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I remember your story. Do you want to go visit him? You said he was always good to you. I think flowers are fine and show respect for her family (I think they treated you fairly well once they understood what was going on, correct?). But if you wait until he has passed away, he won't know...

It would be hard and embarrassing to be in this position. I'm sorry you are dealing with it (and repeatedly). :( The hard part will be figuring out what he is responsible for (and needs to change) and what is beyond his control. But you do have some things you can do and people who can help...

It's highly possible some of his medication or his condition is affecting his judgement/thinking skills. The nurses can give you some perspective on that, as well as how bad it really is in relation to other experiences they've had. And you will be letting them know you are concerned about how...

Do you trust the church member's judgement and ability to talk about? If so, I would take him up on the offer for him to talk with your husband first and then see how that goes. It really depends on your relationship/history of interactions with your husband. If you think your husband will...

The nurses probably don't like it either. Unless is pretty benign, and more of a "being friendly" thing, which some people take as flirting. Is he aware he is doing it?

No, I cannot re-read them any more and I'm giving up. I have tried to make sense of them, but you are making my head spin. I can't tell what you are trying to argue, or with whom. This latest post appears to go back and forth, within the same sentence, on multiple occasions. (I can no...

I'm curious about how you have been enlightened enough to discern (AKA judge) who is being consistent on this thread, and who is not? We all have to make judgements about things. It is how we make order in our lives. We use judgements to decide which car to buy, where to live, which job to...

No, it wouldn't happen for me. I don't have a problem having male friends or with my husband having female friends. Other married people do have issues. I don't have anything to add to the great responses so far. I'm simply replying to give you another answer to your question. There is no...

I'm with EZoo and Stan. Stan summed it up in the part about "washing away sins, but not the consequences". If, in the future I had cause to be in the dating pool again, I likely would not date a man who had children by more than one woman - some cirmcumstances would cause me to reconsider...

Wooahh! Look at those cheeks!

OK - I get that about the "children's inheritance" thing. When I was younger I thought pre-nups were insulting. But now, as I have seen more things, and as I have kids, I think there is value to them. My husband and I talked, and I explained to him that if one of us were to die and the other...

EZoo - Can I ask re: you not wanting to get married again. I saw in another post that you and your wife have discussed this. From repeated posts of yours, it seems you are really emotionally stable/healthy and grounded (and happy in your marriage). Why do you think you would not get married...

LOL. Keep that one at a distance.

Yes, I do plan to ask him. But I want to hear it first. His instinct is to deny until proven otherwise, even for ridiculous stuff (when he knows he's wrong). And I don't want to accuse him of something he's not doing, either. It would seem a simple thing to catch it in the course of daily...

Yes, that's my experience, too. (Although I hear that now some of the teachers are using first names with the kids. Our schools, all the way through high-school, are still pretty traditional.) It's what I thought was going on in our house.

I don't expect him to do that; he does it. When he is talking to the kids, he refers to his brothers as "Uncle so and so", and he refers to his parents with "grandma this" and "grandpa that". I am the only one he doesn't use this form with, which is why it surprised me when the kids told me...

He says "Your mom/dad" when speaking of my parents. He says "My mom/dad" when speaking of his parents. His father say "your mom" when he is talking to him about his mother. But his mom sometimes uses his dad's first name (his dad is actually his step-father), so she has always gone between...

We view kids calling adults by their first name as disrespectful, unless the adult asks to be addressed that way. (We also understand that many kids are not taught the same things we were, so we just let them know we go by Mr or Mrs, not our first name.) Him calling me by my first name to our...

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I was surprised, thinking the same thing, too. But they assured me it's the case. He talks directly to me and uses my name when I'm around, or uses "her/she" when he's talking to the kids. I know he used to refer to me as "Your Mama". But I haven't heard that in many years. I just assumed he...