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I agree with you. And I have sought counsel. He is unwilling.

This is for anyone else who ever comes along. I’ll call it an update, but I’m not sure yet what it will become. Maybe I’m just jotting down records of a social experiment in which I am a reluctant participant. I guess it has been three years since my original post. I am utterly discourage to...

You know, I am just now reading this. Only a couple of years late. ;) Thank you for sharing all that you did. I certainly know it’s not easy. I actually tried to delete my post and my account, but it seems that the forum doesn’t allow that. Here for posterity or something. I am really...

Sorry, I haven’t logged on here in months. I’ll probably delete my account sometime soon anyway. It is clear that far too many marriages are suffering this kind of silent death. Mine continues to rot. I haven’t so much as received a kiss since December. Never in a million years did I think this...

I am so sorry you’re living through the same. Thank you for responding.

Richard, I was going to reply privately to you, but it seems I do not have the option as I am new to this site/forum. So, this is public. Oh well. In all honesty, your response means the most. I truly appreciate all that the others have so graciously shared and their suggestions for help. But...

Thank you. I’ll think on that more.

A very good point for sure. But it’s not a possibility with us. He had a vasectomy over ten years ago — most of our children are adopted. :)

We actually do all of those things already.

I totally agree with you. But I am weary of having to take the lead on these things.

You’re not being harsh. I regret saying we may need to separate. And I said I am tempted in my mind (as all are)- but I have not engaged in any sin nor would I pursue it. I have told him in the hardest talks about this that I am miserable and can’t fathom living with a mere roommate the rest of...

I really do believe the physical change has impacted him psychologically and then that cycle repeats. I don’t know when exactly it started, but he definitely didn’t seem to be addressing it until it went on for a while. I am super open about health and physical issues and even ED is not...

Logistics would be beyond difficult there. We have a large family to support and his current job pays better than most others in his field. It wouldn’t be wise to let it go.

That’s a good idea and one I’ve thought about. Honestly, the cost of counseling would probably just give him more financial stress. So I’m afraid I would feel l would be burdening him more.

Thank you for your response which I am sure took an amount of time to write. Desire for a spouse is not the sin of lust. And a desire to have sexual relations with one’s spouse is not the same as living in the flesh. Afterall, God creates it. He could have just as easily made us to reproduce...

Thank you for sharing your experience and ideas. I truly do not believe I have some insatiable deep need. I just like making love with my husband. Even though I would like to have sex daily, we never have and I have never pressured him to. Our frequency has been on his terms based on his need...

Thank you for the time you took to write this. I can’t possibly answer all of those questions in this space, but I will say that I agree you on some things. I take my relationship with God very seriously as does my husband. I do feel resentment toward my husband on this topic, but it is not...

I got him to take Glycine before bed and now he sleeps really well. But work and stress just exhausts him overall.

Thank you so much. I will definitely look into this.

Thank you. And I agree with you. I can’t force him to seek counseling though.