have my prayers I thank God for such wonderful people.
Karla the words of that song are so true i printed them out and pinned them to my wall i have read them over many times sense then. Thank you.
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karla
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Your quite welcome. I'm glad that you were able to talk some. I think it is important for you to keep the lines of communication open without pressure. You will be in my prayers and I hope that everything turns out for the best. With your faith in God, I am sure it will.
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