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Temple garments (underwear) aren't magic. They are considered sacred, Onlly worthy Mormons are allowed to enter their temples and wear them for the rest of their lives. The non-worthy will never receive godhood and marriage/family ties will end at death. They will not go to the Celestial Kingdom with the heavenly father.
 
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What stats? I already showed you that teen pregnancy rates in the 1940’s were double what they are now. Was the US less Christian then?
Yes and this is a false basis for why teen pregnancies have dropped. If this is about a better society morally then we have to look at the nature of why teens or anyone may engage in sex in the first place or not.

The stats may mask the true nature of the drop in pregnancies in society. It is because of contraception and abortion and not because they have become more moral. This hides the reality that though secular society may have a drop in teen pregnancies at the same time they have increased in sexual immorality and murdering innocents to acvhieve such stats.

I was responding to the stat that shows the Southeast is poor compared to other areas and therefore this shows Christianity has failed. I pointed out that the Southeast was once the wealthiest region due to having better industries such as coal and other industries. They were world famous for their fried chicken which brought people from all over the US to the area which enriched them.

The stats show there has been an increase in non Christian belief since then. So if we are going to use economics as the measure for Christian success then we would have to say that the wealth generatedin the past was also due to Christianity.

Which shows the illogical way stats are being used by the OP. I disagree that we can measure Christianity by these kinds of stats whether positive or negative for Christianity or secular society.
You’re just wrong. It’s been widely reported that sexual activity has been on the decline for years:

Then why has there been an increase in abortions and contraception since the mid 2th century ? Why was there a spike in sex after the sexual revolution which allowed sex to be seperated from marriage and gave people freedom to have sex whenever and with whoever ?

Why has there been an increase in porn being a norm in the market place and online and pedophelia. ? The US is regarded as the biggest consumer of porn, pedophelia and sex trafficking.

The Chrtistian moral is that sex is contained within marriage. The sexual revolution and the advent of the Pill radically changed society and allowed for the freedom of sex outside marriage. This has led to the breakdown of marriage and the family which is the basis for a strong society.

Any decline in sexual activity for secular society is not due to some underlying reason that sex is immoral outside marriage. As your links show this is due to increased online activity and mental illness. Problems with sexual identity and anxiety about sex in the first place.

Which is another problem created by the disrespect for Gods marriage and Christian values. There has been a massive increase in online sexual immorality which enables people to get their sexual kicks in other ways which are still immaral as far as Christian values.

Humans have a natural drive for sex and will still find ways to satify this desire for themselves. Online porn has increased 10 fold. But also there are hidden factors like hookup culture being promoted for sex and pedophelia and sex trafficking which has increased. The US is the biggest consumer of porn and pedophelia.
 
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Just a post in general on this topic. The topic of morality as defined by Scripture. The argument being that it is better to follow those Scriptural guidelines and not worldly standards even if the worldly standards seem to improve the overall human condition. The example used was avoiding conception through spiritual practice of chastity vs birth control.

I would like to point out that there is another theme in Scripture which I believe points us in a better direction. The one I believe we should follow. The path of kindness.


First, there is the claim of ultimate harm. Again and again that has proven false. The idea that somehow, someway the person who did not follow that Scriptural rule will end up being harmed or harming others. That is false. And has been demonstrated over and over. Women who use birth control have not endured or caused any level of harm greater than those who hold to chastity. By every measure.
Actually I think this is conflating the causes and outcomes and misrepresenting the true nature of what is happening.

First the idea that somehow women taking the pill or having abortions as a form of contraception generally have not endured harm or have caused harm for society is not necessarily true.

One of the side effects of the age of contraception and the secular idea that career and individualism comes first before having kids and a family is there has been a drop in replacement rate of humans. Even without Christianity this is a big problem that potentially will ultimately threateb the human species according to evolution theory.

People talk about the harm being done to animals due to numbers declining from human activity. Yet here is an example of humans doing the same thing to themselves. Which seems crazy. Almost as though humans are consciously destroying themselves due to their ideological beliefs and not natural forces.

Add to this the breakdown in relationships generally, sex and gender identity confusion, fatherless kids, single mothers and all the problems associated including mental illness. It seems there is plenty of harm going on. Harm is a subjective determination. What some see as harm others see as ok and visa versa. Secular ideology dismisses all this as necessary to uphold individual rights over all else.

