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Oh Multi - you are a very sensitive soul. It is part of what makes you such a good artist. And that is a good thing!

But I understand how painful some of that could be. I was also bullied and misunderstood and treated harshly, both at school and at home.

I also get the trust issues. I had them myself. What I found is to focus on trusting God, and letting HIM deal with the other meanies.

Remember God loves you (and all of us) even when we are at our lowest, our worst. He still considers us precious enough for His Son to die for us.
 
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Hang in there, Multifavs. I have a good feeling God will be very pleased with you on the judgement day thanks to your good nature and willingness not to stoop down to other people's level. It's a rare quality I see on this forum.
I completely agree - with one exception: He is just as pleased with you RIGHT NOW! You don't have to wait for judgement day. :)
 
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As far as being sensitive and artistic talent/endeavor, God told me something once on that in prayer.

I was in a play at our church, and some of the musicians and the actors were being very - ugly. I saw this "artistic temperament" as a very negative thing. I was probably in my mid or late 20s at the time. I was praying for God to make them "grow up" and stop acting so petty. But God stopped me and told me that He gave me that same temperament and expected me to use it as well. When I told my wife she said she knew that all along.

That was a shock. I had to repent of judging them, and start trying to recover something that had been beaten out of me at an early age. [at age 63 I am still recovering, but that is another story]

My point is for you to EMBRACE the artist temperament, even with the sensitivity and the tendency to judge. (something I have NOT seen you do - EVER) God made us this way so we should embrace it, even when it conflicts with others around us (and it surely will)

Songs help remind me of what is REAL. Maybe you will find this one encouraging:

 
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Random ranting post ahead:

I've had multiple times, both online and offline, where I would think someone was a good person but then they would say/do something that made me upset and was sinful. Or someone would be nice to me for a little bit but then start bullying me instead, or someone would be a good friend for a while and then dump me for no apparent reason. Whenever these things happen I feel very hurt and sad.

I've always been shy, and when I was very young everyone thought I might grow out of it, but instead it got worse. Thanks to my last few years of public school being very bad, it's gotten to where I don't want to talk to people besides family and I try to stay away from strangers. All the awful things I dealt with there have really hurt my social skills. :(

I want to be better but it's so hard. My bad experiences with the other kids in school gave me the idea that I can't trust people, that they're probably going to do whatever they want and not care if it bothers anybody else. I know not everyone is like that, but I always get worried that someone's going to make me upset. And yes, I know that I should place my trust in God, not in man, but I don't think it's normal to feel this way...

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You need to understand most people are wordly and lost without God , full of pride and selfish . They probably were hurt themselfes but decided to hurt others the same way they have been treated and just ignore everything else and put themselfes first in everything they do .
Christians who put faith in God usually try to live better but we are only forgiven humans not sinless beings . That's why Jesus told us to forgive 70 times 7 because we will be making others suffer soon or later .

I also had bad experience myself in School and from my family but you have to move on . Try to focus your attention towards God rather than people . If you serve somebody doing your job for example you are waitress and the guest is drunk and spit you in face , endure that because you know that your work will be rewarded when you get to heaven and life does not end after 70-80 years here on earth , it's actually nothing compared to eternity which God gave us through his son for free :bigeye:
 
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I'm just the opposite. Many people in life have told me I'm too trusting and that's why people always screw me over. It's okay I don't really mind I've always believe that you give people the benefit of the doubt until they give you a reason to do otherwise. My advice would be to quit looking backwards and quit comparing people or situations to that in which you have experienced in the past. That person in front of you today is not the person that messed with you in the past. If you start projecting that stuff on to them they are going to react to it and likely it's going to come in a negative way since what you are projecting is negative. Somehow you have to find a way to take each person for who they are. Otherwise you are blaming them or judging them for something someone else did to you and there's just no reason for them to be accepting of that.
 
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I'm sorry to hear that people hurt you. I can totally understand your frustration.

People suck. There's no way to sugarcoat it. It's the result of living in a fallen world where people have free will and choose to abuse it. Sin nature has corrupted us and made it harder to be nice than to be prideful and hateful. That will continue until Jesus comes back and makes everything right again.

I know it's very hard to trust when you had your trust abused again and again. I know you like to see the best in everyone and that is a great quality to have. Just know that even when men let you down, God won't and in Heaven this sort of high school drama will no longer exist. For once, people will value each other's humanity more than social status.

Hang in there, Multifavs. I have a good feeling God will be very pleased with you on the judgement day thanks to your good nature and willingness not to stoop down to other people's level. It's a rare quality I see on this forum.

Very good counsel, providing the OP has received the Lord Jesus into the heart; otherwise access to the blessings of God is remote and only by some mercies at times (note John 14:6; John 9:31; 1 Jn. 5:10-12; etc.). God has committed all blessings and truth into His "...beloved Son", as He often says. We must have this relationship with the Father through Jesus, the Christ, and I did not see that, though I hope that relationship is there.
 
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