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Yes, I am bumping an old thread but I wanted to provide an update to help even 1 person reading this in the future somehow. It's been almost 3.5 years since my first post and today my marriage is in a much better state, I would even say mostly stable. We still fight occasionally of course but...

You were responding to someone else :) but our baby is now a toddler and is safe. I still live with my wife but I have started to look for family law attorneys to explore my options and how to protect myself. It seems like most legal advice says to never leave the house (as the man) as that can...

I pray for you and your husband, as long as we're in these earthly bodies we will not be perfect but I hope that there is some improvement. My wife verbally abuses me whenever she's upset or angry but never apologizes and never says it's wrong and instead she blames me for making her upset...

It's getting worse, now I'm fearing for our young child's well being. My wife seems really mentally ill and is now yelling at our child and yelling at me with our child in her arms while our child is terrified. I am really lost as to how to proceed, if I call CPS, she will almost certainly lie...

Yes, I work from home.

KelNea, what you describe are classic symptoms of narcissism and gaslighting. It's a mental illness, I live with a spouse who gaslights just like you mention (she'll deny things she just said or things she just did and call me crazy for hallucinating). For me, having good trusted friends to...

An update about 10 months later. During the summer, my wife would end up putting my mom in the ER twice with [actual symptoms removed for privacy] by calling her [my mom] in the middle of our (my wife and my) fights and yelling at her (my mom!) about what a horrible son she raised and to make...

As a Jewish tradition, Sabbath is from Fri evening to Sat evening. What day you choose to worship God and recharge is up to you. Most protestants go to church on Sunday but [should] worship Him every day. It's generally considered rude to stare at people, you may be making them uncomfortable...

Hello NerdGirl123, I went back and read through your older posts and decided to reply here. I now better understand what you're going through and I am so sorry for your situation. Even with Covid, is it still possible to move into an apartment? Of course I don't know your whole situation but I...

Ah yes, I had forgotten about Proverbs 21:19 (and also 21:9). I'll meditate on those verses. When we got married, we both said Ephesians 5:21-33 was how we wanted marriage to work. Clearly we both think the other isn't doing their part.

I can see her trying as well when things are going well. I pray you're able to find peace and a time to spend with God for more clarity.

Thanks for the post. Yes, I agree separation may well be the better alternative vs divorce. But somehow reading of your friends who died separated makes me sad for them. They could have been happy separated of course but it seems sad to die without resolving the most important human...

Nerdgirl123, how are you doing these days? My marriage is going pretty well as we haven't had any real disagreements for the last couple of weeks or so. Although there is an issue brewing that I can see coming. I don't believe my wife intentionally hid anything or tried to misrepresent...

Good points, yes I realize divorce will clean me out financially. Our therapist is pretty fair. The reason I married her was because I wanted a family and I was so sick and tired of dating and I thought she clicked all the checkmarks on my list of things I wanted in a wife. But later I would...

I believe both divorce and suicide are sins, but agree that they're not the unforgivable sin.

David committed murder, I don't think he's in hell.

Thank you all for your responses. From the suggestion of several people who've heard the things she does, and reading about it myself, I think she has narcissistic personality disorder. At our most recent therapy session together, she gaslighted (gaslit?) me about 3 times (by denying different...

NerdGirl123, thank you for your kind words. And I am praying for your situation as well. This morning I was actually looking at Airbnbs to look at my options for a short term stay. I am scared of going that route as I can't predict what I'll set off in motion. [I wrote the above this morning...

I have been wrestling with my terrible marriage, I feel for our discussion the details of our situation are not that important. There is no infidelity as far as I can tell, so divorce isn't "allowed." I frequently have thoughts of killing myself rather than live in this hell of a marriage. The...

That while God hates divorce, it's not an unforgivable sin. The biggest mistake of my life is marrying my wife but I'm stuck because we're both Christian and we cannot divorce unless one of us is unfaithful which I don't think will happen (thankfully).