The point about the Christian worldviewis is a belief about how the world is ordered and who we are. But any secular ideology is just the same and subjective. So all these stats being cited as bad, good and causing harm or not are subjective.

I think fundementally this is a spiritual battle for Christians. Ultimately they see salvation and all the good things we are talking about in Gods Kingdom. By the spirit of Christ and not the flesh or this world. Even requiring that we stop indulging in the pleasures of the flesh. This is a completely different way to see what is good or harmful.

Even at times when the world look good. Because the world will change again and again and what is good will also change. But Christ is the same truth, way and life from the beginning to the end.
Second there is the claim of spiritual harm. That the soul, separate from the body, suffers from sin in the same way the body suffers from illness. Obviously, being entirely subjective, there’s no way to measure that. You just believe it happens. Or you don’t. When it comes to kindness, I believe it doesn’t.
But the idea that there is no soul or spiritual harm is also a belief. Both are subjective. Which relates to the above reply about how all the ideas about what is harm and good is a subjective belief. One worldview belief verses another. Which makes all the stats subjective as well.

I agree that there are certain wrongs and harms we can all know. Christians believe God installed this in our hearts as humans. So you don't have to be a Christian to know this. Like rape and child abuse. Murder and stealing. Funny enough most of the 10 commandments.

But there are many issues that are not so obvious. Like abortion as contraception. Or porn as a norm due to the idea of sexual freedom and liberalism.

Some say that allowing sexual freedom is good and healthy. While others say it can lead to many problems related to objectifying women, confusion and poor role models for sex and relationships. I think its pretty well acknowledged that the sexual revolution in libralising sex outside marriage has led to family and relationship breakdown and harmed children and society as well.

So yes it is subjective and I think the Christian worldview ultimately produces better outcomes when followed. As mentioned earlier the point of Christianity is that it is regarded as a truth for how we should live. Primarily that there is a God that we model this world on and obey.

But secular beliefs differ and don't think there is a God. Humans are the gods. This is still a belief.

The difference is fundementally secular worldview beliefs can never claim there is any moral truth and thus must be open to competing subjective moral beliefs. This itself is harmful because whatever stats you use now will change according to it being subjective. So it willnever find the truth or remain consistent without a fundemental anchor like God.
Third there is the claim of Divine offense. That sin, however harmless, is an offense against God. And depending on a person’s theology they believe either God is angry or God is grieved or both. Again there is no way to know until we are at the judgement seat. I do not fear God’s judgment for following the path of kindness.
I agree kindness is an important qualifyer in Christianity. Along with loving others as ourselves and even being willing to lay down our life for Christ or another.

But what is kindness and love. What is peace and happiness in this world compared to Gods kingdom. How the world sees kindness may actually in the end be harm and evil. This relates to how this is a spiritual battle between two worldview beliefs. Which is a belief and not any fact. Even facts about what is kind is subjective.
So what is that? Here, I hope is a good Scriptural illustration. Commandments 5 and 6. Do not murder and do not commit adultery. Side by side. Neither worse than the other by God’s standard. We do believe, even though we are free from the law, that the 10 Commandments still apply, Right?
Yes I mentioned them earlier. We agree on that one. But what about secular society ? They disagree. Which relates to what I am saying that this really comes down to two different worldview beliefs. Or even competing religious beliefs.

In fact things have become so relative in a postmodern world (of no truth) that even the church has split intoi denominational identities with different beliefs about truth and morality and what is harm.

But God is the same yesterday, today and tommorrow.
And each just as important as the other, Right? And, looking at Lev 20:10 and most of Deut 22 adultery invokes stoning to death. Serious business. Now, here in the New Testament, John 8 specifically, we have a woman caught in the very act of adultery, not just accused or suspected, but caught doing it. So there’s no question about her sin. And there’s no question about what should be done about it. And Jesus knows this. And Jesus never suggested ignoring the law. What does He say? Let the one with no sin throw the first stone!!! That is the principle that should dominate every single attempt to follow God’s law. That is kindness vs morality. Do not make life hard for someone just because you can point to Scripture and claim they are sinners and you’re just following God’s law when you seek to affect their life for the worse.
Christ also said your sin is forgiven and go away and sin no more. So Christ was saying you are saved so no longer indulge in adultery. In fact He says that adultery begins in the heart. Even lusing afyter another mans wife is committing adultery.

