a goodbye

[seajoy]

A few months ago, I left here over someone always putting down my posts. I should have stayed gone...but like KayKay.....it's hard to leave when you feel you can be of some help to those who suffer here.

I too, have feelings, and am tired and hurt from being told I need not respond to certain questions anymore, and frankly, I don't need this headache.

This time, I am gone and won't be coming back here. I would just like to say, one more time, that doctors, meds, and therapy (with God's help) are the only known ways of recovering from ocd. And they work. Please don't let others scare you out of getting medical attention. There are very caring doctors out there who are not looking to just make a buck....but have a tender heart for helping those of us with ocd.

If anyone here has questions, please feel free to PM me. I'll be happy to help you as God has allowed me to help others.

Blessings in our loving Christ,
seajoy

 

[keryakos]

Well that is your choice i personally do not want to see you go I think it is a shame that you are allowing a personality conflict to keep you from helping others on this forum. I think if perhaps but then again it is youre choice .


I wish you the best ..

 

[Jayangel81]

A few months ago, I left here over someone always putting down my posts. I should have stayed gone...but like KayKay.....it's hard to leave when you feel you can be of some help to those who suffer here.

I too, have feelings, and am tired and hurt from being told I need not respond to certain questions anymore, and frankly, I don't need this headache.

This time, I am gone and won't be coming back here. I would just like to say, one more time, that doctors, meds, and therapy (with God's help) are the only known ways of recovering from ocd. And they work. Please don't let others scare you out of getting medical attention. There are very caring doctors out there who are not looking to just make a buck....but have a tender heart for helping those of us with ocd.

If anyone here has questions, please feel free to PM me. I'll be happy to help you as God has allowed me to help others.

Blessings in our loving Christ,
seajoy

I have wanted to leave a few times because of people but in the end, we are called to be longsuffering toward one another.

Sometimes we all get under each others skins at times especially when we are in so much pain. And at times there is major cross communication.

Maybe you just need a break. Get some time away. No matter what you do, go in peace dear sister.

Many blessings to you

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

I have wanted to leave a few times because of people but in the end, we are called to be longsuffering toward one another.

Sometimes we all get under each others skins at times especially when we are in so much pain. And at times there is major cross communication.

Maybe you just need a break. Get some time away. No matter what you do, go in peace dear sister.

Many blessings to you

Jay said it perfectly, we are all brothers and sisters in Christ. But if this is what you feel you must do, Gods peace be with you.

 

[kaykay9.0]

You know I think you bring things to the table here that no one else does. I think, for one thing, you keep us centered on treating the disorder, not just the symptoms of the disorder. Your own testimony holds out hope that we can live recovered from OCD.

Whatever you decide is best, I understand, but I would encourage you to re-consider leaving unless you really feel that the Lord is leading you to do so.

 

[annrobert]

seajoy,
you are an important part of this group and we love you.We may not always agree with each other here,we but we do all care.OCD can be such a painful illness and still everyone here reaches out in such love inspite of the pain.You offer much great support and hope here.
blessings
annrobert

 

[RachelZ]

Hey Seajoy I'm really sad to read your post...I can understand why you are hacked of and tired of trying to help. I have seen some of the responses to your attempts to help people and have wondered why people have to respond so abruptly...on a site such as this if more words is what it takes to ensure someone's feelings don't get hurt then bring on the longer posts!! The bottom line is like KayKay has said that you try to focuspeople on treating the dosorder, not just the symptoms.

