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Thank you Criada, my counsellor and a good friend were the reason why I stopped for one day but I didn't feel any sense of accomplishment or that I had gained from it so I started doing it again.

I've self-harmed a bit over a few years, but never for long periods at a time and I could stop fairly easily. But I've started again and have been doing it once a day, at a regular time since last Wednesday. My counsellor and a couple of friends know that I'm doing it and I know that they don't...

Thank you CMJames, Oriel and Criada for replying, I really appreciate it. Oriel - what you said makes alot of sense and I do believe that suicide is not an option. My first way of dealing with my thoughts is to recognize that my thoughts are irratonal and/or negative and replace them with the...

Absolutely and its free so a major blessing! I'm doing better today, thanks. My finances are looking very tight this month as well as deadlines for assignments but I'm trying to just live an hour/day at a time, focus on what I can do and try to plan as much as possible so I don't get...

Thank you so much! Thank you for understanding what I went through. Yes, I have a fantastic counselor and she is definitely helping me to work through issues that have a big influence in my depression. I can message her any time and she'll pray for me. Definitely a Godsend :)

Hi Sometimes when I'm doing better, I have thoughts of suicide but I don't feel suicidal and when I am really struggling, I'm not suicidal at all. I don't believe that suicide is ever the right way out. Does anybody else have this? Earlier on I was bombarded by evil thoughts, I couldn't...

There's a situation in my life that I can't control so I want to cut myself or harm myself in some way so I have some control but I can't do anything because I'm at work.

Hi I'm seeing a counselor once a week or every two weeks for depression and I do occasionally self-harm when I'm really feeling down. I think if most people I know knew I was going to a counselor they wouldn't think I needed to because I appear to have it altogether but I really don't...

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I've just read your story. You have so much courage to have been through this situation and not given up. Please keep us updated, I think it would be wise to not let your husband back into your home or anywhere near you until he has realised that he needs professional help and that there is...

Does anyone else have coping mechanisms for depression, excluding self-harm, that's not constructive or helpful but you keep doing them? You don't have to say what they are if you don't want to.

I winked at a guy the other day and now he wants to chat and he's online :)

Haha Welshman, thanks for the laugh and the advice. Its actually quite funny, I have a good friend in my church who's Scottish, a couple in my church - she's Afrikaans and met an Irishman in New Zealand - and they got married and they live here in SA but I have yet to meet a Welshman :D It...

Thanks elenore and cmjames! I know I'm probably reading way too much into this but when I first liked him, before I knew he still had a girlfriend, I could see myself going out with him. I guess we all do when we have a crush. Its in God's will :)

I agree with pretty much everything said here. If he doesn't ask you out soon, keep the friendship going and let it develop and grow naturally. If nothing more develops between you two, it sounds like you'll at least have a good friend :) Everybody has had a different opinion on how long a date...

Thanks Saucy, you make some good points. I know I wasn't a good friend to him and I need to stop being selfish and put him and my other friends first before myself. Its not that I only want to be friends because I think he's interested, I just couldn't be around him when he was engaged because...

I'm not giddy, I'm more confused than anything because I don't know what God's plan is. I want to be a genuine friend to him and try to put any feelings aside, if I have any. I'm not going to contact him any more now than I have in the past but I will be friendlier because I'm not pushing him...

I've heard stories of the persecuted church and I get newsletters from a couple of missionary societies who work with the persecuted but I've stopped reading them because I guess I've also become selfish and lazy and I need to open my eyes and ears to what's really going on around the world. One...

So there have been changes with this situation. The guy got engaged a few months ago and since then I've pushed him away a bit. I struggled to chat to him as a friend knowing he had a fiancee. But I heard last night that his fiancee broke up with him. I heard it indirectly so I can't say...

I sent this guy a message 3 days ago and he hasn't replied. Should I email him or just leave it?