Somehow I don't think secular ideology would agree with that.
 
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I would really like to have separate discussions about each of these well stated positions. Thank you for taking the time and the thoughtfulness to lay them out. But, perhaps I can address the overarching point...God's law and God's plan. First you have to believe that there is a black and white Law (capital L meaning there's a whole body of law, not just one) that comes directly from God...
I think not just law but moreso (capital T for Truth). Which is a bit different to law and more about there being a way to know the truth as opposed to no truth of the matter. I don't think stats alone can represent this truth.

Truth is like there being something behind what is presented as truth. The commandment to not commit adultery and regulations in the law were just that. But Christ fullfilled this with the spirit of the law. The truth of our hearts state.

Like how the phartisees looked good on the outside showing everyone how good they were in meeting the law. But were corrupt on the inside in their hearts that were hardened against the spirit of the law. Which was in Christ. In fact a fruit of this was that they came to dispise Christ for representing the Truth.

I think if Christs truth was shone on the world there would be many pharisees today. And not necessarily the church but other religions and secular ideologies like identity politics.

Christ said He did not come to do away with the law. So the 10 commandments are still the law. They are a rule based version of the spirit of the law. They are really a signifier of where the heart is at. If your commiting adultery then this is the end result of the heart being corrupted.

Christs truth is the state of peoples heart.
not influenced in any way by the shaping of 'Christian' leaders, or guides, or Bible Study etc. It just IS. Then you have to believe that You understand it exactly as it should be practiced and obeyed. You know what you know because God Himself led you to know. Therefore, anyone else, especially anyone who does not believe God's Law is what you say it is, is therefore a supporter of worldliness and sinfulness. I respect your position. It is the position of many conservative Christians. Respectfully, I strongly disagree.
Actually thats the very position I am trying to avoid as I know it is useless. Because asyou say it comes down to a persons or churches or societies belief and not fact or truth.

Everyone lives like there is a moral truth. That is why people claim a truth to all these moral matters.

If there is a truth then how can there be many truths to how we should be and live.

All I know is that Christ is the truth and there will be those who profess a Christlike truth and Christ warned us about the wolves. There has to be a destinction between Christs church and the world. If the world is not clearly standing with Christ in belief which will ground their worldview. Then they are not of Christ or the truth.
 
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The biblical solution for teen pregnancy is abstinence or marriage. It doesn't matter what you think or feel. If conception wasn't by force or coercion it's fornication in God's eyes. We need to move away from interjecting human intellect on scripture. There isn't a lot of wiggle room and acceptance is the linchpin. Either you agree with the Father or You don't.

Consensual sex outside of marriage is fornication. The bible is straightforward on relationships and the blueprint is clear.

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We need to move away from interjecting human intellect on scripture.
No, that's the last thing we need to do.

Also, it's impossible to do. However you interpret scriptutre, you're injecting some form of human intellect into the equation. Sex outside of marriage may constitute fornication, but actually moving the needle on rates of fornication requires some understanding of human psychology. Too often, I've seen Christians (particularly on the more conservative end of things) proclaim what they believe to be a biblical truth while completely failing to deliver that truth in a way that resonates with people and convinces them to change.
 
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No, that's the last thing we need to do.

Also, it's impossible to do. However you interpret scriptutre, you're injecting some form of human intellect into the equation. Sex outside of marriage may constitute fornication, but actually moving the needle on rates of fornication requires some understanding of human psychology. Too often, I've seen Christians (particularly on the more conservative end of things) proclaim what they believe to be a biblical truth while completely failing to deliver that truth in a way that resonates with people and convinces them to change.

My perspective isn't based on politics or preferences. Sometimes the truth is uncomfortable or seems out of touch with current practices but that doesn't minimize its correctness or authority in respect to believers. As someone who's done the same for decades and raised a child following suit I think I'm qualified to debunk the psychology angle. I made the decision before my reconciliation with Christ.

Everything you say as a parent doesn't have to resonate no more than the same is required with other authority figures. That's why there's so much confusion. Leaders don't negotiate everything and there's a hierarchy in the home.

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I think not just law but moreso (capital T for Truth). Which is a bit different to law and more about there being a way to know the truth as opposed to no truth of the matter. I don't think stats alone can represent this truth.

