- Feb 5, 2002
- 190,161
- 70,360
- Country
- United States
- Gender
- Female
- Faith
- Catholic
- Marital Status
- Married
- Politics
- US-Others
My wife once heard some excellent advice: look for men who want to be husbands, not for men who just want wives.
Having a wife is tremendous. She provides encouragement and emotional support. She turns a house into a home. She is a companion to share your interests and struggles with, and she’s a key part to starting your own family. It’s no surprise then that the great majority of single men hope to get married. This is especially true now given the increased reporting of loneliness and social isolation among men.
But a man who desires to be married shouldn’t “just” want a wife. He must want to be a husband as well.
The key word there is “want.” It is not enough for a man to realize that it is just for him to be a husband in order to obtain a wife. He must want to be a husband. He must look at the Cross, see how Our Lord gave Himself for His bride the Church, and think “I want to imitate Him.” Meanwhile, the man who wants a wife has his attention focused entirely on the benefits that a wife will provide him, instead of what he wants to give to her.
When looking at what the Church says on marriage, there is a repeated emphasis on the Cross. St. Pope John Paul II wrote that“marriage sets the couple on a path where they will encounter the cross.” Pope Leo XIII specifies that a husband and wife must “give one another an unfailing and unselfish help.”
Continued below.
catholicexchange.com
Having a wife is tremendous. She provides encouragement and emotional support. She turns a house into a home. She is a companion to share your interests and struggles with, and she’s a key part to starting your own family. It’s no surprise then that the great majority of single men hope to get married. This is especially true now given the increased reporting of loneliness and social isolation among men.
But a man who desires to be married shouldn’t “just” want a wife. He must want to be a husband as well.
The key word there is “want.” It is not enough for a man to realize that it is just for him to be a husband in order to obtain a wife. He must want to be a husband. He must look at the Cross, see how Our Lord gave Himself for His bride the Church, and think “I want to imitate Him.” Meanwhile, the man who wants a wife has his attention focused entirely on the benefits that a wife will provide him, instead of what he wants to give to her.
When looking at what the Church says on marriage, there is a repeated emphasis on the Cross. St. Pope John Paul II wrote that“marriage sets the couple on a path where they will encounter the cross.” Pope Leo XIII specifies that a husband and wife must “give one another an unfailing and unselfish help.”
Continued below.
Look for Men Who Want to Be Husbands - Catholic Exchange
A man who wants a wife is focused on what he will receive; a man who wants to be a husband is focused on what he will give.
catholicexchange.com