I have felt for you and maybe should have taken a stronger stand before and for that I apologise, but hey, I'm gonna say it now and if I get it in the neck it'll be worth it cos you shouldn't have to take all the flack!! Please, please, PLEASE people, remember when we post we're doing so on an OCD forum...if we didn't have at least an inkling that we had OCD then we would be posting on a regular forum for Christians trying to 'walk the walk and talk the talk' as it were! If then we get responses from people who have at least partially if not totally recovered urging us that what we're saying smacks of OCD and we need treatment then we really shouldn't be getting cross with those responses! We can't say to people that they're not helping us by talking about OCD because we've got a problem that isn't OCD when we're posting on an OCD site!! I say this as someone who totally, totally understands the fear of "yes but what if it ISN'T OCD!" and I'm not at all saying we shouldn't feel free to respond to people and say how we genuinley feel...ie the "yeah buts" and the "what ifs?" But there's a difference between saying to people that we are afraid that our issue isn't OCD whilst still showing them respect and appreciating their input and cutting their input dead because we don't want to hear about OCD treatment. I'm also saying this as someone who's curent therapy is not ERP but I respect that ERP has and can help a lot of people. Whatever the treatment option we choose, at the end of the day Seajoy and others are right in that if we have OCD then trying to deal with the current obsession alone will not help in the long run but will only clear the way for another issue to rear its ugly head! I do think we need to help people where they are at and some people may not be at the getting treatment stage but if we're not at a place where we feel able to go for a particular type of treatment we still have a responsibility to respond lovingly to people who are only trying to help us based on their own positive experiences.

It may be worth remembering that everytime we read a response to something we've said, someone, somewhere who didn't have to has taken time out of their day and maybe had to put aside their own pain for a few moments in order to try and help us...that to me is amazing even if we don't agree with everything they've said. I know sometimes we get responses from people who clearly don't understand OCD and their input is not appreciated but in the main what we have here is a community of people who are all trying to support one another and I feel so grateful that I was told about the site!!

Sorry if any of that sounds bossy...I'm not saying everything I say in posts is right I just want us to remember that as Seajoy has said the posts are all from people who we may not see but who still have feelings that can be hurt...all the more so when they've got an anxiety disorder. Seajoy may be over the OCD but she can still be hurt and offended as we all can. I apologise if anything I have said has cause any offence unneccesarily!

Please don't go Seajoy...I for one would still love to know more about you managed to tackle the issues surrounding letting go of unhelpful religous ideas. If you still choose to go then I respect that you know best what you need. Take care and thank you for you input here whatever you decide...Rachel

 

[keryakos]

Hey Seajoy I'm really sad to read your post...I can understand why you are hacked of and tired of trying to help. I have seen some of the responses to your attempts to help people and have wondered why people have to respond so abruptly...on a site such as this if more words is what it takes to ensure someone's feelings don't get hurt then bring on the longer posts!! The bottom line is like KayKay has said that you try to focuspeople on treating the dosorder, not just the symptoms.

I have felt for you and maybe should have taken a stronger stand before and for that I apologise, but hey, I'm gonna say it now and if I get it in the neck it'll be worth it cos you shouldn't have to take all the flack!! Please, please, PLEASE people, remember when we post we're doing so on an OCD forum...if we didn't have at least an inkling that we had OCD then we would be posting on a regular forum for Christians trying to 'walk the walk and talk the talk' as it were! If then we get responses from people who have at least partially if not totally recovered urging us that what we're saying smacks of OCD and we need treatment then we really shouldn't be getting cross with those responses! We can't say to people that they're not helping us by talking about OCD because we've got a problem that isn't OCD when we're posting on an OCD site!! I say this as someone who totally, totally understands the fear of "yes but what if it ISN'T OCD!" and I'm not at all saying we shouldn't feel free to respond to people and say how we genuinley feel...ie the "yeah buts" and the "what ifs?" But there's a difference between saying to people that we are afraid that our issue isn't OCD whilst still showing them respect and appreciating their input and cutting their input dead because we don't want to hear about OCD treatment. I'm also saying this as someone who's curent therapy is not ERP but I respect that ERP has and can help a lot of people. Whatever the treatment option we choose, at the end of the day Seajoy and others are right in that if we have OCD then trying to deal with the current obsession alone will not help in the long run but will only clear the way for another issue to rear its ugly head! I do think we need to help people where they are at and some people may not be at the getting treatment stage but if we're not at a place where we feel able to go for a particular type of treatment we still have a responsibility to respond lovingly to people who are only trying to help us based on their own positive experiences.