Truth is like there being something behind what is presented as truth. The commandment to not commit adultery and regulations in the law were just that. But Christ fullfilled this with the spirit of the law. The truth of our hearts state.

Like how the phartisees looked good on the outside showing everyone how good they were in meeting the law. But were corrupt on the inside in their hearts that were hardened against the spirit of the law. Which was in Christ. In fact a fruit of this was that they came to dispise Christ for representing the Truth.

I think if Christs truth was shone on the world there would be many pharisees today. And not necessarily the church but other religions and secular ideologies like identity politics.

Christ said He did not come to do away with the law. So the 10 commandments are still the law. They are a rule based version of the spirit of the law. They are really a signifier of where the heart is at. If your commiting adultery then this is the end result of the heart being corrupted.

Christs truth is the state of peoples heart.

Actually thats the very position I am trying to avoid as I know it is useless. Because asyou say it comes down to a persons or churches or societies belief and not fact or truth.

Everyone lives like there is a moral truth. That is why people claim a truth to all these moral matters.

If there is a truth then how can there be many truths to how we should be and live.

All I know is that Christ is the truth and there will be those who profess a Christlike truth and Christ warned us about the wolves. There has to be a destinction between Christs church and the world. If the world is not clearly standing with Christ in belief which will ground their worldview. Then they are not of Christ or the truth.
This is very well stated. And it so clearly illustrates where we disagree. A Christlike truth…is the state of people’s heart. Yes it is. I have such a state that I practice. Kindness. That is as Christlike as any other path of discipleship. Even moreso, I believe. And you make exactly the point that I wish to make when you point to the Pharisees. Who made the law easy on the outside for those whose hearts were cruel. Ask yourself why your primary identification of ‘sin’ tags to teenage pregnancy, abortion, non-standard families, sex. Why are those the first things that come to mind. Would you do those sins? No. Would you even be able to do some of them? It’s very very easy for you to oppose them. That is the very definition of a Pharisee. My belief, is that a heart-led faith will seek to do the hard things. Not the easy things. It will oppose poverty loudly, instead of ignoring it. It will loudly call for immigrant sanctuary instead of cheap deference to ‘legality’. Those Christians whose holiness is defined by their vigorous condemnation of sins that cost them nothing to oppose are, in my opinion, failures. I do think the 'stats' show it. But, as you rightly point out, the stats don't get to the 'heart' of the issues. And, I agree, they are matters of the heart. Genuine compassion vs a cheap path to holiness.
 
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My perspective isn't based on politics or preferences. Sometimes the truth is uncomfortable or seems out of touch with current practices but that doesn't minimize its correctness or authority in respect to believers. As someone who's done the same for decades and raised a child following suit I think I'm qualified to debunk the psychology angle. I made the decision before my reconciliation with Christ.

Everything you say as a parent doesn't have to resonate no more than the same is required with other authority figures. That's why there's so much confusion. Leaders don't negotiate everything and there's a hierarchy in the home.

~bella
“There is a hierarchy in the home” True. As the T-shirt says, “I’m the mother, that’s why”. So I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know, so please forgive me, but here it is…that hierarchy takes many forms. One hears that the woman in the home must be complementarian. I don’t agree. And you and I can point to dozens of well run families where the wife is not complementary. (Yet perhaps it is Biblical I Peter 3:1. So does that make a complementarian husband wrong even though the marriage is just as healthy? Or an intentionally shared role? Or even, gasp, one of those non-standard marriages?). I do not object to families who choose to live “Biblically” as they understand it. As long as it is not a cover for abuse. But I do not believe it is a dividing line where any believer, however devout, gains the right to say a given healthy marriage is still “sin” or “fornication”. No more than a secular person has every right to accurately say that these definitions of marriage are patriarchal and demeaning.
 
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“There is a hierarchy in the home” True. As the T-shirt says, “I’m the mother, that’s why”. So I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know, so please forgive me, but here it is…that hierarchy takes many forms. One hears that the woman in the home must be complementarian. I don’t agree. And you and I can point to dozens of well run families where the wife is not complementary. (Yet perhaps it is Biblical I Peter 3:1. So does that make a complementarian husband wrong even though the marriage is just as healthy? Or an intentionally shared role? Or even, gasp, one of those non-standard marriages?). I do not object to families who choose to live “Biblically” as they understand it. As long as it is not a cover for abuse. But I do not believe it is a dividing line where any believer, however devout, gains the right to say a given healthy marriage is still “sin” or “fornication”. No more than a secular person has every right to accurately say that these definitions of marriage are patriarchal and demeaning.

