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I agree 100%. To the OP: maybe a better strategy would be to try to eliminate the activity (I won't call it a sin, because I recognise that some people don't regard it as such, though I do) entirely, rather than 'allowing' yourself to do it once a week. If you stop it, and keep it out of life...

Yes, of course. It is the duty of a wife to satisfy her husband.

I may be overreacting, but the middle section isn't sitting well with me. I believe the best thing to do about the physical pressure is to pray to the Lord to give you the strength not to give in to it. Like so many temptations, it is sent to us by the Devil to tempt us from the true path...

Yes, it's wrong to do it It is a sexual act outside of marriage, and one closely related to lust, which should be confined to wedlock. Also, it sounds like the way you are looking at women is lustful, plus of course you are talking about bisexuality. The solution is to pray for God's strength...

Jesus died for us because we sin. All he asks in return is that we repent. So you should not feel low, instead you should rejoice in God's love and resolve not to abuse the body He gave you again.

Congratulations on sharing this with us. I know you wrote that it's difficult for you to do so, and I think in taking that step you have done a lot to put the temptations in their place. Many people are tempted with bad thoughts, images and ideas. There is no sin in this. The only sin is in...

I feel sad for you, and admire you for coming onto the forum and posting about this difficult personal topic. The advice your friend gave you, that you are being tempted by Satan, is right, I feel, and of course you are also hearing the voice of God, telling you not to give in to this...

The act of self abuse is inherently not 'clean and pure'. On the contrary, it releases hormones and emotions that should be reserved for your future wife. By committing the physical sin you are allowing the emotional one into your life. The solution is to lay off this act, and pray to God for...

I am sorry to hear of your suffering, and will pray for you. Remember that we are all imperfect, and we fall into sin occasionally, and we shouldn't let our past sins define who we are. The next time you feel lust, put yourself in a position where there are others around you so you cannot abuse...

I agree with those who've said couples should discuss all decisions affecting each other and any children they have and only if agreement can't be reached should the husband assert his leadership and decide what should happen. In doing so he should also submit to his wife, by taking the decision...

I think it's important to remember the principle that as Christians we love the sinner but hate the sin. Yes, masturbation, lust (especially for one of your own sex) and using inappropriate content are horrible things, but that doesn't make you horrible. On the contrary, you're God's creation, a wonderful...

I agree with this, except that the job of 'pre-selecting' who should submit when there's disagreement could itself lead to animosity. Which is why God has decided this matter for us, in his great wisdom - it's the job of our husbands to lead and us wives to submit and obey.

I think she should contain herself until her husband returns. 'M' is not the same as making love within marriage, where husband and wife each concentrate on giving pleasure to the other, it's a selfish thing where a person pleases themself only. And am I alone in thinking it's doubly wrong for...

He's doing it to please me. I like sex a lot, and probably am too attached to the physical pleasure of it - I have a lot more [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] than him normally. Trouble is, this is the second time nw that I've got aggressive towards him when he hasn't wanted it and it's because I've got too attached to...

TBH it's not often that I don't want it but he does. However we've recently been practising sex without foreplay or [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] for me and although it hurts a little it's still great because of the closeness and of course it's great to see him enjoying himself. So yes, I can't see how it could be a...

How do you feel about the notion that the husband is head of the wife as Christ is head of the Church, or the Biblical command that wives should obey their husbands?

My parents had this problem with my sister and they used to beat her for it. A lot. I'm not saying it's the right answer but obviously no parent wants a daughter who abuses herself.

You are not a lesbian. Lesbian is a label. You are a child of God and currently you're being tempted by lustful thoughts, which happen to involve other women. Through prayer you can beat Satan.

I was brought up to believe that wearing trousers/pants was an unforgivable sin for girls/women and that it was even wrong to wear hosiery. When I got away from the community I grew up in my fiance said he felt it was OK to wear jeans and he hated to see me freezing cold in the winter, so I...

I was 17 when we married and I'm very happy. IMHO God sends us one true love in our lives, if we're lucky, and whether that person comes into our lives when we're younger or older it's for us to recognise them when they appear and make our relationships together work out.