A funny, strage, bizarre thought

[Fatolia]

I start to wonder sometimes whether a woman I spend time getting to know ever thinks of me as a potential husband. It's just a neat, curious thought, that's all.

Because I always find myself (often on accident) placing a woman in my thoughts about potential wifedom as well.

 

[Out of the Flames]

For me, I'd look at it from a perspective of, "You know, he'll make a good hubby to someone". But at this point in my life, I'm not saddling myself with that...

It is an interesting thought though, because I do look at the men I meet and think hmm... he could be a boyfriend for the long term. But that's as committed as I get with my thinking about that.

 

[Mr Morning]

For me, I'd look at it from a perspective of, "You know, he'll make a good hubby to someone".

Hah! I've had some poeple say that about me before. "You'll make a great husband! The girl who marries you is gonna be lucky!" Un huh, that's assuming I get married, lol. (PLease don't think I'm conceited or anything )

I think the same way as you, Fatolia. When I meet a girl, one of the first thoughts I think is whether she'll be a good wife. Although, I always if they're doing the same thing to me. It makes me a little self-conscious sometimes, heh.

 

[gizmo03]

Even though I hardly have any experience in the dating field, only been in one actual relationship. But I don't plan on dating anyone I can't see myself marrying.

 

[Living4Him03]

I think you're saying that you think of the girl as in, you picture her being your wife and what that would be like right? I think most of us think of someone we date or get to know as someone we could potentially marry and try to figure out if marriage really is a possibility or if you just aren't compatible. Picturing the person as your husband(wife for guys) someday is okay I guess if you are engaged lol...but I don't think it's so healthy if you are just getting to know someone or dating them.

 

[Fatolia]

This is as much about "planning" as it is about stray thoughts.

 

[gsmithcat]

I have those kind of thoughts too. For example, I am friends with a girl who I've observed to be sincerely seeking after the Lord (a quality I find very attractive). I also happen to know that she is allergic to cats.

I actually spent some time considering if I could ever be married to a woman who is allergic to cats (being half cat myself). Anyway, I came to the conclusion that I would be willing to give up all things catlike if it is the Lord's will.

I also wonder if women have the same kind of thoughts. Like, do they wonder, "Could I be married to a guy who is half cat?"

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

I think you're saying that you think of the girl as in, you picture her being your wife and what that would be like right? I think most of us think of someone we date or get to know as someone we could potentially marry and try to figure out if marriage really is a possibility or if you just aren't compatible. Picturing the person as your husband(wife for guys) someday is okay I guess if you are engaged lol...but I don't think it's so healthy if you are just getting to know someone or dating them.

I, on the other hand, don't think it's a healthy relationship if you only think of this AFTER your engaged. Why would I get engaged to someone that I didn't think about if he was good husband material or not? I think that needs to be discussed before anyone says, "YES!" to "Will you marry me?".

When I first started to have "feelings" for my bf, I thought whether it was something to persue--if he'd make a good husband and daddy someday. If I thought he wouldn't, then there wasn't any reason to persue the relationship.

Although we're not engaged, I do know that he's the man I'm to marry. Although I do not place him in that role at this moment, I do daydream about the future. What can I say?

 

[Macrina]

I have those kind of thoughts too. For example, I am friends with a girl who I've observed to be sincerely seeking after the Lord (a quality I find very attractive). I also happen to know that she is allergic to cats.

I actually spent some time considering if I could ever be married to a woman who is allergic to cats (being half cat myself). Anyway, I came to the conclusion that I would be willing to give up all things catlike if it is the Lord's will.

I also wonder if women have the same kind of thoughts. Like, do they wonder, "Could I be married to a guy who is half cat?"

Hey, those things are important! I would never marry someone who didn't want cats or dogs in the house. A friend of mine gave up her cat for her hubby (who could have just had shots, it turns out). I wouldn't do that -- I'm a "love me, love my cat" kind of gal.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I have those kind of thoughts too. For example, I am friends with a girl who I've observed to be sincerely seeking after the Lord (a quality I find very attractive). I also happen to know that she is allergic to cats.

I actually spent some time considering if I could ever be married to a woman who is allergic to cats (being half cat myself). Anyway, I came to the conclusion that I would be willing to give up all things catlike if it is the Lord's will.

I also wonder if women have the same kind of thoughts. Like, do they wonder, "Could I be married to a guy who is half cat?"

Half cat, eh? I LOOOOOOVE kitties. At women's Bible study on Monday night, we were doing crafts, and the leader has a cat at her house. Hehe, I probably spent most of the time playing with the cute little thing!

I would cry if my future husband is allergic to cats But, there's always allergy shots, right?

 

[invisiblebabe]

I, on the other hand, don't think it's a healthy relationship if you only think of this AFTER your engaged. Why would I get engaged to someone that I didn't think about if he was good husband material or not? I think that needs to be discussed before anyone says, "YES!" to "Will you marry me?".

When I first started to have "feelings" for my bf, I thought whether it was something to persue--if he'd make a good husband and daddy someday. If I thought he wouldn't, then there wasn't any reason to persue the relationship.

Although we're not engaged, I do know that he's the man I'm to marry. Although I do not place him in that role at this moment, I do daydream about the future. What can I say?

I hope it works out for you

I agree with ya.... before I make a commitment to someone, I'd better know that he's thinking marriage in the long run (assuming we have no major incompatibilities that we find out during the course of the relationship) and I know exactly when that "marriage time" will approximately be.... and that he's got all the qualities I would need in a future spouse.

 

[belle1492]

Hah! I've had some poeple say that about me before. "You'll make a great husband!

I'm physically disabled and have never been in a relationship, but I've had that happen to me a few times. Each time it made me feel embarrassed, but one of those times confused me. This happened a few years ago...a guy at church who was at least 20 yrs older than me and married, was sitting in the front pew before church. I walked by him and his wife as they were waiting for church to start. All I think I did was smile and acknowlege them, and the man says, "You'll make a good wife one day!" Thats all he said It was rather confuseing and amusing. He seemed serious about it, didn't seem to be joking around. All in all it was strange.

I usually try not to think of guys as "great husband" material because I never wanted to get myself thinking/ getting excited about marriage when at 29 have yet to have a guy show interest in me, BUT then I became friends with a guy who I distinctly remember thinking during our first in depth conversation, "I could marry someone like him.":o I proceeded to devote several years to trying to move our friendship along, all the while wondering "does he like me?", only to find out he is engaged. So the moral of the story is: Never think a guy would make good husband material until he asks you out! (or proposes marriage)