We weren't addressing marriage in that statement. The context was teen pregnancy and the application was correct. In respect to the other, I think the labels are disingenuous and largely unbiblical and the source of much strife and division. I'm not egalitarian, complementarian or patriarchal either. I'm a follower of Christ and that's the lone identity I claim.

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We weren't addressing marriage in that statement. The context was teen pregnancy and the application was correct. In respect to the other, I think the labels are disingenuous and largely unbiblical and the source of much strife and division. I'm not egalitarian, complementarian or patriarchal either. I'm a follower of Christ and that's the lone identity I claim.

~bella
I respect your claim of identity as a follower of Christ. I also claim that I am a follower of Christ. In our common identity we have different standards. I acknowledge I can be wrong and have at times realized I was wrong. Not withstanding, I still firmly believe that it is cruel and wrong to label underage pregnancies as 'fornication' or 'sin'. I don't believe one has to hide behind the Bible to acknowledge that 'teen pregnancies' are mostly the result of poor education and bad misinformation and denial or limitation of access to birth control. The culture which fosters those conditions has no business subsequently labeling its victims as 'fornicators' or 'sinners'.
 
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Not withstanding, I still firmly believe that it is cruel and wrong to label underage pregnancies as 'fornication' or 'sin'. I don't believe one has to hide behind the Bible to acknowledge that 'teen pregnancies' are mostly the result of poor education and bad misinformation and denial or limitation of access to birth control. The culture which fosters those conditions has no business subsequently labeling its victims as 'fornicators' or 'sinners'.

God calls it fornication and made no distinctions concerning age. People were exploited then and now and crossed lines they shouldn't. Divine law is absolute and isn't predicated on emotions or agreement. It doesn't matter if we feel otherwise. We're the created not the Creator and recognizing our littleness in respect to the other should beget a different response.

As for birth control, parental consent wasn't required and many organizations offered resources for free or on a sliding basis. Teenagers have sex because they want to. Blaming culture doesn't change the fact they want to do it. And pregnancy is acceptable in some families more than others. Some girls can't bring a baby home. They know how to avoid it or address the situation if it happens. That's the line not the culture.

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Sin is when any age puts their self-serving will ahead of the will of God. The innocence of childhood does not refer to an inability for a child to sin, for they all do but just don’t know it yet. It refers to a period when someone else has not taken advantage of them yet. This most often starts the ball rolling.
 
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God calls it fornication and made no distinctions concerning age. People were exploited then and now and crossed lines they shouldn't. Divine law is absolute and isn't predicated on emotions or agreement. It doesn't matter if we feel otherwise. We're the created not the Creator and recognizing our littleness in respect to the other should beget a different response.

As for birth control, parental consent wasn't required and many organizations offered resources for free or on a sliding basis. Teenagers have sex because they want to. Blaming culture doesn't change the fact they want to do it. And pregnancy is acceptable in some families more than others. Some girls can't bring a baby home. They know how to avoid it or address the situation if it happens. That's the line not the culture.

~bella
Yes, Jesus includes fornication (consensual sex outside of marriage) as coming from the heart. And I agree that unprepared sex between underage teens, with or without resulting pregnancy is usually emotionally harmful in the end. Like much of modern America, too much, too soon. That still doesn’t excuse Christians and prudes for the consequences of suppressing knowledge and restricting availability to birth control. Such actions are akin to “the evil that comes from within the heart”. What happens to the teenage girl, growing up in a ‘Bible believing’ church who becomes pregnant? The shame. The snide remarks. The smirks and smears behind her back. The people who relish her failings because it helps them look good. I don’t have much patience for it. Chastity is not a one size fits all. And its track record for unwanted pregnancies make the other pathways much more worthy.
 
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Yes, Jesus includes fornication (consensual sex outside of marriage) as coming from the heart.

You've taken multiple issues and cobbled them together into a misshapen hodgepodge to argue a point you couldn't refute. One minute it isn't fornication the next it's wrong to apply the term to teens then you were blaming society now you're onto the bible belt.

