9 year old.. going on 3

[LadyLamond]

My 9, almost 10 year old has serious issue with whining(sp). I have tried everything to cure her of it. She doesn't do it at school, nor around other family, only at home. And it's enough to driver me bonkers. She has a few other things that she does that is annoying also, but I honestly think if we can work through this, she can grow up and away from her other habits.

Anyone with older or grown kids deal with this? Any suggestions would be appreciated.

 

[andiesmama]

Well, I have a 3 year old so I don't have the experience you're talking about with older children & whining, but when Andie does it, I just tell her that I don't understand her when she talks in her "whiny voice" and I don't do anything until she uses her normal voice.

It STILL grates on my nerves, though!! :o Sometimes I have to walk to the other room to escape & bite my tongue! lol

 

[Linnis]

My nephew is 7 and I simply don't put up with it. When he whines I'll be like "No more whining" or if he whines for something like a drink or a snack, he has to wait 10-15 minutes before I will and then I remind him to ask me again in a nice voice. If he's whining for something like a turn on a video game the thing goes off.

He also gets time out for it. I HATE whining with a passion and he knows this so he hardly does it because I lay down the no whining law pretty quick.

 

[lucypevensie]

My kids are younger than yours but what has helped curb whining is I will simply tell them they must stop that tone of voice and they must speak clearly. I require them to make their requests of me in a clear tone of voice with the word please (sometimes even in a complete sentence*gasp*). I'm not so rigid with this rule that I don't let them express ANY frustration. But there is a different between frustration and simply whining. We can usually tell the difference between the two. The goal is not to hush them up, but to teach them how to communicate their needs and wants and thoughts in the most effective way

 

[Princessperky]

A lot of times after a day at school (ever wonder just how long that day is to a kid?) kids have trouble being good at home too, Course to poor teachers that is often reversed . Ever notice after a long day at work people are a bit short tempered? Adults learn to cope and 'leave the stress at the door' which is a HARD skill and many adults fail to learn it actually, so it is a bit much to expect a small child to understand especially with 'homework'.

Not that we can let kids misbehave at home or anything, but if the school is totaly stressing a kid out we can reduce the stress. And should see positive results in other areas.

In the meantime, all the PPs sugestions work great. Never fulfill a whined request (unless there is emminent danger of course!)