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I really appreciated what you had to say. Thank you.

OK, I agree that it's best to divorce. Getting past that: how can I deal with this issue and continue with a healthy marriage?

I'm looking for the Christian perspective on this. I'm certainly not the world's best Christian. I don't go to the church. My husband won't go with me, and I feel stupid going alone. I've read the Bible, but failed to make it past Genesis this year. I don't want children. My husband does. We've...

Honestly, I think you are waaaaay over-reacting. No, him smoking behind your back means nothing about his fidelity. There is no connection. Smoking is an addiction. It's a drug, and very difficult to give up. So many people try to quit and can't. Have some compassion. He really didn't have a...

Call me judgmental, but me too. Herpes would be a deal breaker. Something like 80% of the population has cold sores, but that's not as big of a deal.

If you have ever read Jane Austen, in the 1700s, it was common for women in at least her upper-crust circle to be in their mid-20s before marrying, and men older than that. In some cultures, at certain times, it wasn't uncommon for 14 or 15 year olds to get married, but it's a myth that until...

I did not want to totally derail pugluv's thread. Her situation rings out to me, because there's a similar issue in my marriage. I hope it's ok that I started my own thread. I have never wanted kids. Most of my friends knew by the time they were in the second grade that they wanted to grow up...

That's ok. There's no law that says you have to get married and have a family. And if the romantic feelings with these guys are disappearing, maybe that's just a reaction to them not being the right guy for you.

I'm really sorry you are going through this. I am, too, but in reverse. I have never wanted kids, and was sure to marry someone who also didn't want kids. Well, he changed his mind. We're doing fine right now, but I worry about the future, as he gets older and really understands time is running...

Not a chance. I don't have a long list of deal-breakers. I could get past an affair. I could even get through it if he hit me (once). But having a child with another woman is a flat out deal-breaker.

I must be lucky, but I've never been attacked-- religious context or otherwise-- about my choice not to have kids. It might be the product of where I live. People keep about their own business here.

No, I think that's childish.

I agree with pretty much everything you've said. Personal responsibility-- an interesting concept more people need to be looking into.

One incident of physical abuse, and I'm gone. I would be willing to work through an affair. Repeated affairs, probably not.

I am very sorry you are going through this. It can be very difficult when married couples disagree on money. My mom was like your wife, but not nearly as bad. She would buy these ridiculously expensive baskets, and she shopped all the time. Drove my dad insane. In my marriage, both of us are...

I guess it's a matter of perspective. I find your position that I should stand for a pregnant woman-- without any consideration for how tired and uncomfortable I might be, or how tired and uncomfortable she might NOT be-- far more rude. I can think of people who need seats far more than pregnant...

You can be modest and touch people, even a boyfriend. You can be modest and wear pants, skirts that don't hang to the floor, short-sleeves. Like you, I don't like being touched by many people, and, no, it's not unnatural, but there's nothing wrong with a pat on the shoulder, a hug, holding...

Unethical and a logistical nightmare.

If I noticed someone was struggling to stand, pregnant or not, I would absolutely move. I would also move for anyone who asked for any reason. I'm just saying I wouldn't automatically jump out of my seat every time a pregnant woman came aboard.

Perhaps you can explain to me why a pregnant woman has more right to any seat I'm sitting in than I do. We both want to take a load off our feet. Please explain to me why her want is more important than mine. Perhaps you could explain to me how it's rude for me to want to sit in a seat, but...