A little fun for all

[tinkerbell]

Hey guys

I just had an idea that I thought would be fun and educational for all of us. I think it would be neat if we all posted one of the following:

The most important lesson you've learned through dating/courting

The best piece of advice you can give about dating/courting

The biggest way you've seen God working in your relationship

Something you learned the hard way

Or any other things along that line!

I hope you guys have fun with this!

 

[looksgood]

Hey guys

I just had an idea that I thought would be fun and educational for all of us. I think it would be neat if we all posted one of the following:

The most important lesson you've learned through dating/courting

Love isn't something you "feel" it is something you DO. Even though u CAN FEEL it too!

The best piece of advice you can give about dating/courting

Serve each other and also serve God together there will be no lack

The biggest way you've seen God working in your relationship

I have come to understand through the trials, good times, and in every thing that has happened how that God loves us so compleatly! I have learned so much more about how God loves us!

Something you learned the hard way

You hurt yourself when you hurt the one you love.

And one question more to keep it interesting:

How do you show your love for the person your with?

I leave little notes for her and send small gifts. I try my best to every day do or say something to make sure she knows it.

 

[looksgood]

That being said, this post is semi-advice, which sort of makes the entire point moot now doesnt it muahaha..

LOL, but it was good advice!

 

[KristianJ]

The most important lesson you've learned through dating/courting: Even a long distance relationship can be as fulfilling and rich, as long as God is at the centre of it.

The best piece of advice you can give about dating/courting: Show your partner how much you care for them all the time, especially when they're struggling with something.

The biggest way you've seen God working in your relationship: The fact that the woman whom God has picked out for me is across the Pacific Ocean is remarkable enough, but the way that Danie and I have grown together in the face of some difficult circumstances is testament to God's greatness

Something you learned the hard way: Sometimes words aren't quite enough to comfort and reassure, and being unable to hug Danie when she needs some physical comfort is tough.

How do you show your love for the person you're with? What Danie and I talk about on the phone and MSN, emails, PM's...but most often through reminding myself and her how much having her in my life means to me

 

[JulesM]

I think the thing I've learnt is to take it slow and build friendship. My SO and I wanted to 'get together' 10 months ago - but circumstances were that we had to wait. This meant we spent our time building THE most amazing friendship. Its solid and full of respect and trust.
We're together now, but both agree that time was invaluable. As we're a house built on rock - God, communication, love, respect, honour and not on sand - nice feelings, physical affection, being 'blind' to each others faults.
We feel confident if we keep building on the friendship and companionship that what we have will carry us through our married life.


Oh, I also learnt from going on dates never to order spaghetti - its impossible to look nice with orange sauce all round your mouth!!!!! :o

 

[MagicStar723]

Oh, I also learnt from going on dates never to order spaghetti - its impossible to look nice with orange sauce all round your mouth!!!!! :o

 

[horuhe00]

Girls don't think the same way as boys.

No matter how many times you have been hurt, your feelings don't matter. You only have to hurt the girl one time and your a dead man.

Sorry, that's basicaly my love life in 3 sentences...

Oh yeah, and COMMUNICATE. Don't think he/she knows what your thinking. Don't think she/he knows you know. Speak!

 

[plum]

There are three persons in my relationship: me, my SO, and God. Neglecting ANY of the three dooms the relationship.

Praying with my SO is the best habit we've started to form. We don't have problems when we pray regularly. Satan can't get in!

Something I learned the hard way:
Know yourself before you get into a serious relationship. Know what you need. and if, in that person, the needs aren't being met, it may be a signal that God doesn't have that person in his plan for you. Don't ever, ever, ever settle.

Also, never assume that your relationship is always okay with the Lord. Re-evaluate the relationship constantly during the courting process and come before the Lord honestly, laying the relationship on the alter. I have learned that not doing this can let a good relationship go horribly wrong without me even noticing... well, until God pulled the plug on it in a hard way.

 

[rj84]

I've learned how important it is to simplify. I always make a big huge complex deal out of every little thing, when it could just be summed up in a few words. My girlfriend was the first person to ever show me better.

 

[Galadriel]

I would have to say the thing I have learned the most is to perservere and don't go for the "disney romance"!! This has been hard for me, because of course being younger, I tend to only see the "hollywood romances" as in on the big screen. I think people can get into the trap of idolizing someone, and real life is not at all like this. You set yourself up for dissapointment if your expecting it to be all love at first sight. Relationships take lots of time, work, and communication!! Also keep talking to God about it, He helps!

 

[Maeyken]

The biggest way I've seen God working in our relationship was probably when we met. It was totally a "God moment". I'll write the whole story later cuz it's really long, and I have class in the morning!!

 

[Tuffguy]

Everyone is different but all want the same things. To be cared for and loved. The people that can't admit this are the ones to stay away from because they have not come to grips with thier own being and what they really do want.

Needy girls are not worth the trouble.

Girls that rant and rave about being independant still want exactly the same things, they have just not thought through their viewpoints enough to make educated decisions. They are usually talking about how independant they are because they are actually hiding the fact that they are insecure about something.

Attractive girls are often more insecure then average girls.

Communication is the most important thing. If you can sit a girl down and tell her what your thoughts are you're in the top 90% of the dating pool.

 

[Cright]

My biggest mistake was believing that a man who goes to church is a man who loves and serves the Lord.

I've learned better, I learned the lesson the hard way that some people just go to church to say they've been or to show off their new rims.

I've learned to take the time to know someone and get to know their heart and their ambitions, I learned to make sure that the person isn't (only) a dreamer, that they know it takes hard work to make an relationship work for life. Hard (but good) lessions to learn!

God Bless,
Carina

 

[LifeInYou]

For women (especially sensitive ones): Emotions are okay and good to have, but don't let them control you, your thinking, or the way you communicate.

For men: Logic, Analytical thinking, and problem-solving mindsets are okay and good to have, but don't, (especially during arguments with your SO) let them control you. Give some leeway for your emotions. Empathize with her.

Analytical thinking and emotionally behaving/thinking both should be done in proper contexts. During an argument, guys need to tap in to the emotional side a bit more. Ladies, calm down the emotions and think through the problem. Meet eachother half way.

This typical man/woman communication dilemma has been vital for my SO and I to recognize and work on in our relationship. Sometimes when we're 'discussing' something, we're both are so stubborn in our own ways that we start laughing because we realize how silly the whole thing is. The first step to solving this type of problem is to recognize your weaknesses and then move on from there.