It may be worth remembering that everytime we read a response to something we've said, someone, somewhere who didn't have to has taken time out of their day and maybe had to put aside their own pain for a few moments in order to try and help us...that to me is amazing even if we don't agree with everything they've said. I know sometimes we get responses from people who clearly don't understand OCD and their input is not appreciated but in the main what we have here is a community of people who are all trying to support one another and I feel so grateful that I was told about the site!!

Sorry if any of that sounds bossy...I'm not saying everything I say in posts is right I just want us to remember that as Seajoy has said the posts are all from people who we may not see but who still have feelings that can be hurt...all the more so when they've got an anxiety disorder. Seajoy may be over the OCD but she can still be hurt and offended as we all can. I apologise if anything I have said has cause any offence unneccesarily!

Please don't go Seajoy...I for one would still love to know more about you managed to tackle the issues surrounding letting go of unhelpful religous ideas. If you still choose to go then I respect that you know best what you need. Take care and thank you for you input here whatever you decide...Rachel

Sea joy is no victim here .She is choosing to leave of her own free will. No one is putting her down or rejecting what she has to say in such a way that belittles her that is in her mind . No one on this forum wants to see her go. No one .


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[kaykay9.0]

Sea joy is no victim here .She is choosing to leave of her own free will. No one is putting her down or rejecting what she has to say in such a way that belittles her that is in her mind . No one on this forum wants to see her go. No one .
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I agree with Rachelz that sometimes seajoy has indeed taken heat that she doesn't deserve. She has only posted the truth as she has experienced it and perhaps I should have said something too. I hate to meddle in other peoples relationships on the board, but I had the same thought that perhaps I had failed to speak when I should have.

One of the reasons it's been difficult for me to leave this forum even after saying I thought I should is that there is an atmosphere in general of comeraderie and trying to help each other here. I would like to continue to see that spirit displayed here.

 

[keryakos]

I agree with Rachelz that sometimes seajoy has indeed taken heat that she doesn't deserve. She has only posted the truth as she has experienced it and perhaps I should have said something too. I hate to meddle in other peoples relationships on the board, but I had the same thought that perhaps I had failed to speak when I should have.

I encourage you from now on to speak your mind Kay Kay as will I in return.

 

[ObsessedButBlessed]

Seajoy, you know I am on your side! I too feel you have taken some undeserved heat and I don't know why...countless number of OCD sufferers have recovered by using ERP/CBT therapy and meds. But everyone moves towards recovery at their own pace, and sadly, some will never get there and continue to suffer needlessly.

Sorry to see you go, but I understand. I have often considered it myself! But I have met so many good folks through these boards that it keeps me coming back. At any rate, thanks for all the hard work and time you dedicated to fighting the good fight. You have a lot of wisdom to share and I know God will continue to use your story to help others.

 

[HeatherG]

Dear Seajoy,

Whatever you decide, go knowing that you have helped so many, many people on this board. I haven't posted here for a long time but just happened to check in and saw your post. Truly, you have been such a rock and a voice of reason on this board, with real insight into how OCD works. God has used you mightily here. I will definitely miss your voice, even though I don't come here myself much now.

God bless you, my dear sister,

HeatherG

 

[Criada]

(((((seajoy)))))
I don't usually post here, but have read as recovery admin, and you have always seemed a voice of reason and compassion. I'm sorry that you feel you have to leave. Thank you for all the help and support you have given folks here.
God bless you

 

[seajoy]

I just want to take this moment to thank everyone for the kind words here and all the wonderful PM's.

I still need to take a break.....but thanks again.

God bless.

 

[RobertZ]

I just want to take this moment to thank everyone for the kind words here and all the wonderful PM's.

I still need to take a break.....but thanks again.

God bless.

Taking a break is ok but please dont leave for good. Same for you Kaykay!

 

[RachelZ]

Ditto to above...well said RobertZ!