12 Steps -what are they?

[Yasha]

Below is a link to the site for 12 Step. 12 Step is not a program to be done alone. It REQUIRES the support of others. Sponsorship of one who is established in the process is a necessary component. I am providing this simply for information and access to the site where internet 12 Step communities exist. They are converting, and I notice that their new forum location is thus far inactive. Poke around and see the 12 Step programs for yourselves. You may be surprised to see how easily YOUR faith fits in to a 12 Step program, if you have never read these 12 Steps before. These Basic 12 Steps (listed here) are universal and applied to all of the addictions and CoDependency programs, changing only the wording of step 1 and 12. However, once involved in one, you would find that there are more differences in the wording that follows the explanations of each step's participation and execution to any one branch of the programs in regard to the issues. eg. alcohol, eating disorders, sexual addictions, abusive relationships, etc.

12 Step for Coda(Codependent/Abusive Relationships)<<<current site:refers you to new one

The 12 Suggested Steps of CoDependent/Abusive Relationships Anonymous

1. We admitted we were powerless over CoDependent/Abusive Relationships--that our lives had become unmanageable.
   
   [*]Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
   
   [*]Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
   
   [*]Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
   
   [*]Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
   
   [*]Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
   
   [*]Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
   
   [*]Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
   
   [*]Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
   
   [*]Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
   
   [*]Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
   
   [*]Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to CoDependent/Abusive Relationship Survivors, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
   

ASCA or Adult Survivors of Child Abuse, is another link of interest.

Please feel free to comment or add resources links of your own for other participants to explore.

The fragile nature of some survivor's makeups, in my humble opinion, may be well served to approach discovery about the resources available to them in the anonymity of the internet. Please be blessed in reaching for your needs to be met, and may the Lord BLESS each one who searches here, for His recovery and deliverance to be manifest in their lives.

I don't think the internet is a substitute for real life interactive relationships. I DO think it is a great resource for discovery and motivation toward seeking the available help. God Bless you all in your journies Home. love, Sha

 

[reeann]

There are many 12 step groups out there. I cannot tell you how much the Christian one has helped me. Regardless, they are a workable steps, and they help you surrender to your HP, while giving you valuable tools to arrest the disEASE. I pray that all who suffer will prayfully go through the steps with others like them that share their struggles.

 

[Yasha]

As I said yesterday...today is about me searching for a group to join in my area. I am trying really hard...no cigar yet. These groups are harder to find than I realized, for me anyway....I live in Timbuk3! but, everything is hard to get to from here....no surprise.

Found this very interesting resource in my searching.

Survivors of Incest Anonymous: Our group meetings

Covers the world, so that means you, too.
Love, Sha

 

[Ann Doupont]

Before I was a Christian, I was an alcoholic and a drug abuser/addict. I started going to AA, and memorized the 12 steps and worked them to the best of my ability, admitting first of all that I was indeed powerless over alcohol, and that it was making my life unmanageable.

The people there were friendly enough, and many had overcome their addiction to alcohol. They said to get to 90 meetings in 90 days. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't do it. But, I did learn to strive toward it, and toward working the steps to the best of my ability.

I went to only one NA (Narcotics Anonymous) meeting. There, they said that if you're using ANY drugs (including prescription medication) to not return until you were off of drugs. I never returned.

I went to OA (Overeaters) for my eating problem. And, then to EA (Emotions Anonymous) where I met a man who led me to Jesus.

The steps are invaluable. I have learned to overcome in many areas of my life through working them. I especially like the 11th step. It helped me to know the Lord's voice.

Blessings to all.

With love,

Ann