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This is very well stated. And it so clearly illustrates where we disagree. A Christlike truth…is the state of people’s heart. Yes it is. I have such a state that I practice. Kindness. That is as Christlike as any other path of discipleship. Even moreso, I believe. And you make exactly the point that I wish to make when you point to the Pharisees. Who made the law easy on the outside for those whose hearts were cruel. Ask yourself why your primary identification of ‘sin’ tags to teenage pregnancy, abortion, non-standard families, sex. Why are those the first things that come to mind. Would you do those sins? No. Would you even be able to do some of them? It’s very very easy for you to oppose them. That is the very definition of a Pharisee. My belief, is that a heart-led faith will seek to do the hard things. Not the easy things. It will oppose poverty loudly, instead of ignoring it. It will loudly call for immigrant sanctuary instead of cheap deference to ‘legality’. Those Christians whose holiness is defined by their vigorous condemnation of sins that cost them nothing to oppose are, in my opinion, failures. I do think the 'stats' show it. But, as you rightly point out, the stats don't get to the 'heart' of the issues. And, I agree, they are matters of the heart. Genuine compassion vs a cheap path to holiness.
The problem is the determination of what is kindness is subjective, Satan is an expert at making the world look good and kind while hiding the truth.

I gavethe example of how lower teen pregnancies for secular society masks and promotes sexual immorality and the murder of innocents with abortion as a contraceptive method.

I also noticed you mention "non-standard families". Which shows the divide between secular ideology and Christians about what is Gods marriage and family. If you mean other forms of family outside of Gods institution are just as good then this is false.

This is actually promoting secular ideas rather than Gods. The breakdown of Gods marriage and family has cause untold harm and is unkind and harmful to many including children. In fact even secular measures on the stats show this. Which shows that secular ideology does not really care about being kind but rather pushing their ideology.

The idea of what is kind according to the world is different to Gods. But its also different politically. For example some may think the welcome mat at the border is kind. Yet we know that this idea leads to people suffering due to resources being taken from locals to pay for illegals and the abuse of the system.

Or take abortion. Secular ideology claims its kind to give women the right to murder their baby. Yet they are advocating murder of innocents which is the ultiumate unkind wrong according the bible.

It seems this is more about political ideology than Godly living according to Gods word. Open borders, freedom to abort, open families ect are secular ideas and not Christian.

So what is kind and good is subjective and may be covering up much harm and unkindness in the long run. I suspect all this defense of secular ideology is more about politics than Christianity.

Ultimately we know secular ideology and the world is not for God. Not for Christs truth and the world will reject God as in the days of Noah. They try to mimick God with their own version of good and kindness. Satan is the great deciever and he is not going to make things look bad but good and fool many. If the world is made to be as good or better than Gods kingdom then we are in trouble.
 
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You've taken multiple issues and cobbled them together into a misshapen hodgepodge to argue a point you couldn't refute. One minute it isn't fornication the next it's wrong to apply the term to teens then you were blaming society now you're onto the bible belt.

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Yes, I have. Call it a hodgepodge if you like. I call it unblinkered. The eagerness to blame the victims is so maddening. So I don't take offense at your dismissal. And I worry that at times I'm too shrill. But I make no apology for caring for the person more than the terms...no matter how much the cruelty is hidden behind the Bible.
 
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Ultimately we know secular ideology and the world is not for God. Not for Christs truth and the world will reject God as in the days of Noah. They try to mimick God with their own version of good and kindness. Satan is the great deciever and he is not going to make things look bad but good and fool many. If the world is made to be as good or better than Gods kingdom then we are in trouble.
Again, very well stated. I hope you are aware that I do respect your faith though I strongly disagree with where it's lead you. You speak of Satan, "For we are not contending against flesh and blood" Eph 6:12. It seems clear to me that those very "spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places" are the ones which have dragged others like you into the darkness where cruelty is a necessity in order to follow God's laws. Where any act of kindness that doesn't fit the Biblical definitions of godly behavior is therefore false and evil. Where sexual sin is top of mind and all the greater harms are minimized. Where empathy and compassion are relegated to foolish emotion to be set aside for Godly actions and Godly standards. I tell you, in that fashion, the devil has succeeded far beyond anything you imagine.
 
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