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Im not saying that, i’m saying as Christians we should not be dressing in a way that causes somebody who is at a lesser spiritual maturity to stumble.
 
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Whats another reason that somebody would show skin

Because it's hot. Or for reasons of practicality relative to the activity being undertaken. Or simply because he or she liked the outfit and wasn't viewing it in terms of the attention it might draw from others.

Just three examples.
 
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Okay first off i didnt say it was in church I said as Christians we should dress with respect to ourselves. Also its not just men lusting after women. Dudes who wear tight shirts to show off there muscles or tight pants to show off other stuff are as much to blame as women who wear revealing clothing. Your body is for your husband/wives eyes only and it should not be something that we flaunt around. Its causes Christians and non christians alike to sin. Whether it was your intention or not, it still happens. Now im not saying its your fault that the person is lusting after you and, not at all! Im saying we have a higher responsibility to dress appropriately to reduce that from happening.
 
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These are guidelines of Pure Fashion, but they are for minors who are being trained in modesty. I think once a girl grasps the concept, she has more freedom for variations in her adulthood:

Modesty Guidelines | Pure Fashion
 
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There is something to say here, that everyone likely needs to understand. Women are attractive to men, regardless of what they wear.

I could wear an abaya with niqab and have American men drool with lust.

1.) most women cannot actually hide their female form, even wearing a tent..

and

2.) anything that seems "forbidden" or "taboo" seems to create an "other" that makes a person even more desirable due to the fact she is a challenge.

The key to modest dress is literally to not bring undue attention to oneself.. if everyone is running around dressed a certain way, and your not blending in it draws attention.

in summer heat a woman need not dress for aiding heat stroke, she can wear a light weight summer top and a pair of Capris or shorts that have a little length to them for the store or park and still be modest in dress while blending in more with the crowd in most western nations..

Once you realize just how much flesh it takes to make men swoon



you begin adapting your wardrobe centered more around comfort and a general sense of modesty and decorum..
 
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You are twisting scripture and adding to God's Word that which He never said.

Showing skin?

My face is covered with skin. So are my hands. Are they to be covered, too?

What skin are you talking about?

Show me scripture... I do not want any person's opinions...
 
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Whats another reason that somebody would show skin
Let's see...

  • Taking a bath (remember, for most of human history, bathing was done outdoors at public waters)
  • Seeing a doctor
  • Catching some sun (good source of Vitamin D)
  • Cooling off (God's intent in the design of human skin was to allow for evaporative cooling)
  • Swimming (swimming is a MUCH better experience without clothes)
  • Comfort (ever notice that "comfortable clothing" always means "loose clothing"?)
None of these things have anything to do with "drawing attention" by "showing skin"...

But you seem to think that the MOST important thing about skin is whether it is visible or not.

Why?

That's not what God thinks about human skin... in fact He literally LIKED it when Adam and Eve were fully naked... and made a point of describing all of creation as "Very Good"... while the first humans were still completely "showing skin" (Genesis 1:31).
 
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Thanks for the link.

I really agree with your statement... "I believe the idea that Paul is warning his readers away from flaunting wealth is enough in and of itself" and I would stop there. We simply should not go beyond what it clearly says, and as you said, those who do so are generally attempting to control the behavior of other people... and that is wrong... always.
 
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Im not saying that, i’m saying as Christians we should not be dressing in a way that causes somebody who is at a lesser spiritual maturity to stumble.
Explain to me why it was OK for Jesus to "cause" the Pharisees to "stumble"... because they definitely sinned against God by their reactions to Jesus and the things He said and did.
 
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In the end and constantly is God searching and judging us. So we should not deceive ourselves because that way we hinder the wonderful things that God wants us to be since he Delights in our joy.

So some people will say "hey don't judge me" as they wallow in the mire in comparison to what God wants to give us. Other evil spirits attempt to keep everyone out of God's Kingdom with a facade of righteousness.

So modesty just means clinging to God and being part of his kingdom. No knowledge can truly show what actually being comforted by and being near God is like. So judge yourselves to see if you're wallowing in the mire or if you're rejoicing at the feet of God.
 
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Very well put. I agree!
 
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I'm teenage and female.

My perspective so far is that modesty just means being appropriate and not showing off wealth and stuff. I think its ok to wear crop tops or whatever when hanging out with friends, because it feels good to be confident and feel like you are wearing something special. And for things like homecoming i think its cool to wear more cocktail style dresses because again, those look good.

I think that its all about occasion, not rules. I am very short, so knee length dresses with loose fit and high necklines basically swallow me up and it makes me feel bad.

As females, i don't get really why we have to "hide" our feminine energy. Like all through history, women's energy and feminity has been celebrated, and we were given strong and beautiful bodies, so like why hide them?

I have extreme ocd though, and am constantly worried about causing a brother to stumble, even tho i tbh find that a bit of a patriarchal trope.

If anyone can reply or has more advice or opinions to this, then i will greatly appreciate it!
 
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Hi! So I'm a teenage girl, and I am confused a bit. I think its fine to wear crops or whatever, since we were given naturally beautiful shapes as women, and its a part of our femininity. I want to know if you think thats bad. Like, what do you think its ok if you are just going to hang out with friends or something?
 
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Well, exactly; and in any case leather jackets and tattoos have been pretty mainstream for years.
 
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